ok we were married for 9 years and 3 days before our aniversy i cuaght him cheating on me with my best friends sister and when i asked how long this had been going on she (my best friends sister ) said for about 2 in a half years and so i divorsed him and way back before out marrige he had a little drinking problem and then it was done and after i divorsed him i saw his car many manyt times at bars so im guessing the drinking problem came back afterwards and then if you ask how i know heres how i know hes liscene plate 3 and car coler and brand and now he wants me back whta should i say give him another chance or move on
2007-01-02 08:25:24 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, it just depends on how you feel about him. Can you forgive him for cheating on you? If you can, then that's great, you can be happy with him. But, if you can't forgive him, then it will never work. No one can answer that for you. It's gonna take alot of soul searching on your part. Good Luck and Best wishes to both of you.
2007-01-02 08:29:28 · answer #1 · answered by LittleLady 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think I could forgive someone who cheated once... but not for 2 years straight. "Little drinking problems" don't get better in the local bar. If he plans on coming "home" to straighten up, he really has no incentive to get "right". Getting sober for you is a long shot, as all you need to do is "let him down" in some way and he has a new excuse to resume his old ways. A drinking problem is never "done", you can't make a cucumber out of a pickle.
2007-01-02 08:44:19 · answer #2 · answered by Horndog 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The man cheated on your for 2 1/2 years. I bet you would have never thought he would have done that. Who is to say that he hasn't been hiding his drinking problem from you the entire time? Yes, it is possible to do that.
Of course he is drinking again. He knows he screwed up and doesn't want to deal with the consequences of his actions. Please do not reconsider taking him back because you may think it is your fault that he is drinking again. It is not your fault... it is entirely his. Stand firm, hold your head high and always remember he had a good thing but HE CHOSE to screw around and got what he deserved.
Best of luck to you hunny *smile*
2007-01-02 08:33:26 · answer #3 · answered by _Savage_ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is like walking on thin ice--you want to go there?? And may I ask how he had a relationship with another gal for so long and you didn't know?? Sounds like you and he hadn't had good communication for the duration of the marriage to begin with--I'd say water under the bridge and go forward--Alone
2007-01-02 08:30:31 · answer #4 · answered by skizzle-d-wizzle 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Kick him to the curb,He Cheated marriage is forever, and he committed the ultimate sin by having an affair,you can do far more better.Move on with your own life and leave him alone.
2007-01-02 08:30:50 · answer #5 · answered by Denny O 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there are maximum of greater significant issues in life than getting caught up on your ego. she's youthful, and does not understand who she is, such as you. with the aid of fact in this society, it somewhat isn't any longer common to locate who you're with the aid of fact each and everything is so superficial. and once you strengthen up and bypass with the aid of so lots greater significant issues in life, you will seem back and remorseful relating to the time you wasted being unhappy and immature.
2016-11-25 23:12:22 · answer #6 · answered by blunkall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. How could you ever trust him? Why go back knowing the kind of problems that you have had and likely would have again?
2007-01-02 08:27:29 · answer #7 · answered by Beth T 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Move on, if hes cheated on you once he'll do it again. Especially if he was doing it for a couple of years. You shouldn't even be asking, give your head a shake!
2007-01-02 08:31:43 · answer #8 · answered by Whos your mama? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think your divorce answered your question. Move on and find someone that is worthy of You. I learned once a cheater..... always a cheater and i gave him 6 chances before i got it right...
2007-01-02 08:28:22 · answer #9 · answered by Codi 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
can you truly forgive him, and be his wife, and love, honour, respect and obey him? do you really love him and can you erase all the heartaches and pain in your heart and mind to reconcilnation with him, then yes you want him back, then God bless you, and allow God in your life, relationship, and your marriage and let him healed your wounds when you take your husband back. Pray for his drinking and his weakness, and be meek and sweet to him, you can win him over to Christ, and even win him to be the best husband that you dreamed!
2007-01-02 08:32:13 · answer #10 · answered by ourjacobdavid 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋