My son is 13. My best friends son is 13. They are in the same classes, they are in 7th grade. Well my friends husband is a doctor, and so is my husband. Well my son has all these really nice things. He has a nice cell phone, a nice video camera, digital camera, and an ipod. but he gets in trouble at school for having all of those things. And my son and his friend try to skip class. My sons best friend got in a fight at school. My son used to be really sweet and nice and got really good grades. Now he talks back, he dosn't do homework. His letter grades are dropping. All of a suddun he wants to do what he wants to do. And his best friend is doing the same. I dont know whats wrong, I dont know if something happend and he dosn't really care anymore, But this isnt like him. Do you think something is wrong?
2007-01-02 08:51:59 · 10 answers · asked by Hayvynne Lachenski 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
well, I just turned 18 and i can remember being 13 and in middle school. In my opinion, it is okay to spoil your kids every once and a while, but not all the time. If he always gets his way then he will just run all over you because he knows he can get whatever he wants from you. Set some boundaries for him; He may hate you now, but he's just going through a phase. He's in the awkward stage between being a kid and an adult. He probably thinks of himself as an "adult" since he's a big 13. I would say, "Well, since you're an adult now, I guess it's time for responsibility." I would also give incentives for good deeds and grades and/or take away privileges so he becomes more appreciative. Hope i was helpful =]
2007-01-02 09:00:30 · answer #1 · answered by liz_patt89 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's great that you are able to give your son all those things but beyond the matierial have you taught him to earn those things, have you taught him discipline and respect? Don't blame the friend son. Your son needs to learn to think for himself and to respect you and your husband. 13 is a tough age though and the start of rebellion. If you haven't already, start letting him know that making your own decisions has consequences. He ditches class then those nice things he has get taken away, privledges get taken away. The talking back? I know i would have gotten smacked in the mouth if I did that. You may not want to go that route but I can tell you my parents only did it once or twice and never had to do it again. Good luck.
2007-01-04 15:29:50 · answer #2 · answered by Ella727 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
SOunds like he got to comfortable. He sounds spoiled to me. I am not saying you spoil him. he has more than the avereage 13 yr old. I would start taking them away until he behaves in school. He has to earn them. He is also at the age where his friends will influence him and peer pressure becomes a big part in his life. Give him a curfew and if you are close with him, try and talk with him. Maybe hell open up
2007-01-02 08:56:00 · answer #3 · answered by courtney b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do I think something is wrong? Don't YOU think something is wrong?
He may be reacting negatively to jealousy from his classmates whose parents are not as well off as you are and can't afford to give their children what you can give to your son.
You may want to ask yourself if you should be giving all of this to your son at such an early age.
2007-01-02 09:03:16 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does your best friend and her hubby think about this. Is it just your kid acting out? Grounding, banning friends, take away the toys.
You have to follow thru.
2007-01-02 10:42:54 · answer #5 · answered by Carrie C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he is turning into a teenager. Take away all his "nice"things as it sounds like he has become spoilt and make him earn back everything with good behaviour
2007-01-02 21:12:52 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to teenage years and rebellion.I dont have a boy.Why dont you talk to your sons friends parents as they are all in trouble.?You could all nut out the problem together as they are skipping class.
2007-01-02 10:48:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like time for serious timeout. No tv, no internet, no cellphone, no nothing.
2007-01-02 10:22:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's called being a teenager!
2007-01-02 11:00:27 · answer #9 · answered by party_pam 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
drugs maybe? Or bad influence from someone else?
2007-01-02 08:55:08 · answer #10 · answered by Zmflavius 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋