I have two little girls. The oldest is 5 and the youngest will be 3 in March. They fight like cats and dogs. My oldest is always yelling at my youngest, but my youngest can hold her own. I have finally started coming down pretty hard on my oldest for yelling all the time. I'll swat her and walk out the room and she is yelling again. I don't know what to do with her. My youngest doesn't listen. I have to tell her more than three times to do something... anything. Most of the time they are good, but when they want to be bad, the horns come out. They have been sharing a room all along and I asked my oldest if she wanted her own room. She said yes, so I have been trying to clean out the spare room. I don't know if this will solve the problem. I know they will fight cause that is just being siblings, but they are soo bad sometimes. Any suggestions?
2007-01-02 08:52:18 · 13 answers · asked by dmh2105 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
yournotascoolasme, what does my parents have to do with this?? I am a single mother only because my husband is overseas. You can't ignore the arguing they do. It drives me crazy. I've gotten to the point of where I hate taking them places cause they fight so bad in the car.
2007-01-02 09:01:40 · update #1
I am big on routines for both of them. Kee them active and doing things. When they fight make them kiss each other and hug.
Also you may want to try soap. One little lick! After one time the treat of you may work.
Have daddy time..they may mess him so once a day. Lat them write/color a letter... Have a video of him so they can hear his voice and see him. Also one of there teddy bears put his scent on him.
They maybe missing him and acting out.
If soap dont work take a toy away with it. Get a bucket and start with the fav. toy. No more of it.
Wish you the best of luck.
2007-01-02 09:12:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well your right siblings fight. Something I have done with mine because my mom did it to me and my sister was tie us together. I take my husbands tube socks wrap it around the arm and then put duck tape on it and then I do the leg in the same manner for my kids I just make them clean their room while like this and if they can't do it without fighting then I find something else for them to do. My mom how ever made us girls stay together all day and well we never fought after that. My kids haven't really fought either since they have had on or two tiny tiffs and I just ask if I need to get the socks and tape out and it's over after that.
Good luck! Once they get older it will mellow some part of it is the ages.
2007-01-02 09:08:41 · answer #2 · answered by emotionalyhurtmom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that in this instance every sibling case is different. You must try and remember that they probably both have totally different personalities. Sometimes always coming to the defence of the younger one can put the eldest sibling in even a greater state defence against the younger sibling. Have you ever thought that they just simply don t get on? They may need to do things separately and enjoy quality time with you separately. For example, if the eldest one gets invited to a friend, does the youngest one always come with? Are daily activities focussed mostly around the youngest one? Is the eldest sibling allowed to show leadership and made to be felt like it is a good job to have?
Do the siblings spend too much time together more than is suitable? Are there things that you notice that irritates either one of them? I found that sometimes when there are three, Mom, Older Sister, Younger Sister, one can start to feel left out. This can cause tension. Younger siblings aren t always as innocent as they make out to be. They can often antagonise the oldest. The best advice I got was, stand back and just observe. Don t interfere. Let them sort it out. Let them know that it is there responsibility to handle the argument they have created. Usually this can level the playing field. My youngest sister was always running to my Mom. It cast me out and made things really awkward. My boundaries were always encroached on. My sister came with me where ever I went, even to a friend. My Mom was a single Mom and she hardly made provisions for my youngest sister. So she went where ever I went. You have to note when the two siblings do have fun together and when they don t. This will help you determine what sort of activities and time limits to give to the balance of the whole sibling relationship.
2015-12-30 21:14:04 · answer #3 · answered by carla 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have any suggestions, just some encouragement... my sister is 22 months younger than me, and we used to fight all the time when we were little. When we got older, we became friends, but still fought. By the time we were teenagers, we were best friends. We still are, and I would do anything for her.
Good luck with your two girls, and just know that you are not alone and there is hope!
2007-01-02 08:55:32 · answer #4 · answered by baby_savvy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely no hitting between the kids should be allowed. All siblings yell. As the the youngest not listenting - do the time out thing until she does what you want.
2007-01-02 09:01:25 · answer #5 · answered by kny390 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My guess is that you are ALL yelling and screaming right?
Sit your girls down and have a good talk with them. No yelling or screaming. They have to learn how to interact and cope and share etc.
You have to teach them the "how to's" of play and interaction. You have to be involved in their play at that age too. Read to them. Sit one on either side of you and read to them. Teach them to laugh and have fun and they will slowly start to enjoy each other rather than fight with each other.
There are many help books and better yet courses that teach you that. Talk to your doctor as she will know of resources in your area to help you to parent better. It doesn't come with a manual and you have to learn to be a guide to them.
You watch the nanny show right? What does she do with them? Tough love. If all else fails you're going to have to take those tough measures that to some seem almost barbaric. Children get to be out of control because no one has shown them how to have it. At this stage you're the only one around and you're going to have to make them listen.
Good luck.
2007-01-02 09:00:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
ask them to sit down and talk every thing out one at a time let them say what got them angery in the first place and see if there is anyway to make it up or come up with some kind of deal so that same problem wont happen again
2016-05-23 07:21:06 · answer #7 · answered by Kimberly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 2 nieces 4 and 6 that fight alot and can't get along maybe they are fighting for your attention. My brother has to separet them when they fight and we take away things and spank with our hand.
2007-01-02 09:30:47 · answer #8 · answered by chiefs fan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suggest letting them have their own rooms. They can not share a room for the rest of their lives. Also, to get them to behave, spank them. Children who don't get spanked are brats!
2007-01-02 09:07:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well like you said they will still fight so why even try to make things better i say just Ignore them let your parents deal with it
2007-01-02 08:59:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋