i broke up with my boyfriend and now im going out with someone else, but my ex doesnt understand i dont love him anymore cuz he cheated on me. how do i tell him to back off a little. he calls me every day. and says i should go back out with him, i keep telling him i wont and he tells me he worrys so he doenst forget his feelings towards me. his friends come up to me and always ask why i dont go out with him it bugs me.
2007-01-02 08:41:58 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Kick him in the balls.
2007-01-02 08:44:25 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Smooth 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him at one time you loved him but he broke your heart and your trust. A relationship is based on love and trust, he broke the trust and because of that he took the love you once had for him too. You can no longer trust him and you are not willing to have your heart broken again. If he really loved you he would have never cheated and will have to live with the decision he made, alone. Nothing he does now will ever bring back the love and trust you once had.
After you tell him this tell him to move on and keep his friends out of it. Don't contact him and don't accept calls or anything else.
2007-01-02 16:51:15 · answer #2 · answered by trojan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if you have told your new man about your ex, I don't want anyone to get in any fight, however you just may need to not answer your phone or your door when this guy is trying to contact you. It may come down to you need to get a new phone number. You may have to threaten him with a restraining order. Warn him first. Because if you are telling him to leave you alone and he is not it could become a stalking situation. Tell his friends this is NOT their matter and they need to step out because this is between you and the other individual and he messed up and there are no take backs ESPECIALLY for someone who cheated.
2007-01-02 16:47:32 · answer #3 · answered by _ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well that's borderline stalkish. It sounds like you made a good decision when you broke up with him. As for your ex tell him plainly No.
You can do little things that will eventually drive him away like not pick up his phone calls, if you do talk on the phone keep the conversation short and to the point, if you have to repeat yourself in that conversation simply hang up.
Eventually he will lose intrest
2007-01-02 16:46:57 · answer #4 · answered by soccerpsychic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ex's just don't get it sometimes. Just keep being as straight as you can with him. Say to him 'i do not love you. i do not care about you as anything more than a friend' (if you care about him as a friend!) Dumb it down and make it very obvious. Short snappy sentences. Be rude if necessary. Sometimes it's the only thing that works. Tell him you're with someone new, who you care about and are happy with.
Good luck!
2007-01-02 16:46:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well try and talk to him and politly have a little chat with him and ease your way into telling him u dont luv him anymore cause he stoped luving u for a while and tell him how he made u feel and how bad u felt knowing he was probly in bed w/ sumone else also u have to tell him to stop his life rewind to where u didnt even meet then play and tell him not to meet u at all.....in other words tell him to move on w/ his life and u need to to.....so ignore him dont anwser his phone call again....well one more time to tell him to move on and how bad u felt
2007-01-02 16:45:22 · answer #6 · answered by schneider_5681 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello???? You are taking his calls--stop that--you have moved on because he didn't play by the rules he stepped out on you--Just tell him that ONCE and then ignore his call and tell his friends to back off--he made his bed he can sleep in it--
2007-01-02 16:44:59 · answer #7 · answered by skizzle-d-wizzle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them that your ex is a cheater. and you won't stoop low enough to back out with someone who didn't think enough of you to keep his hands off someone else. Oh, and tell him that too. And tell himn not to ever call you again, or you're gonna block his number from your phone.
2007-01-02 16:45:44 · answer #8 · answered by LittleLady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well try to get away from him by not answering his calls and when his friends ask u why u wont go back out with him just say "because i dont like him and get da f-u-c-k out of my business and dont worry about it"
2007-01-02 16:46:24 · answer #9 · answered by **I Walk Alone** 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep distance... if you keep answering his calls, or have any contact with him, his is going to keep doing that... he seems a bit possessive, so its better to back up... sometimes after a break up, friendship is not really good if one of you still have feeling for the other.... and tell his friends not to be involved
2007-01-02 16:50:08 · answer #10 · answered by aries 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to bug off and that you lost everything you guys had together when he ripped your heart out!
And maybe try to block his phone calls or change your phone number...HELLO???? Maybe you like the attention?
2007-01-02 16:45:13 · answer #11 · answered by Whos your mama? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋