A few years ago I had a guy friend that wore his wedding ring on his right hand while he was engaged, but then yesterday when i was online i saw that it is a sign of a widower. My fiance wants to wear his on the right until we're married, is this a social faux paux????
2007-01-02 09:21:56 · 13 answers · asked by Krissy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think it's very cool that he wants to express his commitment to you NOW. Yeah, if he wants to wear it on the right hand, go for it. Who cares what others think. He's not hurting you, himself, or society, so have at it Darlin'.
2007-01-02 09:27:03 · answer #1 · answered by Nik 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has different beliefs on this. The most common is that the wedding band goes on first (closest to the palm) then the engagement ring. This is (supposedly) because the vein in the left ring finger is the most direct to the heart. On the wedding day, the bride wears the engagement ring on her right hand so the wedding ring can go on first, and it is not supposed to be taken off. I have heard of some customs wearing the rings on the right hand, or the engagement ring first because that was the first sign from the husband.... It's all up to personal preference, really.
2016-05-23 07:28:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a nice idea - engagement rings for men are actually becoming more common, despite what some people have said. If wearing it on the right as a sign of a widower isn't a commonly-known thing, it shouldn't matter. (This is the first I've heard about it.) Besides, different signs and symbols mean different things in different cultures and areas. (Some people believe that black cats are lucky, some think they're unlucky.)
I say go for it - especially if he wants to!
2007-01-02 10:14:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never heard of a tradition of wearing one's wedding ring on the opposite hand while engaged. I tend to hold a view that a person should do whatever it is that they are comfortable with in regards to symbolic items such as rings, since it means many different things to many different people. In the country I'm from, married people wear their wedding bands on their right hand. I wore my own wedding band on the right hand in my previous marriage (yes, it confused people from time to time, but I felt I was paying homage to my ancestral tradition). I currently wear my engagement ring on the right hand, and the wedding band on the left. I feel it really is up to the person.
2007-01-02 09:46:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some cultures (Polish, Russian) wear the rings on the right hand. Catholics used to as well. I'm kind of lost: men wearing wedding rings prior to the wedding? That's not right. Men don't wear engagement rings on any hand- they put a wedding ring on during the ceremony on either their right or left hand and keep it there. Is your fiance a man or a woman?
2007-01-02 09:25:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell society they can go jump in a lake. What you and you fiance do is up to you. Who makes up all these rules anyway? You should do what you want. It sounds to me like your fiance is so devoted to you, he wants the ring to be a symbol of that. That kind of love is worthy of this symbolic gesture. Save the money you might have spent on a man's engagement ring for your honeymoon.
2007-01-03 03:39:02 · answer #6 · answered by Bill G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He shouldn't be wearing his wedding band UNTIL he is married. If he wants an engagement ring, get him one, and he can wear it where he wants.
There are cultures and traditions that do wear their wedding rings on their right hand. My husband is from Eastern Europe and asked that I do this and follow his tradition. I do, and have since we got married.
2007-01-02 14:42:43 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think traditionally the man wears the ring in his nose when he is engaged, then they hook a chain to it when he gets married.
Men started wearing the ring after marriage on the left ring finger out of rebellion and it caught on. Maybe the wearing of the ring on the right hand during the engagement is the next form of rebellion.
Don't let him rebel. Make him wear it in his nose like he is supposed to. If you let him wear it on his right hand, you will never get him under control!
2007-01-02 09:34:09 · answer #8 · answered by PDH 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I've never heard of that. My husband didn't wear any ring until after the wedding. Then he wore his wedding ring (that we exchanged during the wedding itself) on his left ring finger. I never heard of a guy wearing a wedding ring before the wedding.
2007-01-02 09:24:42 · answer #9 · answered by CG 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's different from culture to culture, you should speak to him about your feelings and come to some kind of agreement as a couple.
2007-01-02 09:29:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋