ok, my name is taylor, and i am only 18 years old and my bf is 20, i have been dating him for 3 years, and he has bin fine, now he comes home drunk, and is so mean, the other night he went out with a few of his friends, and didnt get home till like 3 am, when he got home he was wasted, so i asked him how he got home, and for some odd reason he freaked, all the sudden he grabed my waist, and gave me a hug, and he did it as tight as he could, so i yelled at him to stop, and he freaked, like pushed me into the wall, and went over to me, and put his hand over my mouth, and then with his other hand he was grabbing my stomach, and pushing on it, like hard, i know it must sound crazy but its true. after that he was like running his finger through my hair and stuff, what does all this sound like to u???? im so scared and i dont know what to do! HELP!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-02 10:10:07 · 26 answers · asked by ~taylor~ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you know what stay away from him, thats abuse.. find someone to tell this things , he shouldn't touch like that.. guys like that don't deserve a girl like you, leave him, and be careful..
2007-01-02 10:14:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he was with someone else(female) that wouldn't let get what he wanted whether he was at the strip club or not someone rejected him somewhere. If he is drinking so much then the alcohol and/or drugs is not the problem something is going on inside him that he doesn't like and getting drunk to not feel that pain. Ask him when he's sober about Alcoholics Anonoymous Meetings. About the abuse it will never get better unless he wants to change what he is feeling inside. Try to tell him by letter how it makes you feel when he treats you that way but, in the letter DO NOT ASK QUESTIONS or MAKE EXCUSES FOR HIS BEHAVIOR in the letter. Be sincere and honest and let him read it alone. Put it his jacket our pants pocket without him knowing it so he will find it later and have to read it. If he really loves you then he will respond in a good way if not you should be thinking about your own safety.
2007-01-02 18:26:14 · answer #2 · answered by saturn man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like the answer is clear- LEAVE HIM!
but do it safely. if a man is an alcoholic (which continuous drinking often turns into) then if he gets angry, chances are, he'll be able to find you.
call me paranoid, but i've seen those Lifetime Original movies. it never turns out good. He was drunk, but if it happens ONE more time call the cops and report him for abuse. Do not let him think that what he is doing to you is okay because it is absolutely not.
If he says that hes going out with his friends, then chances are he'll come home drunk, so leave. Go stay at a friend's house. Call to see if he's drunk before going back home. Just be sure. and DONT BE AFRAID TO GET AUTHORITIES INVOLVED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
good luck!!!
2007-01-02 18:23:29 · answer #3 · answered by askalicious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Taylor, yes, it does sound crazy. Alcohol destroys more relationships than anything. he sounds like he was really drunk, his behavior is completely irrational, which is why it has left you feeling scared. My advice....you should never stay in a relationship where there is fear. Talk to him about how it made you feel and tell him he should try cutting back on the alcohol.
Good luck
2007-01-02 18:16:14 · answer #4 · answered by jlowe06 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get the hell away from this guy Taylor..I was scared reading this...I think you need to get away as fast as you can. I know it may be hard but even if he was drunk he might come home drunk again and next time might be worse and If you try to talk to him about it he might get really mad...I have a few question was this the first time and did you talk to him about it??You need to tell a girlfriend...Believe me...
2007-01-02 18:19:18 · answer #5 · answered by devilsadvocate 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Taylor, you may feel like he is the center of your world, but your 18 and you have your whole life ahead of you. If he is already abusive find the courage to get away from him, you may love him, but you haft to love yourself more. Don't let this drag on until you have wasted years and children can become involved. You deserve to be treated with respect...period.
2007-01-02 18:22:22 · answer #6 · answered by angelistic_flirt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please leave him! I know this probably isnt the answer you wanted, but you were scared by him, and you should never ever be scared in a relationship. It may seem hard, but it will get much harder if he is allowed to do this to you. You say he was "wasted" maybe stoned, maybe drunk but whatever he was it shouldnt make him do this to you. Get out before it gets worse.
2007-01-02 18:28:17 · answer #7 · answered by prettyflower17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's been high and he didn't know what he's been doing.. make a stand with him and tell him to stop that.. and ask him to explain what happened that night and If he didn't, leave him immediately and you'll find another great boy friend.. You don't want him to come and cut you to pieces 'cause he smoked two joints while watching "Saw" Movie.
2007-01-02 18:17:59 · answer #8 · answered by Lawrence of Arabia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesnt sound like he should drink so much as he looses control! if this is getting to be a regular occurrence he needs to acknowledge he has a drink problem and take it easy,,i remember my ex husband couldnt drink whiskey as it made him volatile and i mean vicious,he wouldnt have it as he couldnt remember so in his eyes i was making things up.he has to want NOT to do these things to you and your word should be good enough,,if not......you have decisions to make,it could be the eye opener he needs! is he going through any problems at the minute that would aggravate someone who normally wouldnt do such things? sometimes people change and it isnt for the better.
2007-01-02 18:17:36 · answer #9 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to get away ASAP!!! That is what my ex did...he was drunk all the time & eventually started to physically hurt me to the point I had to go to the hospital.I left him,then he begged forgiveness,but he hurt me 1 more time & I took him to court! He has to stay away now! Sure,I hurt over the whole thing but you can't stay in something so toxic....or you may end up really sorry!!! Good Luck,but please get out!!!
2007-01-02 18:15:40 · answer #10 · answered by spicy1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE HIM!!!!!! If you forgive it once, it will happen more and more frequently, I had a boyfriend who yelled at me a lot, then one day he pushed me. At the end of that relationship he was belting me every 2nd day and tried to kill me. Get out now while you still can, I know it sounds dramatic, but i am so serious.
2007-01-02 18:15:15 · answer #11 · answered by jacks my boy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋