I'm involved in a long distance relationship with someone. Rather than spending New Year's with me, he opted to spend the holiday with an "old married college buddy" he hadn't seen in 20 years. His friend was supposedly coming in from out of town for a job interview.
On New Year's Eve, he didn't call to wish me a Happy New Year and didn't answer my phone calls all night. I didn't hear back from him til the next day. His explaination was that he left his cell phone at home when he went to pick the college buddy up from the airport. They then went out straight from the airport. When he got home (late) he supposedly went straight to bed, without checking his messages. The ringer on one phone was supposedly off. His buddy supposedly unplugged the other phone.
I don't understand why you wouldn't call someone you've been dating to wish them a Happy New Year. Here's acting like I am "crazy" to be suspicious of his behavior. Am I crazy or does this sound like there's another woman?
2007-01-02 10:30:33 · 10 answers · asked by Moxie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There was also another strange incident when he didn't come home all night. He supposedly spent the night at a friend's house because "his electricity went out". He now says he doesn't want to see me anymore, because I don't trust him. Sounds to me like there IS someone else.
2007-01-02 12:46:19 · update #1
Even though it's now over between us, I'd still like people's thoughts for my own piece of mind. Am I nuts and overly jealous to find his behavior strange? I was only dating him 2 months. I think I may have been right to be suspicious. Did I jump the gun?
2007-01-02 19:15:00 · update #2
I think that he is cheating, but, maybe not. It may be legitimate and real.
Either way, find someone closer.
To pass you up for a college buddy he hasn't seen in 20 years is inexcusable.
At the very least, he should have given you the option of joining them.
I stayed up all night at work to be able to call my wife at midnight. And she would have known and been all right with me not calling because she knows I am working.
2007-01-02 11:07:24 · answer #1 · answered by deepndswamps 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he have a history of being immediately available by cell phone as a rule or is he one of those people who just doesn't answer their phones? If he falls into the first category, then this behavior on New Year's would be unusual. You also must consider that he was extremely busy with a friend and most likely partying. He may not have felt like taking a phone call from you on New Year's - it's hard to have a nice, intimate chat with your partner when one of you is out on the town. The thing is, you only have your intuition and his words to go on. It's a judgement call that you have to make. If your intuition strongly tells you that something is wrong, then you should pursue a discussion about it.
2007-01-02 10:36:52 · answer #2 · answered by scrilldadoolittle 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
we'll it depends that is a lot of excuses for one night but i would go with my gut on this one. It may just all be a misunderstanding but then again maybe he is trying to pull something over on you just tell him how you feel and ask him what he would do if you put him in this position
2007-01-02 10:39:53 · answer #3 · answered by truelove 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say go surprise him one weekend and find out for yourself. That is exactly what I would do if I was in your shoes. Then again, he could be telling the truth and then that brings up the trust issue. I'd still do it though.
2007-01-02 10:36:55 · answer #4 · answered by ANG 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to decide whether he deserves the benefit of the doubt or not. Does he do other things that make you suspect something?
Some guys are just forgetful with their phones. If nothing else has happened, I think you ought to believe him.
2007-01-02 10:36:45 · answer #5 · answered by Jennifer D 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if he has not been giving you reason to distrust him, then I wouldn't worry about it. You could always ask to meet this married friend of his that took him away on what could have been "a very good way to bring in the new year" and let him know what he COULD have had, had he took you with him, or stayed with you.
2007-01-02 10:34:40 · answer #6 · answered by Sapphire 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
his explanations sound suspicious....but has he done any cheating in the past?? Maybe he was just insensitivity this time. I would not accept this type of treatment, but you need to decide if he is worth letting it slide, or not
2007-01-02 10:37:17 · answer #7 · answered by Becky 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yup..he is cheating! too many excuses!
dude...a guy would call you back no matter what time, what day or night, IF you are the only one in his mind....period.
2007-01-02 10:36:00 · answer #8 · answered by deliah 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
well why is he giving you all these excuses? i think he's cheating on you.
2007-01-02 10:36:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
HE'S CHEATING ON U GIRL!
2007-01-02 10:37:25 · answer #10 · answered by Shy Girl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋