I saw my boyfriend kissing another girl at a party. He claims that she forced him but I didn't see him struggling to get away. She admitted to forcing him, but she might just be covering him up so if we break up they will get together. We have been together for 2 years and he's never done anything like that before! What should I do? Can I trust him?
2007-01-02 08:13:53 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you keep him, expect more of that behavior. For your own sanity.let him go be with whomever....your gain in the long run.
2007-01-02 08:17:27 · answer #1 · answered by Tammy G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself this question. What would happen if the situation was reversed and he saw you kiss another boy. How would he react? This situation has happened to me in the past with my girlfriend getting drunk and kissing another guy. Regardless if the person is drunk or not there is no excuse for that kind of conduct. I unfortunately made the wrong decision and told my g/f at the time I forgive you dont let it happen again (I was dating her for 1 year at the time) and she unfortuneatly 3 months later did it again. And we ended it. You two need to have a serious convo, and dont ask the other girl anything it is not her fault at all. He still put himself in that situation to get a kiss. If you two seriously think its worth keeping than work it out people do make mistakes, but the relationship will never be the same if both of you start asking eachother 100 questions everyday like where are you goin? who you with? where are you? You know questions that parents ask their children every day. Those questions can be real stressful all the time, and will ruin a relationship. So if you two are willing to work things out keep that in mind. You have to act like it never happened, and not bring it up. Forgive and forget. If you are not willing to do that than my suggestion to you is take a break from each other and see what happens from there.
2007-01-02 08:41:03 · answer #2 · answered by Jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She actually may have forced one on him and he probably didn't struggle away because he was at a party and didn't want to cause a scene. If you've been with him for 2 years and he's never done anything like this before, then he's probably telling the truth, so trust him and give him another chance before you decide to boot him to the curb. Good Luck!
2007-01-02 08:18:37 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Quentin's Mommy♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U have been together for 2 yrs??!! That is really hard, but at the same time... I don't know if you could trust him now. Sure she may have intiated it, but if you didn't see him pull away or fight it... then he 99% percent wasn't fighting it. Just bc you have never seen him do it before, doesn't mean he hasn't. And if the chick was eager to admit that she forced him... that makes me think they either a) have had something going on for a while and a planned story in case they got caught, or b) she felt really bad about making out with your bf. Most girls who force themselves on guys don't feel bad afterwards.
after 2 yrs u should be able to tell when hes lying. It may be time to cut that one loose if you sense hes untrustworthy.
2007-01-02 08:22:43 · answer #4 · answered by Heart of Gold 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really believe that he did not invite the kiss. Than this is one of the few times I would say forgive and forget.
Assuming it happened as you said, sure some people might pull away, but not all people would and it is not that they want to be kissed, but rather the person is probably in a bit of shock and is unclear of what to do.
I hate to use the analogy, but it is something like when a woman gets rape, but does not fight back. it is somewhat callous to say that means she wanted it. It's really the same principle here. This girl forced herself on him, how is that his fault.
So if you think it was an uninvited kiss, than let it slide. Of course if it happens again, then you need to really see if he is doing something to provoke these actions.
2007-01-02 08:26:53 · answer #5 · answered by The Teacher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok the big clue here is that the other girl admitted to making him kiss her. If it was anything would she have done that? I mean if it was a relationship he was having with her... would you do that? Wouldnt you have made a big deal of the kiss or tried to get mad at him for having a girlfriend? It was nothing...keep him.
2007-01-02 08:18:48 · answer #6 · answered by Vyktor1971 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long was the kiss? if it was a quick one on the lips, your boyfriend may not have had time to do anything, any longer though and I would say dump him because although he may regret it he did break your trust
2007-01-02 08:18:14 · answer #7 · answered by Eric H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was me, I would never trust my man again, if he laid his lips onto another woman's lips. Oh and also, what is he a little rag doll? No woman can force a man to kiss her! Tell him to come off it, drop him like a hot potatoe and tell him that he does not deserve to be associated with you anymore.
2007-01-02 08:18:13 · answer #8 · answered by ms_moonlight1977 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you really want to see what's up try letting out the rope....
Play along and ask to get toghter with her for a 3some, get him talking on what he likes and expects, what he would like to experiment doing.
If he opens up and tells you what he really wants then you will know if this is the person you want to spend your time/life with.
If he opens up and tells you the truth and you don't like it, don't make him change, let him go find a better match for him. And you go find someone that is a better match for you.
2007-01-02 08:17:56 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wasn't really into it then I certainly wouldn't worry too much about it.
It's ok to let him know that you don't approve of it but you should maybe just let it go.
It's not worth breaking up over.
All guys do stupid things like that.
You can punish him by making him buy you something really nice and expensive to prove that he is sorry it ever happened.
2007-01-02 08:17:39 · answer #10 · answered by Jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
totally dump the guy. If you saw him kissing her, its a possiblility that hes done more than kissing. You dont need that in a relationship.dump the guy..move on and find a better guy! once a cheater, always a cheater
2007-01-02 08:17:55 · answer #11 · answered by Rachel D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋