I found out a couple of days ago that my 3 1/2 year old half brother died. I was upset, but of course my Dad and Stepmom got it worse. So I put my feelings aside to try to console them. I'm just not sure how to. They live in a different country than me. We're halfway around the world from each other. They have 3 other kids, but the 3 1/2 year old was the youngest. He didnt deserve to die. What should I do?
2007-01-02 08:09:48 · 16 answers · asked by BeBe b 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Know one deserves to die sweetie, I think that just sending them some letters on how you are and what you are doing will keep them interested in the fact that they do have other children who need them. The loss of a child is the hardest thing to deal with, but they will have to greive and you need to let them greive. You also need to grieve for you little brother and it is ok for you to do that. Do not put your grief away to save others in their grief it wont work. I am sorry for you and your family and just remember to keep calling them and writing them and letting them know how much you care. If you can visit them that might be helpful and give them something to look forward to as well.
Condolences to you and your family
2007-01-02 08:18:11 · answer #1 · answered by Tracylyn S 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When people are suffering greatly they do not see, they do not listen, they can't think, they can't reason because the pain blots everything out. When people are suffering greatly they need to be looked after and cared for. Is there anyway you can go and stay with them a while to help them with the other three children? Is there anyway you can give support to the children through phone calls or e-mails? Maybe you can pay someone in that country to visit them and maybe do the cleaning or cook or take the children to school or things like that. Maybe you can invite the whole family to stay with you a while. Maybe you can call them often and listen to them express their feelings, the father, the stepmother, the children, too.
2007-01-02 08:20:10 · answer #2 · answered by carmelitacerda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's such a shame. I'm really sorry to hear that. Really, right now the only thing you can do for them is let them know you love them and then allow them to go through the grieving process. Perhaps you could send them a card (or an E-card) every day for a few weeks with words of love and encouragement. What they need more than anything right now is time and understanding.
2007-01-02 09:59:59 · answer #3 · answered by 'tisJustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
family individuals isn't the comparable because it grew to become into for me. My family individuals did no longer would desire to be appropriate. i grew to become into raised in a tribe. You loss out once you permit the courtroom decide for who seems when you. via regulation, your 'mom' could be in can charge of you if your father is 'out of city' however the regulation is blind on your actual needs. How long will your dad's pal be 'babysitting' you? If it is in uncomplicated terms for an afternoon or 2, way trouble? stay cool and shop secure.
2016-10-06 08:29:54 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you and you family are dealing with this. You are really a sweet seek help for them, but just be there for them. Get them to be more active with your other kids. Send movie tickets, family games, little things like that. A memory book would nice
2007-01-02 08:17:27 · answer #5 · answered by Akasha 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its hard to do anything under these circumstances. The best thing to do is pray and ask someone close to them to just "be there for them." Words and the search for answers will do them no good. Often the best "friend" is one who is just there, and not one who says anything.
2007-01-02 08:18:36 · answer #6 · answered by LAMON W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let them know you care and can talk to them when they need to talk.
Other than that, there isn't really a lot that you can do, since everyone needs to grieve differently.
I'm so sorry that you and your family are dealing with this.
2007-01-02 08:13:09 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Being that I have just lost my son (born to early)I know how they and you feel. Since you live so far away there isn't much you can do. Just let them know that you love them so much and care just like they do. Offer your help on anything and do what you can for them.
My prayers for you and your family.
2007-01-02 08:16:09 · answer #8 · answered by angelmwilson 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
You can provide them with the strength that they dont have at this time..Keep every conversation with them positive and light. give them time to grieve, but not time to dwell if u know what I mean. you may have to become an anchor, and switch roles with them, comfort them.
2007-01-02 08:23:09 · answer #9 · answered by jimckinnon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for your family's loss. Just let them know that you are there for them and pray for them. They have to deal with their loss and heal on their own.
2007-01-02 08:34:47 · answer #10 · answered by Fiyah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋