Im 14 and Practically hate my life. I have so many crap to deal with and cant keep up. I hate my personality and everything about me and seems to be bothering me. My parents family and friends cant help me neither my school council. I cant even keep up with my grades...anyone know what to do?
2007-01-02 10:00:31 · 9 answers · asked by jpel 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Just be your best self. Don't try to copy what you think is good a bout other people. They have problems too. Pretty soon these people will be history and you will have another set of people and circumstances to handle. Decide what is important to you in the long term and follow through. Be positive even when you think things are bad. Don't speak negative thoughts. Instead look in the mirror every morning and tell yourself I am great! I can do well!
I am the best! I know it sounds silly but it works. At first it will be hard like you are lying to yourself but then it will become believable and things will change because you will change for a better you.
2007-01-10 09:58:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You hate everything about yourself? There's not one single thing you like? I'll bet there are several things you like but even if there isn't the place to start is deciding what you'd like to have different. Would you like more muscles? Or would you like to have better self control? Perhaps your activities aren't satisfying?
Take any one of these, let's just say your activities. What activities do you admire? Sports? Intellect? People who do for others? Look at those and think about them. Is there something you could do to participate in an activity you admire? Pick something that will present a challenge but you can do, something you can see results from. Don't expect to be good at it at first, just do your best and keep trying. You will improve. As you improve take note of your improvement. You have something to be proud of, an accomplishment.
If you enjoy whatever it is, keep doing it. If not, quit. Don't force yourself. Now pick something else the same way and try it for a while. Keep trying until you show some improvement. Do you enjoy it?
You see where this is going? I'm older and have been doing it all my life. There are so many things I know or can do that people always are surprised at me. Its very rewarding but takes an effort on your part. But in the end you'll have many skills and abilities that others will admire and you will be proud of.
2007-01-02 10:16:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my kid was 14 she hated everything also. When I was 14 I hated everything also. Lots of people go though this stage. You are going through tons of changes both physcial and mental It is hard changing from being a kid to being an adult. At 14 you are in the middle of both. Give yourself time to grow up, It will get better. 13 and 14 are often the worse times for girls.
Yes you personality can change But not all at once you can graduly change it and it will change on it's own as you mature.
finding a way to vent the rage and frustration you are feeling will help. My kid was not real athletic and went out for shot put and discs.
It helped her alot.
2007-01-02 16:31:20 · answer #3 · answered by DDLynn l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look around. Sure, there's happy faces but don't assume everyone is perfect. You are not alone. There's always going to be something about yourself that you don't like. It is apart of living. Write out a list of everything you don't like about yourself. Is there anything beyond your control? If so, you'll have to keep looking forward because having a burden over something that can't be changed would be useless. If it is something within your control, how can you make it better? No one can help you but you. You must decide to help yourself. Life is a difficult journey- that is not a lie. I wish you much luck.
2007-01-03 09:16:17 · answer #4 · answered by robynburd 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can change your thoughts. You need to begin to like yourself. It is not unusual for teenagers to dislike themselves. It takes a lot of personal strength to not judge yourself when images in the media have these "perfect" people who look a certain way and acheive incredible feats.
Read positive books, such as "You Can Heal Your Life" by Louise Hay. Say affirmations and hang in there. You will grow older and wiser.
2007-01-02 10:03:19 · answer #5 · answered by Laughing Libra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The short answer is yes you can, only you can change yourself and that stems from wanting to be different. Look at the things that you are doing that you dont like and work out ways to alter/change/stop whatever it is that you dislike. Remember it will take time but the more you work on what you do want the less evident what you dont want will be, and remember you CAN BE who ever you want to be!
2007-01-02 10:04:09 · answer #6 · answered by Just Thinking 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know you are going to hate my answer but I am absolutely serious. I have dealt with depression, self-loathing, family problems even attempted suicide before. Please, please, please pray. This period in your life will probably be the hardest to get through. You have tons of hormones raging, school to deal with, family life, trying to fit in etc. I hate even thinking about it let alone having to live it! We truly do have a creator that cares about us and if you sincerely want help in dealing with your problems approach him and ask for it. You will not be let down. Good luck!
2007-01-02 10:07:58 · answer #7 · answered by yakimablueyes 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Accept yourself. Nobody's perfect. Don't beat yourself up. Just do your personal best. Learn to be more laid back. Enjoy life. Change your negative attitude about yourself, and life will become a more positive experience.
2007-01-02 10:07:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can change.:) I did. I looked around my life, what I did like, I improved. What I did not like, I NEVER, did again. It's hard, but it is SO worth it. Don't give up. You CAN do it!
2007-01-02 10:13:22 · answer #9 · answered by feather 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋