I was with my ex (Nick) for 4 years, we share a 2yo son, but we broke up 7 months ago because i couldnt trust him, because of cheating and lies. I'm currently seeing another guy (Adam) and im in early pregnancy with Adam's child. I dunno if its just nerves about being pregnant again or moodswings or what... I feel loopy cos I care about Adam and i dont wanna hurt him but i can help but feel like Adam was just meant to be a rebound... Lately because of the holidays i have seen more of Nick because of our son and i cant help but wander that if i have this baby will i regret messing up my chances of ever getting back with Nick or what... I know that the grass definitly isnt greener on the other side, but i still love Nick, Are these emotions normal? Am i doing the wrong thing? How can i overcome these feelings for Nick? I dont wanna hurt Adam or my son who is attached to both males... and Adam treats me great... I dont think i could ever succeed in a relationship with nick but i love him.
2007-01-02 11:03:03 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well if you go back to Nick you'll never know if he is cheating on you. But now that your with Adam you don't get the same feelings that you had or have with Adam. And also the pregnancy is probably causing those feeling for Nick. Still if you have these feeling for Nick after the pregnancy then i would just go with what your heart is telling you.
I hope this helps
GOOD LUCK!
2007-01-02 13:53:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are definitely in between a rock and a hard place.
it is probably the emotions of a past love that you might not be quite over, the holiday, makes you miss the things that you once had.
don't give up on your relationship with Adam, you believe that things are going to be better with him. Your son doesn' t have to choose wether he likes his dad or Adam better.
yeah, it does seem like you moved too quickly into a relationship with him, but the past is the past, and that does not mean that you and Nick can't still be Friends, you have a child together. which makes you bound for life.try to keep things friendly, and calm for everyone sake.
Maybe you should tell Adam what you are feeling, let him know that it don't mean that you don't love him, but that you are a little unsure of your feelings towards Nick.
He might be more understanding than you think.
good luck, i wish you well, and please don't give up on Adam, because he is going to be the father of your baby, don't break up your family, over feelings, that I am sure will pass.
2007-01-02 19:16:15 · answer #2 · answered by lil' angel 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you cant trust a guy than you cant TRULY love him and would you still be able to put up with his lies and not knowing if your the ONLY girl in nicks life, or your sons the only child he has? maybe its only lust... you wont regret having the baby because you have a nice guy who doesnt cheat on you or lie and your creating life with him. the only way you can overcome the feelings for nick is by focusing on adam and the child you have inside you. try not to think of adam as just a rebound... give him a chance.
2007-01-02 19:11:11 · answer #3 · answered by Night Train 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it's normal to have lingering feelings for an ex, especially from a long-term relationship, but trying using your head, girlfriend. You know it will never work out with Nick - he will continue to cheat and lie, as he has done before.
Adam is good for you, and you care about him. Perhaps you're scared about committing to Adam because you're afraid you will mess things up, that he's too good for you, that you don't deserve to be happy, that your happiness won't be the passionate fairy tale you imagined. Maybe you're afraid that you're not strong enough to stay faithful. Sometimes it's easier to go back to something broken and toxic, but familiar.
Take a deep long look at what you really want, and what is really worrying you. And then be brave. Take a chance on what is healthy and happy, and keep turning away from what you know to be unhealthy and toxic.
2007-01-02 19:15:52 · answer #4 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You will always have something for Nick, because he is the father of your son. At the holidays we always want to have our perfect little family all together. This is very normal. It sounds like you are getting another chance at happiness with Adam. Don't put so much pressure on yourself, give yourself time and take care of yourself. I don't think you should make any major life decisions right now. Good luck to you and to your babies.
2007-01-02 19:10:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You could not trust Nick but you still love him, he is the father of your son and sorry to say you will always love him, now you have Adam and have a new life growing inside of you. I would say to focus on this new life and take care of yourself and your son. Men will come and go but not your children.
2007-01-02 19:14:56 · answer #6 · answered by lara 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You have just stated you couldn't have a good relationship with Nick. So, why do you have to be confused about him? I hope you're not gonna hurt Adam because of your selfish thinking.
2007-01-02 19:06:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
IT IS NORMAL TO FEEL LIKE THAT,IT'S ALL EMOTIONS.BUT I DO KNOW THAT HE IS YOUR EX FOR A REASON.IF YOU HAVE A GREAT GUY WITH YOU AND YOU WANT TO BE WITH HIM THEN STAY WITH HIM.IF YOU JUST LIKE THE WAY ADAM TREATS YOU BUT YOU DONT LOVE HIM THEN LEAVE HIM,B/C THERE IS ANOTHER WOMEN OUT THERE THAT WILL TAKE ADAM HANDS DOWN.MEN NEVER CHANGE,AS FAR AS CHEATERS GO.....
2007-01-02 19:17:01 · answer #8 · answered by dce1dg 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
not to sound mean, but use a condom. the second thing is that it is never wrong to still feel for your ex, that is totally normal, but think about having to deal with your ex, dealing with all the cheating and lies, do you want to deal with that again? now be happy you have a baby daddy that wants to be the daddy and you have another man that cares for your child too.
2007-01-02 19:07:28 · answer #9 · answered by Dory Ian 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I hate to say this, but you have messed things up pretty good. You have a kid with one guy, you're barily over him and now you are knocked up by someone completely different? Where in the hell are your morals?? And, ummm....Ever heard of BIRTH CONTROL?? (I know. It was a faulty rubber, right?) I hope you are supporting yourself and not relying on the taxpayers to do it for you. Because I am single, LOVE CHILDREN, but can not afford one on my own, and have too much dignity to let the county support me. So in all this, who GIVES A CRAP about how you feel about who?? WHO IS SUPPORTING YOUR FAMILY!! Close your legs.
2007-01-02 19:10:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋