i am 29 yrs have to live with my mother and step-dad as i don't have much of a leg to stand on,?

Question

am only livin with them coz of my daughter, i am isolated and cut off except for my child, my step-dad held me and my mum went to take my eye out before that they patronised me told me i was imagining things and all sorts , they put me down all the time my daughter is 9 she's had to put up with this most of her life, i have purple matks around my eye, 1 off the last time they attacked me and i phoned the police hysterical as they gave my pet sparrow that i rescued to the cat i got arrested as i was so hysterical they tried to blame me which made me more hysterical; sp dont tell me to phone the police

Answer 1

You need a social worker to help you with.......everything!

Answer 2

I'm not sure I understand. You're 29. You're old enough to have a job and be self sufficient. That would certainly get you out of the abusive situation you seem to be in. At least it would be a good start. If it were me, I might even try to get into a women's / children's shelter somewhere just until I got on my feet. Forget the police, you need to stand up by yourself. You need to make a new life for you and your daughter. She's learning this is the "normal" way to live. Do you want THAT???

Answer 3

if this post is for real then i suggest you get out and take your daughter RIGHT NOW, instead of sitting on the computer asking for opinions...if you go to a police station they WILL find a shelter for you both...then they will take action against your parents...don't allow cruelty to your daughter, let alone you....leave now, someone will help you...theres always help out there and the police are a head start, they have contacts with people who deal with abuse victims and hey will guide you in the right direction...it's up to you, but if i were you, i would not hesitate o remove my child away from this situation, if your that desperate then you'll do it...theres a kid involved here for gods sake...think of her...i know that you don't want to call the police but the only way to stop this is by doing th right thing, they are meant to be your parents...they are more like enemies (stand up to them) call the police and stop this now, they are treating you like sh!t

if this post is NOT for real then i suggest you get a brain.....either way, good luck

the reason why i am sceptical about this post is because of the (pet sparrow) bit...i just couldn't get my head round that bit...but i gave my opinion,

Answer 4

The answer is simple - move out. The reason they are so hysterical with you is that you are a huge cuckoo sitting in their nest with absolutely no sign of leaving. Has it ever occurred to you that they have their own plans for their lives that don't include you?

Get government assistance if you have to or retrain to do a job that allows you to support your daughter while she is at school. She is old enough now to understand that her mother needs to work to support you both.

Above all, regain your independence and allow your parents to do the same - your relationship with them both will improve out of sight once you take serious steps to look after yourself and your child.

Answer 5

wow, you're in a bad situation. Why don't you go to college and get financial aid? Go get a full time job to support both you and your daughter! You're 29! You shouldn't be living anywhere you don't want. Get a steady boyfriend. Change your life for the better. I really wish you had a better relationship with your parents. Try and see if you can improve your relationship with them by making resolutions.

Answer 6

You have to find a way to get out. Get a better job. Don't worry about trying to give your daughter everything. When it comes right down to it, things are not what matter in this life. It's the people and relationships you develop. You have a bad relationship with your parents. You're old enough you don't have to stay there.

Answer 7

You are a grown woman, with a child, and you are living off on your stepfather and mother.
He feels that he is supporting you and your child, and that should not be the case. He is trying his way to get you motivated to get back on your feet, and move out, and have success.
I would not call the police, you will burn bridges that way with your family.
Get some schooling, training, and get a job, and find a way to support yourself and your daughter.
Your stepdad cares, but his way of showing is not the right way, but he does care.

Answer 8

My goodness,
Why not go to see social services or just declare that you've been thrown out of their house and need a place to stay.
If you stay there, eventually you'll lose your daughter, they'll have you sent to the mad house and ...
Come on, phone the samaritans, try and ask them where you could start to get a new shelter.

Answer 9

Hi, for one thing you dont have to take that at all. Go to your local councell sure they can put you and your daugter in a hostel or apartment till they get you a house. You should think about your daugther. You are 29 and can do what you want.
Just get out of there.

Answer 10

You are an adult get a life, I think that is what your parents are trying to tell you loud and clear. Another thing you need to understand is you are not doing your daughter any good by living under the circumstances. Please grow up and get a better life for your daughter if not for you and stop whining.

Answer 11

It would seem that they are guilty of assault. Instead of 'phoning the police, go in person to a police station, and make a complaint against them.

Keep an accurate record of all events, include dates, times, and exactly what happened. This may help your case.