Whenever something goes wrong in our relationship, he will not admit the part he has played in the problem. If he doesn't call me for awhile or answer my phone calls, for instance, he said that I am the one not calling and that he didn't receive my calls. When I swear to him that I have called, he acts as if I am not telling the truth. He is great to be around and I love him, but I can't stand how he always pushes the blame off of himself, even when I think he knows that he is at fault. How do I deal with him?
2007-01-02 08:22:57 · 36 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think it would be okay if once in a while he said he didn't get my calls, but this happens a lot...
2007-01-02 08:24:38 · update #1
I think it would be okay if once in a while he said he didn't get my calls, but this happens a lot...
2007-01-02 08:24:51 · update #2
Why on earth would you want to be with someone who treated you this way?????
2007-01-02 08:25:27 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey I'm never wrong either. It's a burden. Stop calling him then. If he says anything just say "you broke it, now since you are never wrong please feel free on telling us/me how it should be fixed".
Next time use text messaging via computer. It keeps a record.
Clearly this doesn't help you. But, try digging deeper. Why are you even in positions to wit this situation is happening. Perhaps you should take control and fix the little things first. Is there something you need to do to prevent this from happening, or is it something you wished he would change. BarnesandNoble it honey and find a book that you both can read.
Remind him what I remind my love: From here to there, and know further> Either we grow to respect and love each other now with the understanding that we will be forever, or we split and find someone else to die with.
2007-01-02 08:30:37 · answer #2 · answered by NoAnswers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't talk to you for days at a time, there's a problem in your relationship. Are you too clingy? Do you give him space? Do you trust him? Insecurity can play a big part on how you see a relationship. If you are worried you are losing him, you are going to get angry when he doesn't respond to you the way you want him to. My advice to you is to back off. Let him go if he wants to go...because if you crowd and fight and complain you're only going to make the situation worse. Sometimes in relationships people need space...and if you can't trust them enough to let them have it...they get the hell away from it. Call him one time, if he doesn't call you back, wait until the next day. Don't demand he tell you why he didn't call, or insist he tells you where he has been. If you love him, you also trust him...because you cannot have love without trust. Good luck.
2007-01-02 08:28:30 · answer #3 · answered by Destiny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have almost the same problem. I live with my bf who thinks he is right 99% of the time. Yes, it is so annoying. Everything is my fault and he is never to blame. Arguing with a man like this is not only annoying, but it's frustrating. I just ignore him when he starts telling me where I went wrong or what I did wrong. Somehow it works. If you love each other, it will work out.
2007-01-02 08:34:23 · answer #4 · answered by Deborah 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately men always think they are in the right, it just varies on the extent to which they will fight their corner. Find a nice guy who won't treat you like a piece of poo. There are some out there I promise! The kind of guy you are describing sounds like he is seeing how far he can push you with a view to walking all over you. I have been there! It all depends how much of a priority you put on this aspect of the relationship i.e. whether it is worth ignoring to keep all the good bits.
2007-01-02 08:28:09 · answer #5 · answered by Miss Emily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
punch him in the nose and give him a nut kick then tell him this is what happens to a wise guy.
also some cell phones do not show a call if they are not in a good signal, and sometimes they do not record the message, Ive had just about every cell phone you can get in the last 15 years for work and they all malfunction sometimes, esp. if the singnal is not strong.
2007-01-02 08:39:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is either cheating or has some problems (mental). Not to say he can't be a sweet guy, but is this something that is going to last? The problems and the relationship? Might be time to start considering an exit plan.
2007-01-02 08:29:56 · answer #7 · answered by Damon S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dated a guy just like that. he was a sweetheart and a hellof a good guy. But if He didn't call me for a while, the next time I talk to him he would be like, Why haven't you been calling me. Talk to him about it and tell him exactly how you feel. guys hate to be wrong, so the first time don't attack him with it. Express your concerns and if he is a good guy and if he really cars about you, he will stop doing that.
2007-01-02 08:28:14 · answer #8 · answered by sdw2840 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend sounds extremely presumptuos! You have to sit him down and tell him exactly where he is going wrong, if he refuses to listen, then you should walk away. No one deserves someone who isn't willing to admit they are wrong, just to save their own ego and make their partner look like an idiot. Guys likenthat are not worth the hassle. Good Luck! :)
2007-01-02 08:28:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE IS IMMATURE
He is lieing, he got your calls. I went through this, he erased them ok.
Second, he won't change because he acts like a little boy. Little boys takes time to grow up how old is he? Some never do.
Third, if he loves you he will admit to whatever just to have you ok.
2007-01-02 08:29:43 · answer #10 · answered by visitor42353 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend sounds kind of immature to me. We all make mistakes. You should seriously consider how much you really love this guy before wasting more of your time on him. A relationship cannot be one-sided. And that's what this sounds like. Good luck!!
2007-01-02 08:25:56 · answer #11 · answered by arniemail 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋