Is it wrong to write a letter to a church and ask them to go visit a friend in need? I don't want the friend to know I was the one who asked them to visit her.
2007-01-02 09:53:07 · 26 answers · asked by honeybear 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I think you must be a very special friend You obviously care alot for her....this is something we need more of. people caring about other peoples needs!
Be Blessed and encouraged as you bless and encourage others!
Emm
2007-01-02 09:57:08 · answer #1 · answered by Em 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That would depend on why you want the church to visit the friend "in need" and why you don't want your name to be involved. Are you trying to get the friend to turn to religion? Is the "in need" part of that implying illness or moral issues? The only wrong part would be judged by you and is how you feel about what you are doing. We are not in a position to call your concern for a friend "wrong." Churches are available to help everyone "in need." If you feel that it will upset your friend, then you might want to re-think doing it. The church will probably not have an issue with keeping your name out of it, if you speak directly to the pastor / preacher / priest involved. I would suggest calling or visiting the church in person, though. By the time they get the letter and it filters its way through to the right person, it may take several days or even weeks.
2007-01-02 10:03:09 · answer #2 · answered by DinahLynne 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think a lot would depend on the reason you are asking for the visit. If your friend is sick - mentally or physically, or in need of help that the Church can provide, and you are doing this truly as an act of kindness, then I see nothing wrong with it.
2007-01-02 09:57:38 · answer #3 · answered by I_Love_Life! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Boy wrong or right hardly enter in. Why not phone the Pastor and tell him. I did this very thing once. But it was to a Catholic Priest. Turns out my neighbor thought she was dying when the priest came for a visit. I think things have changed a bit from that time.
2007-01-02 09:56:41 · answer #4 · answered by swamp elf 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's kind of you to want to help your friend. What I find so curious is how quick people are to question your motives. The cynicism here is relentless. There could be innumerable reasons why you wish to remain anonymous. Often people like to pass kindness on to others anonymously because they are doing things for the right reasons and wish no thanks or attention. Perhaps you wish it so because your friend is shy about accepting help and, while she needs it, may be unwilling to ask for it. Don't take the criticism here too seriously. Helping your friend any way you can is the right thing to do.
2007-01-02 10:39:02 · answer #5 · answered by hairdvs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would question why you must remain anonymous, but I think it's a good thing that you're looking out for your friend. If you think the church will really help her, go for it! The church should respect your wish to remain anonymous.
2007-01-02 09:58:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, that is not wrong, you are trying to help her and you believe the church will offer good assistance.
Good for you for being such a good friend, but be prepared for any back lash from your friend, such as "darn church people are bugging me".
2007-01-02 09:55:47 · answer #7 · answered by Dolphin lover 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No it is a good ideal but one should ask that peson that the visit will be okay and see if they are willing to accept visitation.
2007-01-02 09:56:34 · answer #8 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, and its also ok to go directly to the church. If you have a good church family they will respect you request to remain un named
2007-01-02 09:55:25 · answer #9 · answered by Jim Y 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I seriously hope your friend shares the same beliefs as you if not
find another way to help your friend with out pushing your religion on them
2007-01-02 10:13:05 · answer #10 · answered by viva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋