Our grown son is married to a bimbo and they had a son before they were married. My grandson is 2 years old now and we have been hearing stories that they are not even close to being good parents. They live 4000mi from us. My grandson's mother gets assistance from the church in the form of diapers and groceries. She takes the diapers to the store and gets store credit which she uses to buy cigarettes. He has developed diaper rash (go figure). They fight in front of the baby and now he screams bloody murder if anyone starts to play/wrestle with someone. He also bangs his head on the floor or wall in a tantrum. This mother of my grandson had another child 5 years ago (not my son's) and her own mother took that child away from her and now has legal custody. She never really fought for the child. As bad of a mother as I believe her to be, our son is not much better. My heart breaks for that baby. I am willing to raise him but hubby is not so willing, but he knows we should.
2007-01-02 08:40:30 · 9 answers · asked by Nancy O 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Give her as much practical help as you can! If shes got some contact with the church (that shes using for the free diapers) maybe there is a young mums support group there where she could fit into. The child has TWO parents, so all is not lost! Your parenting will be hidden deep inside him somewhere, I suggest you phone weekly, just casually talk about all the good and fun times you had with him as he grew, plant seeds of hope, it can be tough raising kids! But most importantly, dont ever underestimate the value that you as a grandparent can have in your grandsons life. You may not be able to raise him, but you and your husband can take him fishing, camping, hiking, shopping, - its a sacrigfice that will pay huge dividends,.... for all of you!
2007-01-02 08:46:33 · answer #1 · answered by askauntkt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either way your son will not thankyou he is obviously immature and not ready to be a dad i would report them yes there will be trouble but then you may hit the jackpot and find your son is only with her because she got pregnant
the social services will look into the background of the mother but you may need proof that the child is neglected and mistreated if you can afford it get a Private investigator
I think you should talk to your husband and find out his reasons for not wanting the child ok you did your bit and brought up a son is your hubby worried about the conflict it will cause.
Itsa bad situation but are you a member of a church maybe you could recieve help from there for many priests have contacts in the social services department i wish you luck and agree the child needs help urgently but you need to take on this child with more than pity in your heart
Good luck
2007-01-02 16:52:12 · answer #2 · answered by shannara 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am sorry to say but this is just as much your sons fault as your daughter in law and i noticed you did put that in but it sounds as if you blame the mother more then your son. either way it goes if your info is reliable then something does need to be done. although i do believe that you and your husband both need to agree on this and it not just be you wanting to do this. because you will be the one taking care of them 24/7 and sometimes you will need help and it will cause friction and stress on both of yall. may god bless and be with you in your decision on what to do. my mom has custody of my sisters 2 kids and she loves them dearly but they are a handful and it has put a huge stress on my parents. but my mom would have it no other way. those children are the best babies around. they know her as grandma and my mom says that is what is so hard she also now has to be parents to them which takes away from her being grandma. but she wouldn't trade them for the world and she said this way she knows they are safe. so do what you honestly feel is the best thing for the kids. and you and your husband. you will need him as well so include him in on it. good luck and god bless you.
2007-01-02 16:56:07 · answer #3 · answered by instig8tor682000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure how you know all of this as you are so far away. Secondhand stories are never reliable. Still, there is only one thing to do. Contact DSS and be available should they decide to intervene. And if hubby "knows we should" that sounds like he is willing to make the sacrifice if necessary.
2007-01-02 16:51:12 · answer #4 · answered by Sharon M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Report them to CPS. If things don't get better, then your husband needs to think of the life that baby has to look foward to if he won't get involved and help you help that baby! Maybe with the situation "in his face" he'll be more willing. He's an innocent baby, he deserves a chance!
2007-01-02 16:47:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
File for legal custody. Report the offenses to get the authorities to investigate. Do whatever you can to get that child out of that home.
2007-01-02 16:43:17 · answer #6 · answered by Fergi the Great 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a tough one.....maybe they should sort their own troubles out. You can advise them but at some point they need to realise things and take control of their own lives
2007-01-02 16:45:02 · answer #7 · answered by sensa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
File for custody before it's to late, how will you feel if something happens to your grandchild and you did nothing. I would contact someone today.
2007-01-02 16:51:43 · answer #8 · answered by Gee-Gee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know bad chouse
2007-01-02 16:45:36 · answer #9 · answered by Tater Chip 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋