Okay really embarasing....................shy............................................I can't help it...

Question

Um, I am like, mentally stable, don't worry.........but I am sooooooooo scared of people. Like, when I see people I don't know.I like hide, or totally try and ignore them. they just SCARE me. Just regular people. But when ever I am on the phone, or on IM or something, I am not scared at all. Its weird. Like today...in school..we moved seats.
I formerly sat next to my best friend, and now I sat down in a little group with stangers..it was too much for me I guess......I just burst into tears and ran to the nurses office. I was really embarrasing to come back the next, day ESPECIALLY sitting next to the people. I just kept quiet and didn't do anything. On halloween, I am so scared of the people coming and trick or treating that I go to my room, and shut the door, and read a book, too. I am just really embarassed to do this! Is there anyone who can give me suggeastions on what to do, and what this could be?

ps. Its not a disorder,...Im not a nut............I went to a doctor and therapist..........they just said extreme shyness...........what do u think.....?

ps. Its not a disorder,...Im not a nut............I went to a doctor and therapist..........they just said extreme shyness...........what do u think.....?

Answer 1

u feel that all people dont like u , that is why u try to hide from them to avoide they looking and hating to u
u think people hate u and u feel sometimes that they may hurm u
u didnt used to talk to many people when u were young may be its a problem of ur parents may be they made u avoide talking to anyone , or its ur problems because u had bad experience with some people made u hate to be with anyone
and u want to be alone all the time

Answer 2

Agoraphobia
(From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia)

Agoraphobia is an anxiety disorder which primarily consists of the fear of experiencing a difficult or embarrassing situation from which the sufferer cannot escape.

Agoraphobics may experience severe panic attacks in situations where they feel trapped, insecure, out of control, or too far from their personal comfort zone. In severe cases, an agoraphobic may be confined not only to their home, but to one or two rooms, and they may even become bed-bound, or a recluse.

Agoraphobics are often extremely sensitized to their own bodily sensations, subconsciously over-reacting to perfectly normal events. For example, the exertion involved in climbing a flight of stairs may trigger a full-blown panic attack, because it increases the heartbeat and breathing rate, which the agoraphobic interprets as the start of a panic attack instead of a normal fluctuation.

I'm borderline - I don't do well in large gatherings even if everyone there is family. I'm surprized your therapst didn't mention it. Perhaps you should try a new one as a consult. No, you are not a nut but further therapy could improve your chances of conquering this condition which in the future could grow into something that will keep you from living a normal life.

Once you graduate you will one day be on your own & won't have the luxury of hiding in the background. Besides, I know you want to go out there & have fun, too. Good luck to you...

Answer 3

Despite what you may have been told, it sounds very much like you have something called Social Anxiety Disorder. And despite the name it doesn't mean you are basically "disordered" - it just means you have more of a challenge than most people do when it comes to dealing with other people, especially strangers. I think you should get a second opinion from a counselor and ask them if they can screen you for Social Anxiety Disorder. Then you can start to get better with counseling, medication, or behavior therapy. Good luck!!

Here's a great site for more info and help:

Answer 4

sounds like u have been misdiagnosed. though it is definitely a fear, if it is this strong to interfere with daily life, then gone untreated this "fear" has turned into a disorder honey. And just because u have a disorder , it does not mean u r a nut. For the record if people were not born with a disorder, and do not eventually acquire one throughout life today, then they must be uncaring, shallow, close minded, individuals. Don't think becuz u have to speak with a therapist that u r wierd. If more people would accept and understand "repression" and not be so quick to judge "depression" we might have a better world on our hands.

Answer 5

dear extremely needing for reassuring....

You're not sick nor mad!!!! Don't worry.... you just need to stay in your own limits I.e. in the universe as you know it and as you builded it up around you and you're afraid of changes.
If you really want to meet new people, you'd rather do it in a sheltered vironment like a music class or an art class, when you share an activity, you have time to discover people while sharing a common interest and little by little you can know them better and find real friends to share with!!!!!
You don't have to change yourself, just accept the way you are and deal with!!!!! People talking a lot and "showing off" don't always have a lot to tell..... Think that with just a few real friends you can share a lot with are a much better value than a loose attitude towards all the neighbourhood!!!!!

I wish all the best

Answer 6

Wow. I can totally relate! I'm afraid of phones, people I don't know, unexpectedly seeing people I do know. It's like I'm always trying to find an excuse to not go to a party, etc.

I've been trying to deal with it on my own. Calling family members on the phone, and answering when they call me. Finding a distraction - such as tapping a foot, making a fist - to keep myself from running away from people.

And if it's too much to be friendly around strangers, then don't be! Just don't make eye contact, pretend they don't exist.

Good Luck. You're not alone. This is a problem, but it is something you can work out - just give yourself time.

Answer 7

I think it is a psychological thing. You need to learn why you are like this. It is possible that a certain situation happened in your childhood that triggers this effect. I used to be like that too when I was in Grade 1 to Grade 3. I remember just crying suddenly without any apparent reason. All I remember is that I didn't want to go to school because I felt alone with strangers whom I don't know. All of that vanished though when I started having friends. So, my suggestion to you is to immerse yourself to people. Make a lot of friends and just communicate with other people. You don't have to be scared of them. Good luck.

Answer 8

First off, ignore all the smart alecks here insulting you. They think they're funny, but they're really just pathetic in their need for negative attention.
I have a friend who has suffered from this condition for years. He's on medication and in counseling, which has helped somewhat, but what has really made a difference is "role-play" therapy. That is, when he goes out into a social situation that makes him uncomfortable, he pretends to be someone else. He projects a more confident version of himself, actually. Then once he gets through the situation, and can usually proceed next time as his normal, shyer self.

Answer 9

People with this type of disorder usually come from a divorced family with unusual issues, and are often the older of the siblings.

Recent deaths and complicated sexual issues are also a potential cause. If you're able continue therapy and consider getting a small pet. and start a diary.

Answer 10

I say extreme shyness too. Because i used to be that way, though not Quite so extreme. Well, if i were you i would hold my head up high and purposely put yourself in situations where you have to talk to people.its not as bad as you think---really its not.start off with the pizza guy you know say a few words then chat up the lunchlady at school or your neighboor for a minute then move on to someone you dont know at school. it will get easier as you get older i promise, because when you get a job its simply unavoidable.good luck

Answer 11

I can't imagine what life must be like for you! I don't have any answers, only a suggestion:

Try to get yourself out into public more and make it a 'rule' that you have to speak to one new person every day. For example, if you are in the grocery store, go up to an elderly person and ask an appropriate question. They will love the attention and you, my friend, will find it less and less intimidating to speak to people!

I wish you well - Happy New Year!