My girlfriend and I had broken up over the holidays, and got back together just before the beginning of the New Year. Unfortunately, while we were broken up, her ex just happened to be in town and spent some time with her. He has since left, but his memory lingers in her mind. She use to be very passionate about telling me how much she loves me but appears to be scared. Last night, she told me that she misses him. What can I do? How can you fight a ghost?
2007-01-02 07:41:32 · 21 answers · asked by devildoc75 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Unfortunately you can't. It is up to her to get over him. It is possible seeing her ex brought up feelings that she thought were gone but were not really. She is probably very confused right now cause she cares for you but still has feelings for him and probably will need some time. Maybe you should give her space so she can figure out what she wants but talk to her first.
2007-01-02 07:45:31 · answer #1 · answered by TLC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she spent time with him and misses him he's not such a ghost...what happens the next time he comes into town? I could never settle for second best. Did she break up with you because she knew he would be in town...did it really just happen.
2007-01-02 07:45:32 · answer #2 · answered by Raven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will pass with time if you create new special times of your own. If she ever dated him at all, then she has some sort of feeling left for him. It's natural, and unavoidable. But if your own love is strong enough, then it'll pull through. Sometimes talking about your past helps you let go of it. This will pass and you'll be back to your happy, healthy relationship with her soon. :)
2007-01-02 07:46:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is telling you that she misses another guy...then she is trying to tell you that she doesn't want to be with you (and not very still either). You need give her time alone to work through her feelings and not allow her to string you along in the mean time.
2007-01-02 07:48:26 · answer #4 · answered by skittle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should ask yourself if you want to fight that ghost. You can always ask her flat out, "Do you want me or him?" The truth may hurt, but at least you know sooner rather than later. Then again, it may she may see that she could lose you over it and decide to give you her all. Good luck.
2007-01-02 07:46:09 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is in love with someone else sorry she must no really love you
u should move on because he wont get out of her head and u should realize that before its too late and i bet she slept with him while u were broke up she may have known he was gonna be around and planned the break up then it didnt work with him and shes running back
2007-01-02 07:47:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to back up and let her have her time to think. She's conflicted, she will have to work it out. If you think you can still have a soplid relationship after she decides, hang in there. My thought is that if she compared your relationship with her last one, you gotta move on.
2007-01-02 07:48:26 · answer #7 · answered by DWM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she will have to remember the things that she didn't like about him...that happened to me....i had to choose between two great guys...i went with the guy who i had more fun with and was nicer...and i still thought about the guy i didn't pick but now i am very glad and happy tha ti picked my man.
there is also a possibility that she will go back to him be prepared for that as well.
2007-01-02 07:44:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have to agree with some of the others. End the relationship. Its not like you are married. No legal contracts or oaths. Find someone else.
2007-01-02 07:47:00 · answer #9 · answered by Bella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alcohol.
You can't fight a ghost.
You either have to deal with it or let go of the relationship.
2007-01-02 07:43:04 · answer #10 · answered by Jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋