I was kinda seeing this guy. We hung out at my apartment and watched movies. We had sex twice and then i put a stop to it until we were in a relationship. He told me that hes not ready and doesnt have time for a girlfriend and I told him i wasnt going to play the role of fuckfriend and he said thats not what I was. He said he wasnt ready to give me the answer I wanted today. Im not sure if that means one day he would be ready to have a relationship or not. I didnt really care. He stopped calling and he wont return my phone calls. I really like this guy but hes making it very difficult.
2007-01-02 10:56:19 · 52 answers · asked by blondebombshell96 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why do men sleep with a women and never call them again?
for the same reason dogs chase cars and never catch them...they just like to play!!!
sounds like he was more up front about what he wanted in the "friendship" then you were
move on!!!
2007-01-02 11:11:14 · answer #1 · answered by mother of teenagers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, first of all you put yoursrlf into this situation. If you wanted a commited relationship you should've made that clear before you slept with him. You made it a sexual relationship without commitment, or as you put it, his "fuckfriend", when you agreed to have sex.
You can't be angry with him. If anything he should be angry with you. Because it sounds to me you gave it up and then wanted to use it as leverage to get what you wanted. You are playing head games honey.
At least when you told him you wanted a relationship he was honest with you about it not being the right time. He could have led you on just to keep sleeping with you. Move on. If you're still free when he's ready for commitment take up where you left off, if by then you've found someone ready for what you want, his loss.
For now i'd chalk it up as a loss.
Good luck
2007-01-02 11:06:11 · answer #2 · answered by jmh95376 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure why someone on here said "he sounds like a dog." It sounds like you both enjoyed sex, then after the fact, you decided you wanted a relationship with him. He was honest and told you he is not ready for that, so there is your answer.
If you wanted a commitment from him prior to having sex with him, you should have asked.
It's hard to say if he will want a relationship with you in the future. If you are still interested, continue to see him casually, without the sex, and date others if you want. Don't keep calling him if he is ignoring you. That will only make him think you are unstable. If he calls you, don't make any demands to discuss the status of your relationship. Hang out with him and if he tries anything, tell him you do not want to get involved that way again until he is ready for more.
2007-01-02 11:01:58 · answer #3 · answered by schweetums 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you described is common. If you put out without being in a relationship, he's going to take the bait then lose interest. Next time, wait until you are in a relationship before you have ex with a guy. The best think you can do is let a guy get emotionally attracted to you before sleeping with him.
2007-01-02 11:00:15 · answer #4 · answered by tannedknight45 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately you made a bad move by sleeping with this guy once. I mean, it's really cool that you drew the line, but that was too late. Your best bet now, is to not like this guy anymore because obviously he's done with you. Next time wait until there's a relationship there before you give the fella what he wants know what I mean?
2007-01-02 11:01:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You gave away something that should be priceless! He got what he wanted. Why should he bother to call again? There's plenty more like you ready to give it away. It's easy for a man to just keep moving on to the next one, since there's so many loose women available. Why should he even want a relationship with one who is so easy?
If you are calling a live-in situation a relationship, then it doesn't take much according to your criteria to have one. It make me sad to see people throwing their life away, as you appear to be doing.
2007-01-02 11:08:28 · answer #6 · answered by delmaanna67 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to be up front about what it is you want before you have sex with someone, otherwise this will happen to you every time. Don't feel too bad baby, but I doubt if you will hear from this guy again. As the saying goes
"Why buy the cow, when you're already
getting the milk for free!!!"
2007-01-02 11:02:42 · answer #7 · answered by laedeb 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't agree with these other answers. I don't think he used you. Does not sound like he lied to you, either. Did he hold a gun to your head or promise you a lifelong committment to get you into bed? No. So how exactly did he use you? Sounds more to me like you were trying to manipulate him into a relationship by jumping into the sack with him. So I hope this is a good lesson for you. If you want a relationship, you save the sex until you are actually in one. In this case, you did everything backwards and it back fired.
2007-01-02 11:03:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
why do you like him? he sounds like an a**. Next time determine what you both want out of the relationship before you sleep together. If he can't give you an answer I'd say that's answer enough. Anyone who really wants a relationship with you does not have to sit around and think about it. dump him.
2007-01-02 10:58:52 · answer #9 · answered by TM 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All they want is a POA-and you being so naive and easy feel for it-so don't expect anyone on hear to feel sorry for you-I'm sure before hand you knew this would be a booty call and you know what a booty call is; the repercussions and all-and you gave into temptation and when it's about a booty call-you know there can't be strings attached, because it's not what anyone looks for in a one night stand!
2007-01-02 11:15:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen I am a guy this is what guys do. Sounds like to me he just worked a little harder for the sex and your restricting him. If he really is worth the squeeze girl give him what he wants at least one time but tell him not to overdo it. Be very clear about that.
Show that you are not a welcome mat that says "**** In Here" Don't stress him out too much Belive me things may end up being a little better for the 2 of you in the end.
2007-01-02 11:08:12 · answer #11 · answered by Mo H 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋