I currently attend U of I at Urbana Champaign a pretty reputable and popular school. But I am on the verge of getting dropped because of my grades but it isnt official yet. I managed to raise one of my grades and the other is still on standby until I have a persuasive meeting with my Professor. But I am having second thoughts on fighting to stay, because I am trully miserable there. It is kind of like being in abusive relationship you feel you should stay because this guy is so attractive and people would bend over backwards to get with him but you arent happy in the relationship. Same with UofI I know I should stay because it is a very good school and Im lucky to have gotten in but I want to leave because I don't feel like I belong, Im not happy. I feel alone like I have a couple of friends that I knid of run into but no steady relationships and I figured if I havent made a steady friend in a whole semester then I probably wont make one and that UofI is wrong for me what should I do?
2007-01-02 10:02:55 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
I agree with the other 3 who answered before me. You need to do what's best for YOU! It is not healthy to be in a relationship that is abusive nor is it healthy to be at a school or in a job that makes you miserable (your grades can tell you that). It's Nothing to be ashamed of and it's not a crime to change schools. I really suggest that you visit the other(s) school(s) and check it out completely before choosing one. If you are going to live on campus try to arrange an overnight in the dorms AND sit in on at least 1 course in your major. Hang out, see if it's a better fit for you! GOOD LUCK!!!!!!
2007-01-02 10:17:53 · answer #1 · answered by PROUDJEW 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
perhaps, before you get dropped by the school, put in a request for a transfer. it doesn't really matter how good the school is if you don't like it there... that's one reason I'm not applying to any ivy league schools. I'm reasonably sure I could get in if I really tried, but I'm not sure I'd fit in. I'm not an academic, and I'm not that great at hanging around them all the time. you should find a school that fits your personality, as well as has something to offer. being miserable for four years isn't going to help you any. does your school have a guidance counselor? maybe talk to him/her.
I kinda know how you feel... I moved halfway through highschool, and really didn't like my new school. I did fine in class, but outside... it would have been better for my future if I stayed, as I got better grades there than at my old school, but I couldn't take the atmosphere. so we moved back, and now I'm not top of my class, but I'm a lot happier. maybe the emotional side is the same for you.
do you know where your friends are going to college? maybe apply to one of their schools? having someone you know who knows other people really helps with entry into a new place. trust me as someone who has moved at least once every 2 or 3 years.
I don't really have any solid commands, just a few things to think about and maybe a few suggestions. just... don't stick around somewhere that makes you miserable. employers will still accept a degree from a slightly less famed school.
2007-01-02 18:18:19 · answer #2 · answered by sujoy13 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just by reading your question and description you have made up your mind you just want someone to tell you it is the right decision.
I am not going to tell you to leave or stay but I will tell you talk to your family and close friends about the situation. Only you can make the decision because it will affect you for the rest of your life. Every action has a reaction and consequence. Think about the pros and cons of your decision and go from there. You have to make a decision that is best for you.
Another possibility about your situation of not having many friends at the University is that you are not putting yourself out there. Something I have learned is "If you do not make any noise you will not be noticed."
My personal philosophy is "Yesterday is a memory and tomorrow is not promised therefore live today like it is your last."
2007-01-02 22:26:01 · answer #3 · answered by huricanelance 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Firstly you are at U to get an education secondly whilst its good to have friends they can distract you from your final goal which is your degree. Have you chosen a course that you are truly interested in? truly want to work in that field when you graduate? If the answers are yes then you can explain to your professor that you have been experiencing adjustment difficulties and that you want to stay and see the campus counsellor, if you decide that you still want your opportunity but its not the right course for you again speak to the campus counselor thats what they are there for, and remember being lonely is a state of mind and while you're focussing on that you are not focussed on your learning....Friendships take time to develop start by saying hello you wont be the only one finding their way, join a study group or a group that shares similar interests look aroundthe campus notice boards and see whats available and make the effort.
2007-01-02 18:10:02 · answer #4 · answered by Just Thinking 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow you really have some tough decisions to make. You really should take sometime to think this one over. Maybe try talking to a good friend or close family member. They know you best and what your capable of. I was in the same situation, and I choose to leave the school that I was at. Boy let me tell you I'm so glad that I did. I am now someplace else and much happier. Plus now I am a straight A student and I feel that I have found my true happiness at this school. Best of luck to you whatever decision you make!
2007-01-02 18:10:04 · answer #5 · answered by Giselle 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
as you were writing, you were answering your own question... therefore, in essence, you know you need to leave there, get a backbone, stand up, withdraw, and enter another school where you will fit in, and be more suitable to you.... good luck
2007-01-02 18:07:33 · answer #6 · answered by dangerarranger 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IF YOUR NOT HAPPY THEN MAYBE YOU SHOULS LEAVE THERE ARE OTHER COLLEGES OUT THERE YOU HAVE TO DO WHATS BEST FOR YOU AND NO ONE ELSE
2007-01-02 18:07:33 · answer #7 · answered by hallowsevenight 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nobody can help you make that decision....if they did its kind of messin with your life and they dont know it....
2007-01-02 18:05:48 · answer #8 · answered by I_Luv_P!NK 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋