My fiance and I believe in God, but we don't have a specific religion. We want to get married in a church, but everyone keeps on turning us away because of that. We don't want an outside wedding (October wedding, it will be too cold) and we don't have much money to rent a place. What can we do?
2007-01-02 06:55:18 · 14 answers · asked by hevs55 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Have you considered having it somewhere else? There are hotels, farm, beach, winery, garden, home, museum, event he venue where you're having the reception (which is becoming popular)
Then find an officiant, such as myself, that is a nondenominational minister that will perform the ceremony for you. You can ask God's blessing on your marriage without belonging to a church. I also do civil ceremonies & interfaith as well.
I know this is frustrating. If you HAVE to have your wedding in a church then keep looking.
2007-01-02 08:57:14 · answer #1 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I are two separate religions so I understand where you are coming from. We had two weddings - one with my religion, one with hers.
Try this. Is there a place were you live that has a special meaning to the both of you where you could be married by a justice of the peace?
A friend of ours got married at city hall but it looked like a castle on the outside - I know you don't want an outdoor wedding - but it was great for photos!
Try historical places - my wife's sister got married at the Mary Washington House in Va. for $100 and the workers were dressed in historical costume.
Restaurants like maybe the one you first went out to dinner at may accommodate you and then you can have your meal there as well.
A friend or family members home can even work if set up correctly.
Give your creative side a little kick. You may be surprised with what you come up with.
2007-01-02 15:15:41 · answer #2 · answered by MB 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I went through the same thing. We were both believers - but turned away from church after church because we weren't members of that church. It really made me start to question religion in general when pastor after pastor gave us the same story. Since we lived in a university town at the time, we found a nice little non-denominational chapel on campus and were married by the college chaplain. You might look around your community and area to find out what non-denominational chapels might be available. It really does make you wonder where priorities have gone when churches preach that marriage is sacred - yet make it difficult for a young couple to "do the right thing."
Also sad was that one large church in our community suggested we could use their church if we were willing to make a "substantial donation" to the building fund!
2007-01-02 15:05:12 · answer #3 · answered by arkiemom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check out some Chapels...they have the Church atmosphere without a specific religion requirement.
you are getting turned away b/c a church normally requires that you are a member of the church and that you go through their pre-marriage counseling before you can have a wedding take place.
2007-01-02 15:05:44 · answer #4 · answered by Get_R_Done_n_Dallas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am getting married this Saturday, and we had the same problem. I suggest calling churches that are "friends churches" Like" ____ church of friends". Avoid calling churched that have a denominational name like methodist, baptist, catholic etc. Just keep calling and asking if they perform weddings for non-members. We went through the same thing and it is basically just a trial and error. If that doesnt work, try calling a justice of the peace. They can perform the ceremony and most of them can reccomend places within your budget.
2007-01-02 15:02:40 · answer #5 · answered by Nu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you get married at The Church of What's Happening Now! or St. Mattress... Seriously... Find a non-demoninational church or chapel that is suitable. There are many out there.
Good Luck!
2007-01-02 15:19:22 · answer #6 · answered by Brown Eyed Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go to city hall. People have weddings in churches because of their beliefs, and they usually belong to a certain parish or congregation. People don't just "choose" to get married in a church "just because"! That would make a mockery out of the holiness of the ceremony!
2007-01-02 16:36:07 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are very smart and rare.
find a non 501c3 church. They are the ones that aren't beholden to this government. They will marry you with Gods blessings that people did before the government got involved.
2007-01-02 15:02:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to a Unity church - it is open to all religions and beliefs. They will do your wedding.
2007-01-02 15:12:35 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they turn you away because youare not that religion, and to get married in a church to save money is pretty low.....Find a chapel, and get married by a judge
2007-01-02 15:04:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋