Ok here is the story....my Fiance' and I have been together for...off and on 3 years now. He works in a facility with A LOT of woman who have a tendency to flirt with him. He admits it because he has seen it but he always tells me there is nothing to worry about. But everytime I see it happen I get jealous. He is the sweetest most caring man I could have ever found. But I do get jealous when this happens and I am not the jealous type.....what can I do to stop? He is not upset with me in anyway. I just know I have never been this way and its bothering me. He thinks of it as a good thing. He likes it when I get that way because I hold onto him even tighter and we know within ourselves that I love him and he loves me.....any suggestions would be great!
2007-01-02 08:20:41 · 22 answers · asked by Believe 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Listen sweetie I have been where you are trust me. But I have come to the realization that you can't be afriad to lose a man. That is when you lose him. When you reveal a way to get under your skin they will use it babygirl. Be content with yourself and treat him the best you feel he deserves. If he would allow another woman to come into his life and risk your relationship then he is not worth your time anyway. Life is too short. So to sum it up relax .
GIVE HIM A CHANCE TO MESS UP BEFORE BUGGIN. If he is a good man like you say those women can want all they want. He probably enjoys the attention because it strokes his ego. Men love that stuff as do we. Chill out babygirl and try to find away that you can be content with you. Remeber a man is there to enhance your life not make it..God Bless
2007-01-02 08:34:02 · answer #1 · answered by me1982 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to feel that way if he is not flirting back and encouraging it. You should be positive about it and say to yourself, "they are admiring what I already have." Tell yourself you are blessed because you don't have to do what they are doing to try and get him, you already have him and you know he loves you and he was reassuring you that you have nothing to worry about. You have a lot of love for him and that is why you became jealous and that is natural, but try to look at it all in a positive light. I wish you both all the best and Happy New Year.
2007-01-02 16:30:48 · answer #2 · answered by killerlegs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know girl! I get soooo jealous because my boyfriend is the same way! He is sooo nice and he is handsome so the girls take it as flirting and they start flirting. It pisses me off and I get jealous. I just think of it like this....u know he loves you if he wanted them then he wouldn't be with you every day he would be with them instead. Try to tone the jealousy down because it will surely ruin a relationship. That is what I was told by a number of my friends and my mom because that happened to them. Im working on it too girl!
2007-01-02 16:25:54 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Mizz.Purdy♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just gotta trust him...the way i controll my thoughts is by flooding my thoughts with other things. If im starting to worry about something, and i notice it...i think about anything and everything accept for that!...like a movie i saw, or something else that happened, maybe even a random math problem that you can make up. Play games that force you to think, like text twist...etc. Than you completely forget what you were thinking about in the first place and it doesn't bother you anymore. Thats how you let it go :)
Good Luck. He seams like a trust worthy guy. I would do my best not to worry about it :)
2007-01-02 16:26:36 · answer #4 · answered by Lek 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you both trust each other completely there is nothing to worry about.
It sounds to me that you care about him a great deal. When tremendous amounts of emtion are involved jealousy can cloud your vision.
You just have to take it in stride, sounds easy right? If you trust and love him believe that he has the best intentions for you both.
The next time you see someone flirting with him, just smile because you are with him, and he loves you. Not them.
Hope that helps
2007-01-02 16:25:28 · answer #5 · answered by Brandy W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have a great man. I agree with what he says actually.
As for the jealousy issue, it's perfectly normal to be jealous. I'm guessing the only problem is that your not used to feeling that way, and it's bugging you. But it's a normal emotion.
If he doesn't flirt back then you have no problem at all.
2007-01-02 16:33:51 · answer #6 · answered by soccerpsychic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as he has established boundaries with these women, you are fine. I would tell him how important it is to you that he sets boundaries at work, on the phone, and out on the town.
My ex used to call me after right before I married my wife and we had a big discussion about boundaries. We haven't had the same problem since and she isn't jealous anymore (and it was a good excuse for me not to talk to my crazy ex).
2007-01-02 16:25:25 · answer #7 · answered by infobrokernate 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you see it happen, give him a HUGE kiss right in front of the girls and wrap your arms around him. He's yours right, so let them know it! He'll like it too. If you treat him like the sexy sweet man that you think he is, he's not going to have eyes for anyone but you anyway. Have fun!
2007-01-02 16:23:44 · answer #8 · answered by Princess~C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're jealous it kind of makes me want to assume you're insecure about your relationship or that you don't trust him?
YOU are the only person who can find inside herself the trust & confidence about your relationship enough to allow jealousy to not be a factor.
2007-01-02 16:24:58 · answer #9 · answered by Miz D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop it! I had a twenty year marriage end because my wife was so sure I cheated that she went out and got a boyfriend. Some of us are completely committed to our relationships, believe us!
2007-01-02 16:29:59 · answer #10 · answered by DWM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋