I have a picture of just my face on match.com .A few good looking guy winked at me and we emailed back and forth a few times.Now they wants to meet for coffee or drinks but I have some weight to lose.The photo of me is recent that my son snapped with my digital camera.He has several pictures of himself and looks like he is in top shape.I have hired a personal trainer because I haven't been able to exercise like I should because of a frozen shoulder.Why am I so self conscious and anxious to meet for coffee?
2007-01-02 08:04:01 · 8 answers · asked by eagle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I say to just make sure the guy knows exactly what you look like. Take a body shot. If he knows what you look like for real and still wants to go out or meet then do it. If he's turned off then I wouldn't really care too much because people's looks change over time and if he doesn't like the package now, what's going to happen in 10 years! I met the love of my life on Match.com My wife's picture was outdated and not really how she looked at the time but she was very honest about how she looked and I fell in love with her for who she is. We both had kids from previous marriages and were looking for specific things and found each other. Go for it and keep on your toes. Be honest but realize everyone out there isn't. You're not self conscious - you're NORMAL! Good luck!
2007-01-03 07:41:51 · answer #1 · answered by Joe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello there
I was on match and for me and my fiancée worked very well.
I know how nervous you could feel about the first meet, I was as well!! although we had a lot of time to chat and exchange emails.
My advice to you, if he wants to meet you in person for coffe its because he thinks you have a pretty face and so far he likes the personality in you, looks its at the end of the day not everything, its personality.
Go for it, I promise that he will be as nervous and insecure as you are, you both want to make a good impression!!
Be secure of yourself at all times, and try to be yourself always.
Everyone worthy would understand if you havent been able to be on your shape, dont let this little issue be on your mind when you are meeting someone you like. Be positive!!
And if your looks its really in your concern try to wear something that suits you best and show the best on you ;)
good luck on match girl!!
ps you always get to know great people and you end up with the one you least expected,.
2007-01-02 16:19:12 · answer #2 · answered by luisa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop being so hard on yourself! Many men like a fuller figured woman. Just be honest and up front, there is no need to make anyone uncomfortable. You or him. Just be sure you meet in a public place. Even if this guy is in tip top shape, there may be no chemistry for you either. You will never know if you don't get out there!
2007-01-02 16:09:24 · answer #3 · answered by Bev 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go. Being self confident is much sexier than worrying about your weight. If he's a good guy, maybe you'll continue into a relationship. If not, there are plenty of other people out there for you.
2007-01-02 16:10:13 · answer #4 · answered by Jereza 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ah, just go. dont worry about a little weight. go and have fun girl!
2007-01-02 16:06:40 · answer #5 · answered by BUTTERFLY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
2007-01-02 16:05:39 · answer #6 · answered by . 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't do it it might be a predator. i'm not kidding. you've seen those news on tv.
2007-01-02 16:06:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
dont be...
2007-01-02 16:06:41 · answer #8 · answered by lemony l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋