Is anyone ever ready to have children?

Question

...I mean, I hear that you can never be fully prepared to have children. I also hear that they are the most precious and wonderful things on earth. Think about the financial obligation and how much time that we devote to our children. I am a sophomore in college and my wife is graduating with her MSW(Master's in Social Work).

Answer 1

I have to disagree with everyone.

Yes I was fully prepared to have a child. Its a wonderful part of life. Me and my husband have been blessed with two girls now 3 & 2.

There was no schock after our first daughter was born. Being first time parents we both new what to exspect and things were great. The second child was even easier.

And no we dont have money so it wasnt like that. For ones who say she has money so of course she was ready. Were still school.

If you want a child go for it. It will be hard while in school. But it is something that can be done.

Best thing in life is having a child.

I am a mother that is who i am

Answer 2

Nope, you really can't ever be FULLY prepared, and by the time you THINK you've gathered enough money, wisdom, education, etc., you're well past your childbearing years.

That said, you should at least TRY to have some aspects of your house in order. For instance, my husband and I decided to wait to have children until 3 criteria were met: 1) we owned a house, 2) we were financially stable, and 3) I'd found a medication combo that actually WORKED to level my bipolar disorder. We did get into a house and I am on good meds, but we were far from "financially stable" when we decided that it was "now or never." We're still on a very tight budget--he works 2 jobs and goes to school and I work part time, but we're making it work and the kids are emotionally and physically provided for.

It's a HUGE financial obligation and children require a LOT of time, but they're worth every penny and every minute we give to them :)

Answer 3

For everyone it's different. My husband and I are newly college graduates, have steady jobs(great income) but we are both involved in other areas of life ( I am planning several businesses and he is doing music with a new record label). With that said, many people may say that we aren't "ready" but we feel differently. Everyone is different, I applaud you for asking the question. Try not to focus on all the things that go bad because there are so many things that can go RIGHT! Hope that helps!

Answer 4

there are times when it is right to have a child . you cant plan too much for a child because tomorrow is not promised to no one take a chance and if you are at least prepared then go on and have achild and do your best with what you have all parent want to govie their children the best, the morew you have, the mpre you want to give, the more it is noy good enough, so dont get in an impasse just do it

Answer 5

No - it's a leap of faith and belief that you and your partner are ready to share time and affection with a very demanding partner. Kids are partners in the Family and although their share may be small their stake is greater just ask any kid in a family that doesn't get along as opposed to a kid with a strong balanced family - they are just as much invested in it as the parents - sometimes a little more so. Having kids means you are ready to really work at a family and not just a couple-hood.

Answer 6

I do not think anyone can honestly be ready. First time parents are going to get the wind knocked out of them! Even if they read all the books, buy all the right things, completed school, and have money. It's the little things that throw us off. But we all learn along the way.

Answer 7

You can NEVER be fully prepared......I have a two year old daughter me and my husband took every prenatal and parenting class possible..once she was born all was forgotten. Regardless...when the situation is put before you ..you change, nd act different then you would have imagined. Time, Patience, and love are the three main keys to sucess in parenting.

Answer 8

i know what you are going through but you can be ready if you make yourself by both of you sitting down making plans on when you want the baby (most women don't like to be pregnant through summer) where ( i would start checking on the hospital birthing centers in your area make sure the are to your standards) start making home plans ( there is going to be a little bit of a transition at home due to there is alot of furniture you will need for the baby) financial and expenses ( make sure you can afford it not all can and with you being in school still means you both are not working full-time so maybe you should wait until you are both working (i am assuming you are not working FT) she will need to take about a week to a month off of whatever she is doing to heal and recovery depending on the way she has the baby) so there is alot of planning i hope this is a good start for you if you want to chat you can message me on yahoo messenger at Rob9029 <<<<--------that's my user-name

Answer 9

I don't think you are ever 100% prepared for any of the really big steps you take in life, like getting married or having children. I think that if you know you are mature enough to handle the responsibility and you are committed to be there no matter what, you go ahead and take that step on faith.

Answer 10

i dont believe in pregnant before marriage anyway so if anyone was 'ready' for children then is wait til then and it depends on the couple. if u r married and u really love someone and are committed to a child together then id say that yeah ud be ready for children but if the couple agrees on launching a career before they setlle down then id say no i guess ou wait for children....its all you and ur wifes decision though ...