Ok, I like this girl alot and i know she likes me alot, we have great sex, and we do fun things togther, past month we been spending lots of time with eachother. But she has a boyfriend. He dotnpay alot of attention to her and they been together for 5 years now. well knoown eachother for about 5 years. I met her at work, and i know that we bothwant to be with eachother. but he still calls out of the blue and she talks to him and asks him if he gonna comedown to see her but he tels her that she is either going out with the guys to the bars or that hehas some excuse to not come see her.. he ditchs out on her all the time.. So since he dont give her the attention she needs and she told me that she likes the attention because i tryed to back offf and she asked me waht was wrong and i told her im gonna back off and she says why i like the attention. She told me on new years when she spent the night with me that she is crushing on me when she was sober.. but that night we got drunk and Screw
2007-01-02 09:50:52 · 4 answers · asked by bidemlikeyougotem 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If she has a crush on you, then go for it my friend!
2007-01-02 09:53:34 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Smooth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can point out so many things that are wrong with this.
1. Never sleep with someone that has a boyfriend because if they can't break it off with the other person before they get involved with you then they will either never commit to you or they will do the exact same thing to you later on. She has to know exactly who she wants to be with and if she can't leave the boyfriend that is treating her like crap then you will be second best. Do you want to be second best? Hell no.
2. You tried to back off and she wouldn't let you because she said that she likes the attention. Couldn't see have worded it a little better? She could have said that she likes to be held and you do that and the other guy doesn't. Just the fact that she said that she likes the attention, makes her out to be an attention grabber with no other intentions for anything else. This sets you up to be hurt because maybe she doesn't like you for you but for the attention that you give her that she is lacking with the other guy.
3. There is an old saying, "you have to love yourself before you can love someone else", well the same goes for respect. If she doesn't respect herself enough then how can she respect you?
4. You need to back off and leave her alone and let her know that you mean business. If you want to be with her then you have to make it clear to her that she needs to make a choice between you and the other guy. If you let this crap that she is doing continue then she will think that she can get away with it and she won't stop anytime soon.
Good luck.
2007-01-02 18:01:33 · answer #2 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she needs to dump the boyfriend because she's just playing you both.
2007-01-02 17:59:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want her, then go for it, just be prepared to fight her boyfriend. If you think you can take him, go for it, if you think he can kick your
a s s, then I would back off.
2007-01-03 01:06:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋