I am 4 months with my bf.Our realtionship was interesting, fun and full with care and tenderness.But, I don't know why ,all of a sudden this changed.I don't know how to explain it because we don't argue or something like this, it's just that we are not so close like before, we don't see each other every day, and he doesn't even say to me ''I love you" any more.Why is that?I know that this is a hard period for him because he has exams that are very important, but he can at least show me a little attention.I have a feeling like I don't have a bf and I don't want to make a pressure on him.Even when we are out together with friends he is spending more of the time with them instead of me and when he sees his friend kissing with his gf, then my bf comes to kiss me.I really don't know how to resolve this and how to tell him because he will answer me that this situation is because of the studying, but...I really miss him:(Help!
2007-01-02 10:43:23 · 17 answers · asked by ♥beautyfly♥ 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh and this is my first serious relationship, so I don't have much experience.
2007-01-02 10:45:19 · update #1
1 of 2 things is happening...
1) He is taking you for granted & just assumes you'll always be there, that flame/romance is not extinguished, just been lowered, you could possibly help to 'Remind' him that there are some things he needs to tend to.
2) It really is the studying, but honestly what does that mean? There will always be studying or something going crazy in your life. So does that always excuse how he's acting, 'Oh it's work, or whatever?
personal opinion, I'd give him some more time & run through it through & through. It seems like you haven't really told him how you're feeling, b/c if you expressed yourself the way you just did to him & he still says ,'its the studying' you really need to reassess your situation.
2007-01-02 10:48:56 · answer #1 · answered by jmintecu 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
give him a little space. sometimes, when you put your all into someone or something, after a while it starts to wear. a little time off, and you're back, ready to roll again. I feel the same way with some of my commitments... like, if you look at me one more time, I'll explode. but I know that after winter break, I'll be able to handle them all with the same flair I did at the beginning of the year. and exams are especially hard on people. ease up a little, let him have some breathing room, but make it obvious that you're not going anywhere. just accept that he has other things in his life, and that at the moment, you're not top priority. this happens, and as long as focus shifts from one thing to another, it's fine. he shouldn't be too focused on you either, as that can be unhealthy in a relationship. maybe take this time to look to your own personal life. see if there's been anything you've been neglecting in your focus on him.
2007-01-02 18:49:54 · answer #2 · answered by sujoy13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him how you feel. Ususally when you get into a relationship and you start to get comfortable this happens. I have been with my bf for 2 years now and we went through the same thing. To fix that we talked about it and started to do different things. Go different places try new food together and stuff like that . keep him guessing and he will always be right there beside you. you just have to bring the flame back! good luck!
2007-01-02 18:46:45 · answer #3 · answered by Chelsea S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it's truely because of school, step off, especially if you want a future with him. You need to support him in his studies, bring him a drink, give him a shoulder massage. If you want to be part of it, study beside him with your own work, so your there for the breaks, or read a book, draw whatever. You are spending time with him.
It is hard, the lack of affection because of school, but in the end, you will have been the one supporting him in it, even if you don't make it to marriage and end up breaking up. He will know and remember that you were the one that supported him.
give him time, and let him study, he may be preparing himself for a future with you and wants to make sure that he will be financially secure.
2007-01-02 18:48:56 · answer #4 · answered by Sapphire 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could stay with your idea or consider he has either become too comfortable with your relationship he feels he doesn't have to impress you or his interesr has been caught by another. Think about a guy who would rather be with friends than a girl ? 2 + 2 = 4.
2007-01-02 18:49:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to phrase it so bluntly, but if you feel like he's no longer "into you," he's probably not. For whatever reason, he's no longer crazy about you ... and no matter what you do, he's not going to change his mind.
If I were you, I would break up with him. Be kind about it and try to remain friends, but tell him that you're a fabulous woman, and you deserve to be adored. You do!
2007-01-02 18:46:52 · answer #6 · answered by Jeff R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are two options: either you ignore him a little until he get a clue, or if this does not happen just walk away because his is not interested and go on with your life.
2007-01-02 18:50:31 · answer #7 · answered by macademia purulenta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl just try to catch some of his attention by ignoring him maybe he will come up to you and ask whats up. there is no way he should be accting like that over some tests so ask him why hes accting that way. tell him how you feel or just stay off
2007-01-02 18:49:26 · answer #8 · answered by glitterbabeprincess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if you two are fairly young, right? He has become interested in someone or something else. He just doesn't know how to deal with it..sorry.
2007-01-02 18:47:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be signs things are cooling off. Good luck, but be prepared to move on.
2007-01-02 18:46:07 · answer #10 · answered by Ben R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋