I am getting Married in May, my Grandmother is not doing to well. I barely have the wants to keep planning, everything is almost set for the day I choose. There is just a couple of things that need to be dealt with, but I dont have the want to keep planning becuase my Grandmother is not doing to well, does anybody have any advice? I dont know how to handle this situation?
2007-01-02 07:58:01 · 5 answers · asked by indiradelmar57 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I kind of know what you are going threw, I don't know what your grandma has but I'm getting married in May as well and mine is 89 and has been iin and out of the hosp with pnemonia for the past 6 monthand ever time I see here she looks worse and worse. My family told me to keep everything as is and if she isn't there just to do something in the servis special for her. If you need any advice or support just e-mail me.
2007-01-02 08:05:43 · answer #1 · answered by mhireangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I recommend is postponing the wedding for a few months. In the meantime, you might consider having an engagement party for your family that your grandmother can attend. Engagement parties are much more informal than weddings, and will include people who will definitely be at the wedding - so you can still celebrate your pending nuptials without the stress of planning a big formal wedding and worrying whether your grandmother will be well enough to be at the wedding. At least with the engagement party, it can be informal and at your parent's home or someplace like that. It can be simple but include parents, friends, family members. If your grandmother gets tired, she can rest in the guestroom or something like that.
Also, if your grandmother doesn't make it to May (and especially if she passes near the wedding date), it could be really stressful for you and your family - it would be better to postpone the wedding now, so that should the unfortunate happen you can devote your energies to your grandmother's plans as she deserves, and have your special day later in the year.
2007-01-02 08:11:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think your Grandmother would want you to be happy.
Make her feel included by keeping her updated on the plans if she is up to it. It might lift her spirts.
Make sure you videotape it for her if she can't make it.
And remember, it would do her more harm to think that she was keeping you from your happiness.
You could end up postponing things forever, she may be "not doing well' for a very long time.
2007-01-02 08:04:22 · answer #3 · answered by apbanpos 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep going on with your plans. Like to other person said maybe you should think about moving up the date. I know grandparents are very special. I personally don't have any of mine with me anymore. But I did have them around when I got married. I know it is hard to lose one. But you have to keep going. Best wishes on your wedding.
2007-01-02 08:08:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could always move up the date so you know for sure that your grandmother will be able to attend. im sorry about your grandmother. if you want her to be there maybe you should move up the date.
2007-01-02 08:03:53 · answer #5 · answered by jessg323 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋