I am 31 years old and overweight. I am currently trying to lose weight. I am intelligent and beautiful, despite the weight. Where can I go to meet men who are not shallow and superficial?
Please, only serious and sensitive replies. Thank You!
2007-01-02 10:44:56 · 12 answers · asked by dolphindreamer7 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Fat guys will go out with you. Just ask one.
Like attracts like.
But if you mean where can a fat girl get a stud who isn't fat...then that's a different question.
2007-01-02 10:51:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Congrats on trying to lose weight. It's not easy but you took the first step which is good. Not sure on where to go to meet men who aren't shallow and superficial because there's a lot of them every where. I just wanted to encourage you to continue to lose weight for yourself and not for anyone else. Beauty goes beyond the physical looks and if you're intelligent and beautiful on the inside like you say you're are, I say just be patient and let it find you. They say the more you look, majority of the time you find the wrong ones but just be patient and let love find you. Good Luck and whether you lose a lot of weight or not, believe that there's someone out there for you!
2007-01-02 18:54:39 · answer #2 · answered by albert 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it depends...are you happy with the way you currently look. If so then ignore any guys who try to put you down or make you feel unattrative, it's how you feel about yourself that matters, and one day you'll meet the guy you were meant to be with and he think your beautiful too. If your not happy with yourself, then you need to take a step back and look at your life, what is causing your weight problem. Whatever is causing it should be dealt with because only then can you start living a healthy lifestyle, and start losing weight. Then when, and only when you are completely satisfied with your body should you seach for a partner. No relationship with last if your not even happy with yourself. Good luck!!!:)...and whatever you do know that the way you see yourself on the inside with affect the way others see you.
2007-01-02 18:51:00 · answer #3 · answered by Cheergirl<3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are men who prefer or at least accept women who are overweight. People say it is shallow to not date those who are overweight, but I disagree. I am very active and enjoy hiking, dancing, rollerblading, and swimming. I also eat healthy and take care of myself. I would not be interested in dating a man who was obese because he would not be able to keep up with me and he would most likely end up with health problems later in life.
Are you attracted to overweight men? Ironically, I have found that my girl friends who are overweight are quick to reject men who are too.
I was overweight when I first joined match.com and I can tell you that I had much better luck after losing 30 pounds. It also helped with my confidence.
And finally, for better or worse, there has to be some physical attraction in order for there to be a desire to get to know someone better.
I do recommend match.com and yahoo personals.
Good Luck!
2007-01-02 18:54:28 · answer #4 · answered by schweetums 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself, my experience has always been I find someone when I am not looking for them. It doesn't matter that you are overwieght the right guy won't care if you are overweight. It is good that you are trying to lose weight as long as it is for your health...don't lose weight just to find a man...then you are doing it for the wrong reasons. I am in a wonderful relationship of 2+ years and when we met I was very overweight...he never cared. I lost the weight eventually for me..not for him.
2007-01-02 18:51:33 · answer #5 · answered by atablackbelt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wherever you will go, you will find plenty of jerks, but there's just as many decent guys around.
And there are many more men who are attracted to fuller figures than society would have you believe, so I wouldn't worry all too much about finding someone. As long as you have a great personality, you should be golden.
Have you tried online services? that might be a start.
2007-01-02 18:48:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I knew also!!!! I am not a real big girl,I just have extra pounds from having kids,I am still pretty I guess,people tell me I am,I just have low-self-esteem.I would like to meet new men but I don't go out because I don't want to meet a guy in a bar!Sorry,I'm not any help!!!
2007-01-02 18:51:16 · answer #7 · answered by spicy1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Medifast, I have lost 55lbs a year ago and I'm still maintaining my weight. I am on the medifast success stories www.medifast1.com
2007-01-02 18:50:38 · answer #8 · answered by Crazy in love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres alot of guys out there who like bigger women. bigger women know there over weight and skinny women who aren't over weight thats all u ever hear come out of there mouths " i'm so fat" and it makes me sick. me personly i like bigger women being only 145lbs people find that odd. but my theroy is that they treat u so much better than any other women on this planet cause they never want to lose you. but your mr. right is out there u probly pass him on the street every day u just don't know it. just listen to the song somebody by rebe macentire it will explain it all.
2007-01-02 18:55:11 · answer #9 · answered by biker116823 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GO FOR WALKS, GUYS GO THERE TOO. GET A DOG TO WALK, A REAL GOOD CONVERSION STARTER. JOIN A WEIGHT LOSS GROUP, GUYS ARE THERE TOO. GET ON LINE HOOK UPS AND TALK TO SOME OF THE GUYS. WISHING YOU THE BEST.
2007-01-02 18:48:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋