He won't go out with me be cuz?

Question

HE won't go out with me cuz we are really good friends and if we get in a fight while we are going out he doesn't want us not to be friends and we both really like each other and he has mentioned it a few times he really wishes we were going out what should i do

Answer 1

go out with him

Answer 2

I don't know if this will help but i will tell you. i think when a guy and girl really like each other and are friends, sometimes respect gets in the way. i am friends with a girl that now live about 800 miles away. we have been friend for about 6 years. at some point i stated liking her more then a friend. i know she like me more then a friend too, and maybe more then i like her. our mutual friends al thought we would hook up but i made sure that never happened. the reason is that, this girl is the nicest, sweetest girl i have ever met in my life. she is very pretty and has an amazing ***. but she is so kind. i have never done anything with her or even kissed her because i did not want to mess things up. i honestly believe i want this girl in my life for the rest of my life. i respect her too much and have always thought that she deserves a guy better then me. i always think that i might not be good enough for her in bed, or not kiss her good or something, because this girl deserves perfection.

Answer 3

My friend is going through the same thing and what I told her was...

Just move on. I can see where your friend is coming from but at the same time, if he *really* liked you like that.. you would both be going out by now. That's just how it is. Best to just leave it alone and find someone else.

Best wishes to ya.

Answer 4

Respect his decision. If some day in the future he decides that maybe you could work out he'll act on that decison.

Let him know that you would be fine with a relationship with him however, maybe even give him this quote: "the more you risk, the better the gains...it's the same way with love."

Answer 5

If he really wished he was going out with you he would. Tell him that and if he still doesn't make a move stay his friend and move on to someone else : 0 )

Answer 6

This is a ruff one. Sometimes it works out but sometimes it doesn't. You have to think about what your risking if you do decide to go out together. You might ruin a wonderful friendship you have. But then it might work out and he could be your soul mate. Just really think about it before you do anything that you might regret later on.

Answer 7

He likes you and you like him. Where does friend ship enter. Well this should help you guys get closer :)


Show affection. touch, hold hands, link arms, kiss, snuggle, cuddle, sit close, sit on each other's lap, rest your head on his shoulder, wrap your arms around each other or even around each other's waists, etc. Just be physically close and comfortable with each other. (However, it is important to ask if it's alright with the other person first.)
Talk to each other. About your feelings, viewpoints, your social life, work life, family life, ideas, hopes, dreams, insecurities, fears, goals, ambitions, wants, needs, desires, fantasies, your past/childhood, etc. This includes the big as well as the small things. Talk about anything and everything with each other.
Share things with each other (clothes, food, drinks, feelings, emotions, etc). For instance, wear your boyfriend's sweatshirt/jacket if you're cold (forget yours one day on purpose and ask him if you can wear his), whenever you have food or drinks together, share. Say you have some ice-cream, have 1 bowl but 2 spoons, or soda; have 1 glass but 2 straws, share off of 1 plate if you're having a meal together. (Ask first before you go and take a bite out of their food or sip of their drink). Share with one another what you're feeling, and don't be afraid to show any emotion with each other. Share blankets, big/baggy/long shirts, phones, etc. Remember the saying: "What's mine is yours and what's yours is mine". So share with one another - everything and anything!
Do things for each other. For example, if your boyfriend or girlfriend wants a soda, offer to go and get one for them so they don't have to get it. Listen to them when they talk to you; be open with one another; be attentive and romantic. Surprise each other every once in a while with something you know or at least think they might like or want.
More ideas. If you're at the movies - rest your head on your boyfriend's shoulder and share some popcorn or soda. (Ask first if it's alright). Or at a restaurant - sit on the same side of the booth and feed each other. Or if you're at home and watching a movie - snuggle and cuddle (maybe even hold hands) with each other).
Be there for the other person at the end of a bad day with some hugs, kisses, comfort, and listening skills. Really listen to him or her, and if he/she really doesn't want to talk to you about it, just leave it alone - leave them be and don't push it. Just wait until they come to you. (This applies to talking about anything also, especially feelings and emotions,). Offer them a massage of some sort.

Answer 8

If you really are good friends then your relationship will last even when the times are hard. Go for it girlfriend. He's the best guy for you.

Answer 9

Well, I have the other problem, I just broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years, we always stay firends when we break up. After we get over our angry. So, make a pack that you will always be friends no matter what.

Answer 10

This is what I would say: "If you want to go out with me, then let's go out. If you don't want to go out with me, then don't go out with me." If he doesn't like the fact that you two are not going out yet he thinks it's a bad idea, then let him figure it out. Don't spend time wondering about it because he is just as clueless. Just give it some time.

Answer 11

Sorry to break it to you but EVERY relationship bring arguements. Arguing means you're communicating & learning about one another. You get into arguements with your friends right? As well as your parents? IT'S NORMAL & it happens. Part of life. It's not excluded from romantic relationships. If he doesn't have enough common sense to realize that then you shouldn't date him.