Could they be just friends? Is it possible. ?
2007-01-02 07:19:02 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
how can i confront him about this situation? I know how to view his call log so really I can't say hey I saw it online what should I do?
2007-01-02 07:31:28 · update #1
she left a message on his Voice mail just saying I am returning your call they didn't talk long nor do they ever talk long plus he talk to her for about a min on new years eve as well.... I am so confused what should I do?
2007-01-02 07:33:59 · update #2
thanks killer legs
2007-01-03 02:26:18 · update #3
If I had a boyfriend who did such a thing, he would definitely would be called ex-boyfriend. I do not allow anyone to treat me any less than I think I deserve and I definitely think I am an important and special individual. I think everyone should think more of themselves which would allow them to have enough strength mentally to say, "I will not be treated that way". I can not say he is cheating and I can not say he is not cheating, but I think if he had enough respect for you that he should have sat you down from the beginning and let you know that he and his ex will still be friends and will continue to communicate and let you decide for yourself if you want to live with such a situation. It does not matter how you found out, but it does matter that he is doing that and you are not feeling comfortable with the idea of it. Talk to him about it and if he loves you, he will respect how you are feeling and he will stop. If he starts shouting and carrying on, it is most likely because he is doing something he is not suppose to do and is guilty about it. Don't worry about what he thinks about how you found out because you wouldn't have to find out anything if he was not doing anything. If he says he is not cheating, why would he feel the need to call her at that time of the morning and why didn't he bring it out in the open or make the call when you are there so he can reassure you that he is not cheating. You need to make boundaries for your life. You need to take the time to figure out what you want and how you want to be treated and once you set those boundaris, under no circumstances do you let anyone go beyond your boundaries. You must be more important to yourself than to others. If you choose to talk to him about it, which would be the best thing and something goes wrong, don't feel badly because the further into the relationship you are and the worse the situation gets, it will hurt more. Good luck and God bless you. You sound like a very beautiful person on the inside. You deserve better.
2007-01-02 08:21:23 · answer #1 · answered by killerlegs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That really depends on the situation. I have called male friends and ex boyfriends at all hours of the night, whether it's to let them know that I made it safely to my location (especially if I've been drinking) or if I am feeling depressed while my boyfriend's been deployed or at a school or something. Not one time was a phone call the result of an affair. HOWEVER: if he's calling at 2 am and it's lasting for hours on end? I would not fault you for being suspicious. Ask him about it, but give him the benefit of the doubt unless he's given you other concrete proof that he's a cheater. Remember, he and his ex broke up for a reason, and he CHOOSES to be with you. Relax, and try to view the whole thing with a clear mind. Good luck!
2007-01-02 07:27:01 · answer #2 · answered by Liz Z 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a girl who has been cheated on by a serious boyfriend, let me tell you to NEVER put your guard down. You don't just casually call an ex, especially if you are with someone else. He shouldn't even be friends with her out of respect for YOU. You should be his main focus and he should never do anything that would make you feel uncomfortable, like calling his ex. Talk to your guy about this but I think I would be on the lookout. Sorry to be so pessimistic but I've been there. Talk to him and be on the lookout but don't keep asking him about it unless he keeps it up. If you say "Baby, I don't like the idea of you call Uglyface. Why are you doing that?" Listen to his answer and see what he says. Ask him to stop calling her. If he does, then good. If not, I think I would move on. Good Luck!
2007-01-02 07:25:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would it be at 2am first off...and yes it could be leading up to cheating if it isn't already. There is no reason for him to be calling her period...she is an ex...how would he feel if you were to do that?
I would ask him why he feels the need to call her...if he isn't over her then why is he bringing you into his mess...that isn't fair to you at all...listen to the song by hinder Lips of an Angel....play it for him!
Just tell him you are having some strange vibes and can't explain them but really need to talk to him about the situation because it is really getting to you...make sure you seem like it is you...it will help him not be so defensive and he may open up more to you...
2007-01-02 07:22:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no I wouldn't think cheating right away but maybe thoughts of it. Friends dont talk at 2am...so he could be having thoughts of his ex again. I would confront of him about it. Friends talk on the phone during the day. I consider anything after 10pm more then friends esp. if there is alcohol involved.
2007-01-02 07:23:36 · answer #5 · answered by Sam s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very possible. One should never assume anythin without the facts. Don't assume it makes an @$$ out of u and me.
2007-01-02 07:29:09 · answer #6 · answered by just wants to know 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd assume he's cheating. Anything past 11 is a booty call.
2007-01-02 07:22:08 · answer #7 · answered by bowlingcap 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nah but you know they could just be friends plus why would he call her right in front of you anyways unless he wanted you to get mad so i would not worry about it
2007-01-02 07:23:49 · answer #8 · answered by meacai10 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldnt jump to conclusions but at the same time be wise some guys will trick you, ask him about it then based on his response you will know what to do
2007-01-02 07:37:58 · answer #9 · answered by answers 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They could be just friends, though it is inappropriate for him to be calling her so late. talk to him about it.
2007-01-02 07:22:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋