hello, my name is justin. Me and my girlfriend are expecting a baby in 5 months. I have no clue on what to do..none whatsoever. I have NEVER had a father due to him being a herion atticd(i have never done drugs besides trying pot 3 times, wont ever do it again) Im 21..and stuck clueless now. I love my girlfriend and want to be by her side the whole way through,,but i dont want to mess up with anything along the way and when my son or daughter is born. Ive never had a dad rolemodel...i have no lcue on how to be a good dad. Everytime someone has ofered me to hold her baby..i refuse because he/she is soo fragile i feel like i may drop him.her or just hurt him/her in some way. I dont have a career yet even...my girlfriend is part of the council of the miwok tribe wich owns thundervalley casino and she will be getting betwen 32,000 and 52,000 dollars a month from the casion for the rest of her life...so money isnt an issue in 1 1/2 years. But being a great dad is....and helping my girlfrien
2007-01-02 10:48:16 · 11 answers · asked by Justin F 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
each person tries to be a great parent and we fail at times although we try so very hard; I guess the key is to always be there no matter what ; no matter what changes in your life nor who ; don't put them on the back burner for love, money, prestige , time with your friends; give them a good solid foundation of love and trust; to teach from right from wrong; to teach feelings of being good to others on the planet ; to respect life no matter whose; to love animals ; to help others ; to do unto others and you will have done to you; to have an open ear always; to learn how to listen as well as speak; to give hugs ; to teach and learn as well; to laugh laugh laugh; to establish traditions something for them to fall back on ; to believe in something greater than themselves; self respect and self love , pride and dignity in a job well done ; no matter what; to smile ; to let them see you show love as well as receive love; to know that your love is unconditionally and you won't walk out no matter how rough the waters may get - you are there from the beginning to the end!
2007-01-02 11:01:21 · answer #1 · answered by sml 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry. You sound like your head and heart are already in the right places. Everything else will come to you after the baby is born. Babies are fragile, but you won't break them. Next time someone offers one to you to hold, ask them to show you how and try to get comfortable with it. First time parenting is a guessing game. You are going to do things wrong and you are also going to amaze yourself at the things you do right. Relax, and enjoy this time. I promis that everything will become second nature to you after about a week of the baby being home. You will feel like a pro. Good luck to you and your new family. And as far as the money goes, your girlfriend is obviously financially well of. So why not try to go to school and find out what you're interested in and pursue that.
2007-01-02 18:53:39 · answer #2 · answered by Good Gushy 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Here are some things that you can do:
1.) So you don't have to buy so many clothes, have a baby shower, A LARGE ONE! With family and friends.
2.) If your girlfriend doesn't mind it, have an at-home labor. Not alot of money, but alot of pain. If she goes through labor in the bath tub and the baby comes out in the water, don;t be scared. Babies in the mother's womb are used to being in water and won't breath until they are out of the water.
3.) Get a better job. Earn money, as fast as possible.
4.) Take your girlfriend out once in a while, it'll make her happy.
5.) Buy things for the baby instead of you.
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2007-01-02 19:09:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of hospitals and community organizations offer parenting classes. Start there. Take all that you can.
Once you feel confident with your child, you'll bond with him or her better, which will only help to improve your relationship.
Just remember:
1. Love him/her more than your self.
2. Be a loving parent, not a friend.
Being a good parent is actually easy if you are truly ready to be a parent. There are also many on line parenting advice sites and books for those situational questions. See what you are having difficulty with then research solutions. Joining a new parents group is also very helpful.
And remember, when they are born their needs are simple, and they will train you as they grow.
You'll be fine.
2007-01-02 18:50:25 · answer #4 · answered by apbanpos 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Congratulations Justin. You need to prepare now to be one of the two most important people in the life of a little child. The very best thing you can do is 1)respect the childs mother. 2)respect the childs mother.....etc. You'll be just fine with the help from nurses and health care people. Just love your child by loving his/her mother and showing it with respect and dignity. Be happy and find joy where your heart is.
2007-01-02 18:55:31 · answer #5 · answered by folklore 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am a Dad......and all of your feelings are quite natural. First of all you need to try and hold as many babies as you can.....but guess what......nothing can describe the feeling of holding your own flesh and blood. Spend as much time as you can with them when they are little because they will not stay that way long. Love them with one hand and discipline with the other. So much to tell you in a short period, give your girlfriend as much support as possible they will be a little emotional during the pregnancy....try to be as much a part of the pregnancy as you can ......go to classes with her and Dr. visits.
2007-01-02 18:54:15 · answer #6 · answered by Monte T 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, there's a lot of classes to give you some incite as to what you can expect. I never had "role" model parents, but, I had my instincts. I believe I was a wonderful mother. I think if you could ask either one of my daughter's they would attest to this. It all begins with LOVE. This child is a part of you, and, belongs to you. When you see him, or her, I'm sure your instincts will take over, just like mine did. Congratulations, and, good luck hon. !!!! ~~~~~
2007-01-02 18:54:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well your probably going to get a lot of answers so I am going to give you a short and simple one. Stay with her, it doesn't matter if you have had a dad as a romodel, it will come naturally. Be the best you can to your new daughter and that will be a great dad. Congrats on your expecting new girl
2007-01-02 18:53:42 · answer #8 · answered by Nicole 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Everything will be fine. Just pray that you'll survive the teen years.
2007-01-02 19:18:59 · answer #9 · answered by Duckie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
best thing to do is look at your parents.
That will give you an idea of what you want to do and what you don't want to do.
Then seek the counsel of good friends.
Then look at local community groups that have course to help you.
2007-01-02 18:57:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋