me and my fiance are getting married augest 13,2008. we already picked our maid of honor and best man our best friends but my fiances best friend girlfriend is giving us a hard time with him walking down the aisle with my best friend because they used to date 4 or 5 years ago they dont want eachother back but there doing this for me and my fiance. but the best mans girlfriend told me and my fiance that if they walk side by side then shes gonna walk out i feel bad but its my wedding i dont know what to do. am i wrong or is she wrong i need any advice thanks
2007-01-02 09:51:34 · 16 answers · asked by mommy2brandon14212 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
thank yous me and my fiance were stressing about it. but i feel better now since other people feel like me im just a nice person i dont want her to get mad or hurt but i feel i should say what goes on. and they both are fine with it its just his girlfriend that has a problem with it.
2007-01-02 10:17:57 · update #1
You're fine. It's your wedding and your choice. If the people chosen as maid of honor and best man agree then it's done. Since she is threatening to walk out cancel her invitation to the wedding, but let her attend the reception. Tell her this isn't high school and she doesn't need to be insecure. What is the best man saying about all this? Anyway, you are not wrong.
2007-01-02 09:58:37 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think she is completely wrong. I understand that she may feel a twinge of jealousy when she sees her guy with his ex, but it is only for a few minutes. This is your wedding and she should realize that this will make you happy and that is what is important. As you say, it was 4 or 5 years ago. If he isn't uncomfortable in the situation then she should grow up and realize that she is being very selfish and childish. Does she think that just because they walk down the aisle together that they are going to get back together? Give me a break. If they were going to do that they surely don't need your wedding to do it.
2007-01-02 18:03:43 · answer #2 · answered by lacedlover1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they will break up between now and then, it is quite a bit of time until the wedding. She is not married to the man so he can walk next to who ever he wants. That girl sounds crazy!!Do what you want, people are getting all up in a tizzy for something that isn't even going to happen for a year and eight months!!! Just tell them that you are not sure what you are going to do about it yet and keep your mouth shut. Let them know the day before at the rehearsal dinner. She won't be there! I found that when I planned my wedding the more that I did not tell people then the less issues I had.
2007-01-02 18:01:55 · answer #3 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you regret her decision, but you are going to have to pick someone else to stand in your wedding. No reason to cause any kind of hard feelings at all during one of the most joyous times of your life. Its not worth it. Too bad, she can't be more grown up and less childish and do the right thing for you, but obviously not. So its time for you to take action and get her out of the equation. She can simply be a guest at your wedding.
OOPS! lol, I thought she was the maid of honor. Sorry, hhhmm...well tough luck with her then, thats bullsh*t. Too bad if she feels too insecure, they will only walk down the aisle for the service, not like they will be attached by the hip all night long at the reception! Gee....he is with her now afterall! If she is that worried maybe their relationship isn't that good anyways?
2007-01-02 17:57:04 · answer #4 · answered by sjb83162 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i say she is wrong like come on its your wedding day you should be happy as long as brides maid and best man can keep the peace for your wedding thats fine the other lady well just let her walk out but tell her to leave quietly so you can a have a happy day good luck and congratulations..........
2007-01-02 18:08:31 · answer #5 · answered by kizza005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a lot of time between now and August 2008. She may change her mind. If she doesn't, that's too bad. She might want to consider that fact that this isn't intended to be malicious in any way. These are 2 people who are in your life and you love them. She really should understand this.... Do not feel guilty about your choice. Do not rearrange your day to accomodate her. If she doesn't show, so be it....
2007-01-02 20:54:25 · answer #6 · answered by So lyrical 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the best man to drop her already because she does not trust him and never will. What type of person does he think he is, she is in the wrong and can't be trusted and feels every one is like her.
Bestman, find you a new woman, before you ended up miserable.
2007-01-02 18:09:18 · answer #7 · answered by Ms. Angel.. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friends are putting too much pressure on YOUR wedding choices, they should put your wishes before thier personal issues. Take a strong stand, and tell bf's girlfriend that it would be better if she did not attend the wedding (you do not need this drama), besides if she is such a drama queen, he will probably, breakup with her before your weding date anyway.Good luck, and stand your ground).
2007-01-02 18:00:43 · answer #8 · answered by Kimberly H 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to grow up and stop being so insecure. It's not her place to tell you what you can or can not do in your wedding. Sure, if I were her I wouldn't like it but I'd roll with it. She's way out of line and so what if she walks out. I got a better idea, don't even invite her.
2007-01-02 17:54:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to get over it. They're only walking down the aisle. It's not like they're the ones getting married.
2007-01-02 17:54:18 · answer #10 · answered by Amigurl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋