My mom has a severe drinking problem, she has had help many times, she stopped for a short time and now she trys sneaking drinks and shes become addicted to pain medications as a result of not being able to drink as much as she was....she is so 'loopy' all the time. I'm at the point where I don't even like visiting her anymore because she knows how I feel about the situation....and I don't enjoy her company much when shes like this. I know that a person needs to want to help theirself. She was always such a good mother when i was growing up, i hate to see her like this. Does anyone know of any good advice or some good website to get info from I can give to her, maybe open her eyes....??
Also, I am 23 weeks pregnant with my 1st child and her 1st grandchild, you would think this would be some inspiration for her, wouldn't you...?????
2007-01-02 07:59:54 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your mom sounds my MIL. She's an alcoholic as well but in denial and won't help herself. We assumed when we had our first child (her first grandchild) the same thing "Oh, she'll stop drinking because we won't allow her to babysit if she doesn't and blah blah blah..." Well, it didn't work and we tried all kinds of things to get her help before the baby was born. We tried an intervention and she broke down and cried saying we all hated her and refused to believe we were just helping her. She will not admit she's got a problem. My daughter is 6 months old now and we let her babysit for the first time a week ago...ONLY because my sister-in-law and father-in-law were also there to watch my daughter. They both informed me that she didn't touch any alcohol or pain killers...we were thrilled to hear it but will still NEVER leaver her alone with her until she's done completely with it all and gets help. So if your mom can at least admit she has a problem then there is a good chance of AA or an intervention working for you guys. I wish you the best and hope it works out better for you than it has for us...I suppose we'll be taking the baby step approach until she can admit she's got a problem. Congrats and best wishes!
2007-01-02 08:09:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-25 23:07:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should have an intervention. take all her loved ones and talk to her about what it is that is bothering you. and in some states you cam admit her to a rehab center if you go to a local rehab and ask them about it then they should be Abel to tell you what is up. i think that you have to get 3 signatures. if you do the intervention make sure that you are supportive and you tell her that you love her and care about her and tell her how it is hurting you. i hope that things go good for you. and congratulations on the baby. blessed be.
2007-01-02 08:11:47 · answer #3 · answered by shy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alcoholism is a disease. Your mom is a sick person. Try checking out Al-anon. www.al-anon.alateen.org This has worked for many people who are dealing with a family member struggling with alcoholism. I really hope this helps you. You can't change your mother, but you can find better ways of dealing with her sickness.
2007-01-02 08:18:57 · answer #4 · answered by BSTER 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her know that this upsets you and don't want your child around her until she gets help. Maybe that will open her eyes to the situation and she will see how bad it has gotten.
2007-01-02 08:06:25 · answer #5 · answered by DL 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋