We have been together for a year and never mentioned her until today while we were in Victoria Secret together. He went home, over seas in late October and saw her then. He said he called her parents for her number and they went out. He said they were best friend before he came here and there was nothing sexual between them. She said she loved Victoria Secret body lotion and asked if he can send her some. She just broke up with someone. If he was such good friends with her, why didn't he ever mention anything about her? Should he send her this?
2007-01-02 10:04:57 · 23 answers · asked by Yisrael Chai 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sure, why not?
It sounds like you think that your boyfriend has to give you a list of all the things that he's done prior to hooking up with you. It just doesn't work that way. If you want a successful relationship with someone you have to TRUST them. If you don't trust someone why would you want to be in a relationship with them?
Lighten up and let it go. If he's screwing around with her then that's that, it will come up later, but for now, you have to trust him if you want a decent relationship.
FP
2007-01-02 10:08:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hard to say. I guess it all boils down to how confident you are in your relationship (and how easy it would be for him to just up and move overseas to be with this girl or if she is thinking about coming here). Body lotion is a pretty benign gift - that's what I send to people I don't know what else to send. Maybe she spent money on dinner or something while he was there and he wants to do something nice for her.
My best advice is tell him of course he can send it. You have nothing to fear, you love him and he loves you and you are very secure in that. If it would turn out down the line that he leaves you for this other girl, you are a LOT better off knowing now while he is your boyfriend and not your husband.
Peace!
2007-01-02 18:11:01 · answer #2 · answered by carole 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hard to tell.
is it for a holiday or birthday?
if yes, then that would make more sense because the lotion is pricey for lotion and if she really likes it then that could make a good gift.
But it is victoria's secret, which of course, implies a somewhat sexual idea, but then again its only lotion.
Would you be as disappointed if he was sending her lotion from Estee Lauder, Lancome, or any other large brand?
Probably not. its just the name, really.
Now if he sends her lotion and then visits her thats different. I'd say let this one slide, but if he does anything else suspicious confront him.
2007-01-02 18:12:56 · answer #3 · answered by askalicious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that he is being a little too friendly with this girl. I mean he asked her out. Ask him what's up.
As for that, let him buy the lotion. Sometimes my female and male friends ask me for stuff ('cause they live far away). It is completely fine if she asked him. It is not fine if she didn't ask him and he is just getting it for her out of the blue.
Other than that, your relationship is okay. I really don't know anything about your boyfriend, it is a personal situation. You should just talk to him.
2007-01-02 18:11:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess the regular stores ran out of gift cards
I just want to say that a man better be buying something for his wife/girlfriend from Victoria Secret. VS is personal....
2007-01-02 18:10:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's not like it's a "Sexy Little Thing" like he's getting her something naughy or something like that. So I think lotion would be appropriate...it's just something to take care of yourself with and it doesn't really send the message "I want you". I gave my best guy friend the "Very Sexy For Him" kit of cologne and lotion and body wash and stuff. It didn't mean anything.
So yeah, I think that would be appropriate. Good luck! ;-)
2007-01-02 18:09:48 · answer #6 · answered by lildevilgurl152004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with it, but ... it's just not something that someone in a committed relationship should do ... that's my opinion. You should be his center of attention, his love, and his sweet heart, not someone else. Some people just have different values and that's why you're questioning if what he's doing is right or wrong. He may think there's absolutely nothing wrong with it.
Is it appropriate? I guess so ... it's not "inappropriate", but then again lol ... Why?
2007-01-02 18:16:15 · answer #7 · answered by Tommy_Turrican 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What if you asked him if you could sign gift the card also? If there is nothing romantic going on, then a gift from you both could be appropriate and both of your names on the card would send a clear message to her about your relationship.
2007-01-02 18:10:57 · answer #8 · answered by Amigo van Helical 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since it's overseas, it's not that strange for people to ask for exotic products from the states. I have good friends overseas who make strange requests time to time too. Don't be too quick to judge.
2007-01-02 18:16:27 · answer #9 · answered by naus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I would buy some VS lotion yourself, send it to her and tell her that your boyfriend tells you everything, even about her. See what happens.
2007-01-02 18:09:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋