Everytime I'm about to go out with my friends you can tell he gets frustrated...calls me "social butterfly". I invite him but, he doens't want to go, he makes it seem that my friends are everything to me and I have them on a pedingstool. The thing is that I spend most of my time with him and I've cancelled on my friends to be with him and trust me I feel bad about it, but why does he make me feel bad about my friends? I feel he is selfish and I can't take his attitude towards me always having plans...how can I fix it..? He knows how I feel and I told him I can't take no more negative energy towards my friends...also my friends don't like him...history with him is not soo good, yet they don't know the good side either....
When taking in a relationshiop do you take in good with the bad? When do you know when enough is enough? Can't handle the negative energy!
2007-01-02 09:59:45 · 5 answers · asked by lotsofluv007 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Some guys are just too clingy. If he really cares about you, he would give you some freedom and space.
2007-01-02 10:10:18 · answer #1 · answered by tarzan428 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants to control you by playing your emotions. He knows how you feel about your friends and him, yet he wants to watch you agonize over what to do? Every one has good sides and bad sides, but being controlling isn't a side it is an action. The more he takes away from your ability to be you, the more of you he gains. Next he will tell you when you can eat, sleep, drink, pee you name it. He can be a nice guy, yeah, but is it worth losing sight of who you are? Find someone who you are more compatible with. A social butterfly and a hermit can be together, but only if the hermit doesn't stand in the way of the butterfly. If he truly loved you- he would want you to soar, and would love to watch you do it. Being in a relationship is supposed to be about building each others qualities, not controlling them. Do what you want, but speaking from experience, life is too short- how many years do you have left? Who knows- so do you want to live your life, or let him live it for you?
2007-01-02 10:13:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I have learned anything from past relationships, it's to listen to my friends. If they don't like him, I ignore them at first because I don't want to believe them. they usually end up being right. I look for a guy that my friends like, and that he can like my friends. if it doesn't work that way, you get negative energy from both parties toward the other and it makes things that much more difficult for you.
Just pray about it, and follow your heart. God will give you an answer in time.
2007-01-02 10:10:36 · answer #3 · answered by Green Eyed Blonde 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is the matter with people lately. They put up with so much crap! Get rid of the "negative energy" This behavior is not putting your needs ahead of his. Anyone who doesn't want you to be with your friends is wrong, just wrong. Its time to dump and start looking again . He or she is out there, get rid of the negative and you'll find the positive.
2007-01-02 10:12:16 · answer #4 · answered by babycakesmommy1952 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is so cool so now you can be under control...lol
2007-01-02 10:01:34 · answer #5 · answered by lins 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋