Ok, so... In a nut shell this is what has happened....
About 3 months ago, I started dating this guy (Guy #1). So #1 and I are going great until about December first. Then we break up, but we both still having feelings for eachother. He says he just doesn't want to hurt me by deciding he doesn't want a girlfriend and then breaking up with me. We didn't talk for about 3 weeks, but then, he started calling again. We've been talking on the phone and flirting...
In the midst of this, Christmas Eve I started officially dating this other guy (Guy #2). I like this other guy, but he just doesn't give me that "Wow Factor" you want when you FIRST start dating a guy. He's sweet, and funny, and I really don't want to hurt him, but I still REALLY like this other guy, maybe more. But I know if I dump #2 things with #1 may/may not work out. So I'm sticking with #2.
Today #1 came by my house to pick up some stuff and he kissed me on the forhead I didn't kiss back. Am I cheating on #2?
2007-01-02 07:36:54 · 16 answers · asked by Freak M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok... But if #2 THINKS we're exclusive... is it bad? and is it bad that I want #1?
2007-01-02 07:44:08 · update #1
What do you mean 'officially dating"? You went out with the guy for the first time less than a week ago, it's not like you're engaged. If you are not married and you have no spoken committment not to see anyone else then you are not cheating.
2007-01-02 07:44:12 · answer #1 · answered by Jadalina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does not the answer to your question depend on what the understanding is that 'Guy#2' has of your relationship with him?
Do you know what "lying by omission" is?
If 'Guy#2' THINKs he & you are exclusive, & you don't tell him you're still interacting with Guy#1, that is an example of "lying by omission". If #2 does not have any reason to think that you are exclusively seeing just him, it would still be the honest thing to let him know that you're still interacting with #1. He has the right to make his own decisions, based on facts, not lies. Don't you want to have a relationship based on trust? Any other kind will crumble. You ought also to consider what Christ said at ...
Matthew 5:28 :
"Everyone that keeps on looking at a [man] so as to have a passion for [him] has already commited adultery with [him] in [her] heart."
2007-01-02 18:13:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're feeling guilty about it...it's probably not the right thing to be doing. If you have no "feelings" towards guy 2 than maybe you should let him know that. You can still hang out...but as a friend. Don't be afraid of being alone. So what if things don't work out with either of the guys. You can live without them both. There are plenty of nice guys out there. :)
2007-01-02 15:47:24 · answer #3 · answered by GO SOONERS!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it is not cheating if u really want to be with #2, but if u are not sure of that it really is not fair to him! u clearly still have strong feelings for #1! u should not be messing with peoples feelings like that! try to imagine how u would feel like if u were in #2s shoes. wouldn't u rather know how that other person in fact feels about #1, even if it means that u will have to end you re relationship! its better to be honest and that means that first u have to be honest with your self! i really do be live it is a very hard situation for you, but please, take some time for yourself, sit down and think! do something for your body and soul and get in touch with your inner voice... you'll see problems will disappear on ther own.
hope u dill with this well! and remember no mater what life goes on, but it is too special and too short to spend it doing things u dont enjoy. belive in yourself! love yourself and dont be put up with people that dont respect u!
have a good life!
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2007-01-02 16:05:21 · answer #4 · answered by aanita 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If by forhead, you mean open mouth with tongue, yes. You should have seen it coming. Sounds like you need to go for guy #3. The fat guy at the end of the bar whose been drinking all day because he doesn't have a job, and now he's talking to the beer tap about how horrible life is.
2007-01-02 15:42:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. A kiss can be a sign of friendship. The flirting, on the other hand, isn't advisable and if #2 finds out, he has good reason to be annoyed.
2007-01-02 15:42:02 · answer #6 · answered by Tom :: Athier than Thou 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you say you didnt do anything when #1 kissed you on the forhead so thats not considered cheating but say you kissed him back then that would be cheating. so no worries. stay with #2.
2007-01-02 16:01:49 · answer #7 · answered by angelbaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope sounds like you are dating 1 & 2 and there is nothing wrong with that. just make sure they both know you arent seeing either of them exclusively
2007-01-02 15:42:22 · answer #8 · answered by GAgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh Dear God!!
No you're not cheating on anyone....
It's not cheating unless you plan it out....intentionally go out with someone else while still being in a separate relationship!
And honestly....it's not cheating until there's a ring on your finger.
You can't cheat on someone without a heart-felt commitment!
2007-01-02 15:41:36 · answer #9 · answered by Nibbles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like #1 is actaully a piece of #2. Get rid of him.
2007-01-02 15:49:15 · answer #10 · answered by jessie1985 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋