Recently, my bf of 2 years confessed that his feelings were fading for me - in a sense that he doesn't feel any more excitement when he sees me and thinks of me on a much lesser basis and also the feelings were generally fading. However, when i asked if he wants to end this relationship, he said no and that he loves me. I am so confused..
I don't understand what is going on, this is my first serious relationship and i really want to make things work but i m at a lost. I feel quite hurt upon hearing that actually. Is this a transistion point for relationships or does such behaviour spell doom for the relationship?
2007-01-02 08:58:29 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think it's a pretty natural thing. All you guys need to do is mix it up a bit. You need to add that excitement that is missing. Understanding where your boyfriend is coming, I really think all you need to do is add some spice. Do something new. Things get to a level of comfort and things become normal. And to avoid that you need to do something outta the ordinary, something to add that excitement
2007-01-02 09:03:35 · answer #1 · answered by toasterlove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you guys should spend some time apart. Absence makes the heart grow fonder. Make sure you're looking good when you guys get together. I think it's totally normal for those initial feelings of excitement to fade as you are in a relationship for quite some time, it doesn't mean that you love each other any less. Good luck.
2007-01-02 09:03:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To start with you have the excitement of a new relationship. This inevitably fades after a while (and I suspect it is this feeling that cheats are after, rather than a relationship), but it doesn't mean the relationship is failing. The love is changing, but not for the worse.
2007-01-02 09:02:41 · answer #3 · answered by Tom :: Athier than Thou 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know this is "normal" but it's not healthy. I can understand taking a time out from each other to cool down so that nobody says anything they may regret. But him ignoring you is immature. You have a great attitude about it though. If you aren't sad about him ignoring you then go ahead and use it as time for yourself. If it is bothering you then I'd recommend going to a marriage counselor by yourself to talk about it, explore how you really feel, and possibly the therapist has some recommendations for you. Good luck!
2016-05-23 07:23:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe he would say that to you if he loves you. He is being unrealistic if he thinks his heart will "thrill" on a daily basis when he sees you. That is step one, but mature love is caring on a day to day basis that your partner is happy. Telling them you are not excited anymore will not keep them happy!
You should find some joint activities to keep things alive-- salsa dancing, snow-boarding, anything that you can both enjoy together.
I've also been with my BF for 2 years. I still love to see him and think of him often. But I know that he has days where he would rather be with his friends so I buy him basketball tickets to give him a break sometimes and his "guy" time in a safe ;) environment. He seems happier to see me when he gets home from game....
2007-01-02 09:05:58 · answer #5 · answered by cathoratio 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do something you never done before! Go ice skating, rock climbing, or even go to a zoo. You have so much fun on a different level, and hopefully it will help you out.
2007-01-02 09:05:00 · answer #6 · answered by cowgurlz010 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should go on a date or something and try to make more "Magic" Maybe you guys are just starting to get more comfortable and you need more excitement in your lives.
2007-01-02 09:01:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it does not necessarily spell doom, it just means the excitement of the new is gone.
2007-01-02 09:08:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
y'all need to spice it up a little. that's a common thing for couples that have been together so long. plan a romantic evening or get a way.
2007-01-02 09:00:12 · answer #9 · answered by *KiM* 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just dont spend so much time with him.
2007-01-02 09:09:57 · answer #10 · answered by Kayley M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋