Hello, I am a 23 year old male. I've had like 5 girlfriends in my life, lost my virginity at 13 years old, and lived with a chick for about 6 months, ending about a year ago.
When I go out, I am fairly good at attracting the opposite sex, usually ending up in getting phone numbers, sometimes making out. However I get their numbers, and I don't ever feel like calling them. I go to the club or bars or something every friday and saturday, and chill on sundays, but it takes a major effort on my part to ever call these girls, and I don't really feel like asking them out. What is it? I don't think I'm scared or anything. I just never feel a connection or whatever... Now its been about six months and I haven't got no *** in a while, but I don't really sweat it... Is there something wrong with me? opinions please..
2007-01-02 07:13:36 · 13 answers · asked by maneone22 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't listen to these people..
You are growing up, you are figuring out what you are looking for and you aren't finding it in the bars...
You aren't willing to settle anymore just for a piece of a$$...
I say GOOD FOR YOU!!!
When you find the right girl, the one who you really connect with, then it will be right, and you'll be fine, no worries.
It's called maturing, and unfortunately a lot of men never do because they are just so focused on the physical... You woman will appreciate you loving her for who she is, not just the sex!
2007-01-02 07:20:57 · answer #1 · answered by my-kids-mom 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, I am a girl, but I went through the same thing. I had guys all over me for a long period, and I just wasnt interested. A lot of the guys seemed really great and sweet, but nothing ever clicked. Then finally, one day I met someone and I haven't wanted to be away from him since. He's the greatest and we have such a strong connection. I never thought I would be able to settle down with one person, but with him it's like second nature.
I know what you mean though. I met so many guys who would have given me the world. Attractive, rich, smart, everything. But if the whole attraction isn't there, there is nothing you can do about it. Just enjoy your time alone, and enjoy meeting new people. There is nothing wrong with you. I am 22 so we are pretty close in age also.
2007-01-02 15:18:08 · answer #2 · answered by misscongeniality711 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One would assume that if you were gay you would have figured it out by now. So, if guys don't turn you on either you may be asexual. Which is no big deal as long as you have a large circle of friends you can hang with and no one is determined to find you a girlfriend. I would recommend you have a check up and a frank talk with your doctor, just to make sure there are no physical reasons for your low (zero) libido.
2007-01-02 15:22:49 · answer #3 · answered by hoosiergal0946 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's ok if you want to take a break from dating. Soul search. What are you really looking for out of life? Why don't you focus your energy on something else. Maybe that seen is boring to you now. Do you think something is "wrong" with you? So find out what you want out of life (outside of a relationship). Our inner happiness, and peace of mind should not be wrapped around dating, and having a mate. That is something that compliments your life. Adds to the happiness that should be all ready there. It is an accent.
2007-01-02 15:21:12 · answer #4 · answered by Ms. T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think so. I think that guys know what they want and they aren't going to go out of their way to find it. There is nothing wrong with you at all. I think that when you do find a girl that is worth your time and effort you will make that effort. Its not about the physical stuff..its about you just not finding what you are looking for or maybe even you aren't looking so there really is no point in making the effort with someone you don't care for.
I wouldn't worry..the right lady will come along and you will be able to give them the effort they deserve.
2007-01-02 15:18:05 · answer #5 · answered by Sam s 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No you are just taking a break from having a relationship. You are more into the spur of the moment hanging with friends on weekends but kickin back on your own. Just remember that an empty booty call is just that empty.
2007-01-02 15:16:23 · answer #6 · answered by sweetlaughter434 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Nothing is wrong with you. You simply have not met the girl you will match up with. When you meet her, there will be no sign of doubt.
2007-01-02 15:17:49 · answer #7 · answered by Rosie 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
u just haven't met the one, It's all about chemistry, I use to go on one date and never saw him again, and recently I've met some one, can't stop thinking about him.
2007-01-02 15:19:13 · answer #8 · answered by bad person 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you haven't met the right kind of guy,,,,, I mean girl.
No,,,, I meant guy.
2007-01-02 15:16:22 · answer #9 · answered by Jen 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You have a low libido.
2007-01-02 15:16:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋