The love of my life is traveling to Amsterdam for one day on his way to another country for work. My guy told me his work buddy whom he is traveling with is a good guy exept he is drunk and goes to Red light district when he is down in Amsterdam. I am nervouse and worried. My guy stoped drinking a few years ago. He said he was a heavy drinker before. And the last time he went to Amsterdam with his work buddy he never went to Red light District but his friend did. He said he would never go there this time either and when his friend goes there let him go alone. He sometimes jokes around and says that he is going there. He likes to joke alot. I am a little paranoid and scared because I am affraid his budy might ask him to go with him or ask him to drink. Since I can't call him or email him I will be worried sick until he gets back in 2 week. Am I worrying unessarly? We love each other so much. Before he left I told him how much I loved him, kissed him and gave hima hug.
2007-01-02 07:42:24 · 21 answers · asked by Need H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your boyfriend seems to be a joker :-)
I think you are worrying without reason. Relax and look forward to seeing him again. I am sure he loves you as much as you love him, and that he didn't go the red light district.
2007-01-02 07:45:14 · answer #1 · answered by Great Dane 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I believe you could be a heavy drinker and have one and be ok. It is all a mind game. Over eatters, drinkers, sex addicts... Can they have it occationally? If you can think one and stop it is good. How long have you been with him? Do you trust him, and has he ever did something to make you not trust him? If he didn't do it here and he didn't do it the last time he is not going to do it this time. Go about you life as if he is somewhere else, and if he comes home and tells you he did something then worry. Why worry for no reason!?
2007-01-02 15:55:39 · answer #2 · answered by Care 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For you to be "worried sick" for the next two weeks is unhealthy.
Has he been unfaithful to you before? Is that why you are fearful now? Or is this about other people in the past and you are projecting your fear onto him?
If there is not trust between the two of you-- if you don't see him having a character that is trustworty-- then you don't have a healthy relationship at all.
You have to trust and admire and respect a person to have anything at all with the person. Ask yourself if this is about him, or if it is really about you and your insecurity.
If it is about him (because he has cheated on you and you know it), then you need to ask yourself why you are still with a person who is untrustworthy.
If it is about you (and he keeps his promises and is stable emotionally and respectful and kind to you), then take time to look at why it is you are letting fear control you and make you "worried sick."
Trust and respect are the bedrock of any relationship. If you don't trust him, there is no real relationship.
2007-01-02 15:49:32 · answer #3 · answered by No substitute for privacy online 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be worried how dare he do this to you..he wouldnt like it if you went away with a girl friend to Spain or turkey where all the hunky waiters would be chasing you..he is a selfiish cheeky pig..If he does go to the red light district i hope he catches crabs.
2007-01-02 15:46:29 · answer #4 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why cant you call or email? if hes in amsterdam over night at least he could ring before he left no? he sounds decent enough though. if he was going to go there he wouldnt tell you about it and wouldnt joke about it either. he would have tried to make as little fuss about it as possible.
2007-01-02 15:47:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry. You trust him right? It's really his friend that worries you. Your guy has already told you he won't go. Isn't that enough?
Tell him to be good and to be safe. And that you will be waiting for him when he comes back.
2007-01-02 15:52:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you trust him or not?? I've been to Amsterdam, there's plenty to do without chasing whores. Whereever he goes, you need to ask yourself if you trust him. Check your own relationship. I traveled alot and never cheated. Talk to him!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-02 16:00:10 · answer #7 · answered by DWM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't u really love this man and u just don't want him to hurt himself i would not worry he sounds like a good man to be trust him that the most important thing in a relationship
2007-01-02 15:47:35 · answer #8 · answered by little ly 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I completely understand why you are worrying, but if he's smart and really loves you, he won't do anything stupid. Just relax and look forward to him coming home. And if he does do something stupid, then it is his mistake...
2007-01-02 15:51:01 · answer #9 · answered by Roberta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you trust him with all your heart then you shouldn't have anything to worry about. i agree with some of the other answers,just relax and look forward to his return
2007-01-02 15:53:43 · answer #10 · answered by ken s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋