Anger,depression,anxiety,i cant cope,help?

Question

I have been feeling very depressed lately,especially since the man i loved has given me the cold shoulder. I was about to give up everything for him and then he's just completely changed and wont communicate with me anymore. He's on my mind all the time,but he obviously doesnt give me a second thought because i havent received so much as a call or txt from him in a month(i see him around work). I wake up feeling anxious,go through the day feeling depressed and go to bed hoping i wont wake up in the morning. It's not just him,i'm unhappy in my life and anxiety prevents me from moving forward,i have no friends,a dead end job,i miss my dad who died recently and i want to be with him,i dont want to take tablets because they have ruined my moms life already,what should i do?

Answer 1

Firstly, I want you to know that you are definitely NOT alone. I suffer from sever depression and it certainly doesn't help that the guy I'm crazy about won't even look at me when I talk to him.
As for a solution? I personally haven't found one yet, people tell me to talk about it, but I have a hard time doing that, maybe it will help you. A book that was recommended to me by my psychologist is; Feeling Good by David D. Burns, M.D. It might help you if you're willing to give it a shot. Though I'm sure it's the last thing you feel like doing; exercise does help as well. Take some time for yourself; try not to stress too much, that will only make it worse. Try setting aside some time for yourself a few times a week to do something that you love (I'm not sure of what you're into but I like to sit down and paint/draw while listening to music, or read, or watch a good movie.) It's very important that you still take care of yourself; don't let yourself slip down on your priorities list because you're feeling depressed. That's to help with the depression; I hope something in there helps.
Anxiety; I used to have sever anxiety to the point were I couldn't leave my house alone because thought someone was going to kill me. Also, often I would spit out things I had in my mouth, convinced that it was poisoned. It sounds ridiculous, but I was seriously afraid to do ANYTHING. If you suffer from anything remotely like that, I'm going to suggest the ladder method to you. Make a list of what makes you anxious from littlest to biggest, take them on one by one, slowly, to overcome your anxiety. It worked for me; I hope it will for you as well.
You’re right about anti-depressants; half the time they make you more depressed; as far as I’m concerned, it’s not worth taking the chance. Not wanting to wake up in the morning I completely understand. When you live a life like what you describe; it’s just a vicious circle and you want to break the routine. I still feel that way; I often cry myself to sleep and hope that I won’t wake up every again. All I can say is that that should go away with the depression.
Your job? If it’s really that bad, consider looking into a new job. Don’t quit yet, but maybe look into finding something new. Sometimes just the thought of some change or the hope can keep you going. I’m not saying go back to school and study something new, but maybe start up with another company or teach at a different school or whatever your current job is.
I’m sorry to hear about your father and about what the anti-depressants have done to your mother’s life, but you have to hang in there, it will probably get better soon. If you need any help, please don’t hesitate to contact me; [e-mail]. I’d be happy to hear from you and help you anyway I can.
--Anne

Answer 2

"It's not just him,I'M UNHAPPY WITH MY LIFE and anxiety prevents me from moving forward,i have no friends,a dead end job,i miss my dad who died recently and i want to be with him"

I am sorry you ar having problems but the good news is at least you are willing to admit there is a problem. Now let's try to repair this as much as you can.

First , understand that there may be a family history of depression. What you are experiencing may in part be due to heredity since you imply mom is under medication and her life is a mess. If that is true then it might be more that mom was not complying with what she should take. When people make up their own rules the effects of the medication may be altered enough to not work since a constant blood level may be required for good effects.

Second... the right medication may not have been chosen for your mom. The drug and the dose has to be individualized for that patient and you have to be willing to give feedback to the doctor. Without that, how does he know a change is needed?

Third... Exercise and keep busy. Those who are bored and sedate spend way too much time looking inward for problems and dwelling on them. If they are blown out of proportion in your mind they will consume more of your energy to cope with them.

Fourth... Join a support group like CODA,etc. Group therapy can be as effective as taking medication but even better results when both used together than either one separtately.

It sounds like the boyfriend problem is not a healthy one. I do not know you or him but just maybe the depression is too much for him to handle and that is keeping him distant.... so lets fix this. You have to learn how to take care of yourself before any relationship can be fruitful. Don't let the fears of your earlier years prevent you from making healthier choices for yourself now. Seek guidance of your physician or a specialist in depression.

Please take care of yourself.

Answer 3

Okay, first of all, this man is not for you. It may seem like he's the only one for you and you love him so much- but I promise you there's someone much better out there for you. Do not feel sad for a man who is not worth your time. I am so sorry about your daddy, I can't imagine what you must be going through. But, remember he wouldn't want you to be this sad and live your life this way. MY dad would say- suck it up, and soldier on. You can get through this, everyone has rough patches- but it's the sun that causes shadows, and they will pass. I wish you the best

Answer 4

Try to do other things that you like- music listening, reading, cooking ,if that is something that you like to indulge in. try the best foods and get some new friends . You talk to them or e mail them. Try some vitamins to get over this too(Look at a site for the right vitamins or herbals--do not try drugs which may worsen your case) . if you have lost your loving man , this means he did not love you--forget him. There will be surely someone on your way who deserves your love much more and better.Who has not got heartaches in his/her life?
Go out., do as many activities as you can and enjoy doing.
Best of luck,Do not give way so easily.

Answer 5

try going to a counsler. and if it is at all necessary take something for it like a depression pill. go to your doctor and find one that works for you. but when you get anxiety just do some deep breathing. and close your eyes, relax, put on some relaxing (not sad) music and just "meditate" not really but just relaxing. i have that same problem w/ my boyfriend. i just try to live day to day, until something gets better. if he is really giving you the cold shoulder, then he is probably not worth thinking about it. try to find other guys. you might feel he is the one that you really love, but try finding someone else, even if you feel like you shouldn't.
i'll be praying for you.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

Go see your family doctor and they can evaluate you and refer to an appropriate doctor for treatment. There are meds out there that will treat the very symptoms you have successfully. Your mom's life wasn't ruined by pills but most likely the abuse of those pills.

Answer 8

just know one day it will get better
try not to lose hope
there will always be someone out there more perfect for you than person your with
and b/c it ruined your moms life doesnt mean it will ruin yours
she doesnt dictate your life and control what u do
but most important
if you want a change go make it
want a new job
find a new one
takes steps to make it different
don't settle till u have reached ur goal

Answer 9

See a professional doctor, not help from yahoo answers.
No one can diagnose a condition from a brief paragraph.
Also, many people take tablets, they help, they come off, and they never go back on them again.
You and your mother are different people, and will be effected by pills in different ways.

Answer 10

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