It sounds like this new guy is using you or just protecting himself he is probably thinking your going back to the ex so why not treat you like crap and that way it will hurt less when you leave him not realizing that you do care about the new guy tell the new guy to either start trusting you for the way he is treating you is wanting you to leave and move on tell him to trust you already or else your gone
2007-01-02 10:54:04
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answered by Angel Virgo 3
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It's not necessarily clear whether he's into you but afraid or just playing. Problem is, it takes time to know the intentions of a person with whom we may become close. And it seems that you feel a lot of pressure to get the decision made. "Hurry" and "pick a mate" don't go in the same sentence very well. The new guy is the only one on the planet who knows what he has in mind.
A couple of comments. Some of the things that you've got going are good omens. For one thing, depending on a guy who is in jail is shaky because the best predictor of future behavior is past behavior. Get ready to be without a partner on a regular basis if you choose the guy who's in the jug.
Second, it's not a good sign when a guy (any guy) you might get serious with tells you you are not to call him and he doesn't want to see you. Seems to me there is a pretty good chance you are leaning on the wind with these guys. You can do better and deserve better.
2007-01-02 11:53:45
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answered by DelK 7
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If he doesn't believe you that your just with him. Then yes I would have to say that he is cheating on you and that he is jus using you for sex. Because a man should respect and understand woman and if he doesn't the relationship will not work. No matter how long you have been together, cause it does take time to get to know someone and if the trust is not there then why bother. there has to be 2 in a relationship not 1.
2007-01-02 10:59:35
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answered by Larry 1
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ooooh thats a biggy. Ask the new guy what he wants does he want a serious reletionship or just a fling if a fling then find someone else because you said you don't love the other guy If the new guy says he wants something serious break up with your old boyfriend. You don't love him so no big loss. The other guy thinks your going to go back to your other boyfriend so he doesn't want to get attached and get his feelings hurt. I don't think he believes you when you say your going to stick with him because alot of girls out there are liars about that stuff so he doesn't want to take a chance.
2007-01-02 10:54:53
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answered by Baby Bunni 2
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I don't think that the new guy is using you. He probably just doesn't want to get too close to you because he fears that you will go back to your old boyfriend. I think that if you tell the new guy that you are through with your old boyfriend he'll get more close to you. As for the guy in jail, get rid of him. That can't be a good thing.
2007-01-02 11:03:49
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answered by Anonymous
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hmm well I mean I can understand that ur not in love with ur "boyfriend' cuz he has been in jail and what good does that do? Nothing.And this new guy.Seems like he is just somewhat useing you for whenever it is good for HIM and it should never be that way.And if your starting a relationship with this new guy be careful and let him know what you think and tell him that your not going to play his games.And when he saids that he does not want to see you that day or whatever.Don't let it upset you.All you do is tell him the same thing when he wants to see you. might be hard to say that. but it will make him relize that your a person not a toy.
2007-01-02 10:59:44
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answered by Amanda Y 1
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If you don't love the guy in jail then break that relationship off. If you want that relationship to work out, then stop seeing the new guy. The new guy may not want to let his guard down because you're probably going to ditch him to go back to jailbird anyway. Did you think about maybe YOU'VE been using HIM because you're lonely? Make a choice, kiddo!
2007-01-02 11:02:16
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answered by Silhouette 2
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That's a tough situation but there is one way to find out -
don't have sex with your new boyfriend. Continue to see him and hang out with him but don't continue having sex with him until you've worked out how he feels about you - this should be pretty easy to figure out once the sex is taken away. If he continues to see you and gives you the same amount of attention he always did then you could probably accept that he simply feels threatened by the notion you may return to your old boyfriend. He might even be scared of him?
2007-01-02 11:00:11
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answered by Kble 4
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I don't know if you'll really like this anwser but........DUMP THEM BOTH!!!!...the new guy is definatly using you because no guy who likes a girl would tell her not to call and see him..and then call her back so he can just pick you up. And your bf...well he's been in jail for starters, and also you don't even love him...your in a mess right now but honestly hun you can do soo much better soo DUMP THEM BOTH!!! and find someone better...you deserve it:P
2007-01-02 10:56:46
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answered by Cheergirl<3 2
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He is only using you for sex if you let him! If you do not love your past boyfriend do not get back with him. I can understand your present boyfriend how he could feel a bit insecure. You just need to talk things out and see what happens.
2007-01-02 10:55:06
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answered by homesweethomediana@sbcglobal.net 3
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