i am enaged and everyone keeps asking me when the date is ..the thing is we havent set a date because we dont have freakin 10,000 to blow on a wedding right now! does anyone have suggestions (other then a backyard wedding) for having a nice wedding without spending alot of money??
2007-01-02 07:44:39 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
i dont mind having a small wedding!! its my fiance who wants to spend the big bucks not because hes greedy but because we both work so hard he thinks we deserve it alot how can i convince him to relax about it a small wedding can be nice too!?
2007-01-02 07:55:26 · update #1
It's really easy to make a wedding less expensive. Here are just a few tips...
~Have a friend do the food. Many recipes can be made in advance, and still look beautful when served. You can focus on Hor d'erves or desert. A desert bar is always fun. Also go to your local Micheals (arts and craft store) for the cake. They offer a cake decorating class, and their final is to do a wedding cake. Ask the teacher if any of their students would mind doing yours for free practice or really cheap.
~ Have a friend take the main photos with a good digital camera, and have disposable cameras on the tables. Then everyone gets to be the photographer, and you'll get great shots of things you might have missed.
~Be your own DJ! With todays world of computers, and itunes, it was never easier to put together your own playlist. All you need is someone without stage fright to MC for ya!
~City parks are beautiful places for ceremonies and receptions. Or if you want to do the ceremony there only, VFW halls dressed up a bit can look fantastic, and are big enogh to accommodate a lot of people. You just have to the decorating yourself.
Well I hope I helped some.... If your in Central California let me know and I'd be happy to give you some more help!
2007-01-02 08:01:59 · answer #1 · answered by past_princess 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be concerned that your fiance says "we deserve it because we work so hard." Deserve to go into debt? Deserve to ruin your opportunity to buy a home? Deserve what? A wedding is one day, while a marriage is hopefully a lifetime. Start now on some pre-marital counseling that will also include discussions about how you will handle finances, spending, debt, priorities, conflict resolution. I've seen so many gi-normous weddings and receptions that resulted in a divorce within a few years, and among other things, I always think "what a waste of money that was!" Remember, the wedding is not the outcome, but having a relationship that lasts is the goal. There are lots of great ideas for a low-cost wedding presented by others here.
2007-01-02 08:25:24 · answer #2 · answered by snapoutofit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I spent about a little less than $1,000. We went to a little wedding chapel on the beach. I bought my dress at a Jessica McClintock store(not a full wedding gown, but a really nice dress) and invited only our very closest friends/family (15 people in all). Then we had hor dourves with wine and champagne on the patio at a nice restaurant. Everyone kept saying how intimate and nice our wedding was. To tell you the truth, I wouldn't change it for the world. And better yet, when we got home from our honeymoon, our friends that didn't come to the wedding threw us a reception at their expense including wedding cake, the whole 9 yards...good luck, you can do it!
2007-01-02 07:57:00 · answer #3 · answered by Michelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel!! My fiance and I are having the same problem. Weddings are expensive no matter how small you try to make it. Try to figure out what are the most important components of your wedding. For some people it might be photos for others it might be nice reception. Try to do as much as possible by yourself to also help cut down on expenses. You can also get friends involved in your wedding. My best friend took a floral class for fun and will be making the bouquets, my aunt loves to cook and will be preparing all of the food. Since they will be preforming these services we do not have to pay for labor just the materials.
2007-01-02 08:12:25 · answer #4 · answered by umelme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the marriage that is important not the wedding. If you are ready to be engaged, then you should get married. Engagement without a wedding date is really, quite meaningless.
Find a small chapel, invite family and close friends for an afternoon ceremony. Serve appetizers and cake immediately following the ceremony in the lobby. You could even do the appetizers yourself from Costco.
Then if you wish, you could go to a nice but moderately priced local restaurant for lunch/early dinner with your immediate famil and intimate friends. You may even be able to set up a small inexpensive banquet.
When your budget allows, throw yourself a big party for all your friends and family - maybe a 1st Anniversary party. That might satisfy your fiance's desire to "treat' yourselves w/o waiting to get married.
2007-01-02 07:58:38 · answer #5 · answered by apbanpos 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could rob a bank for quick bucks. Okay, maybe not. I may be out of touch at 43 years old and having a wife I adore, but it's not about the wedding and the money spent on it. It's all about the love.
My wife is my second one. The first time around was a upscale wedding complete with all the trim. It was quite a statement. It cost us a bundle. The union lasted almost ten years. The second time was simple and pure. Trust me, focus on the love, it's a better statement.
I wish you good luck and much happiness.
2007-01-02 07:51:12 · answer #6 · answered by Thomas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a small wedding at your local church or reception hall. You can usually book a hall for the day for a few hundred bucks. Then have a catering company come provide the food. Shop around for cheap prices but good food. You could probably get the food for $5.00-$10.00 a plate. Only invite close frineds and family to keep the cost down.
Good luck and congrats on your engagement!
2007-01-02 07:57:52 · answer #7 · answered by brynn_kelley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I had a small wedding. Not because we couldn't afford it, but so we could have a longer and better honeymoon. Have it at a small church, a few family and friends. Have your brides maids help you with setting the place up. Go with silk flowers for decoration. And skip all the things that aren't necessary.Get a simple dress. (personally I think they are prettier anyways) and remind your man that it's only one day and no matter how it turns out you'll always remember it.
~Best of wishes and good luck
2007-01-02 08:28:42 · answer #8 · answered by anna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you and your fiance have this disparate a view about money and the importance of a big lavish expensive wedding, I think you might want to rethink getting married at all. The #1 reason for marriages going bust is differences about finances. It sounds as if you and your fiance have some really basic differences in philosophy about how you spend your money, and those differences aren't going to go away after you get married.
You might want to explore the concept of pre-nuptial counseling with your fiance and discuss this issue in the context of what your married life is going to be.
2007-01-02 08:40:39 · answer #9 · answered by Karin C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do a lot of the decorations yourself, buy a dress from a second hand store (Their are some nice dresses that are used) or barrow from a person from work, Cater you own food. There are many ways, you just have to make up your mind if your getting married because you love someone or your just trying to impress relatives/friends at a wedding.
2007-01-02 07:49:01 · answer #10 · answered by juscallmesweety 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋