Im scared of having sex!!
i have never done it before but me and my boyfriend are going to do it soon!
please help....
is it scary at first.??
is there anything i MUST do? or must not???
help please!!
2007-01-02 09:00:02 · 14 answers · asked by rb 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The only two things you MUST do. First, make sure your boyfriend uses a condom. Second,...Enjoy!
2007-01-02 09:05:36 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Smooth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say wait for marriage but many people don't feel they can wait for various reasons (the main one being that they don't plan to get married until after college)
You must put a lot of thought into this choice and please don't take it lightly. Don't let him tell you that he will break up with you if you don’t have sex with him. If he threatens to break up with you then he wasn't worth dating in the first place!
As for having sex I wouldn't worry too much about technique. Most guys are just happy having sex and don't really care how good it is. He shouldn't expect you to be the best in bed if it is your first time.
2007-01-02 17:09:18 · answer #2 · answered by lynneboo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you probablly dont want to hear this but if you are seriously that scared about having sex you aren't ready. Wating for marriage isnt' for everyone. I plan on waiting but some just don't want to. However i believe that if you truly love him and want to be with him for the rest of your life it would be so much more special if you waited for the frist night of being Mr/ and Mrs......If you dont plan on waiting till marriage wait at least until your aren't scared. I think you should maybe talk t ohim about it. That will serisouly help you get over your fear and if you truly love him it will help you give him everything he wants in time. Hope you make the right choice! and remeber God loves you
2007-01-02 17:06:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is scary and it does hurt (about a 5 on a scale of 1-10). The thing about sex is that there is nothing you cant try. Just do different things. Ask if he likes it in a sexy voice and moan it out. Do not touch any where on his butt especially the hole. They hate that. If you do something he doesnt like he wont leave you.
2007-01-02 17:13:41 · answer #4 · answered by vandykeprincess06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesnt sound like you're ready. if you're not ready dont have sex. if youre boyfriend is pushy about it, dump him cuz he isnt worth it. but hey, if youve already made up your mind to have sex with this guy then, no its not scary, theres nothing you MUST do but dont give him a bj til the end. oh yea and since youre so scared, just a tip, drink a few beers beforehand. ; )
2007-01-02 17:04:41 · answer #5 · answered by Damia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are embarassed or scared dont do it. It's better to wait, especially if you are not sure of your self or whether or not you want to have it. Just tell your bf you are afraid and that you would like to wait longer, and he should understand. you don't sound very ready to have sex. If i was you, I would wait. I was scared to kiss my ex bf and we ended up breaking up because of it, but I do not regret not kissing him because I was not ready. Just remember that if your scared, it most likely means you are not ready.
2007-01-02 17:04:41 · answer #6 · answered by camm300 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its better to wait...and make sure your old enough to where your parents dont get involved....but other then that if your ready and not worried about giving it to the one that you will end upo married just use protection and take it slow...make sure he doesnt force you!
2007-01-02 17:05:35 · answer #7 · answered by jessica p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so the best advise i ever got for this was from my older sister:
if you have any douts about having sex, then you are not ready! if you are this nervise then you should wait untill you are comfertable. dont let him force you to do anything your not ready for.
2007-01-02 17:07:40 · answer #8 · answered by xokrisiliciousxo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax, if your this worried about it your not ready to have sex and should tell your boyfriend to relax and wait until your ready.
2007-01-02 17:04:10 · answer #9 · answered by soccerpsychic 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you're not comfortable with doing it, then don't. There's no shame in waiting...it's a lot more respectable not to
2007-01-02 17:05:55 · answer #10 · answered by toasterlove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋