My boyfriend told me at the last minute that he had to go home and take care of family issues during the New Year. I had made plans for us, but figured that his family is more important. He left on Friday and sent me a text message early Saturday morning to let me know he made it. He sent me one other text messages, and I didn't hear from him again (by phone) until today. I even sent him three txt messages and called four times since Friday. He tells me that they have bad signals out where he is, but I feel like that shouldn't matter he could have bought a phone card before he left just so he could have said Happy New Years to me or kept in contact. And when he tells me he went out New Years Eve I get more upset, why couldn't he call before he went out or when he got in? So, besides spending New Years alone, I didn't hear from him either. He finally called today, but right now I don't feel like talking to him or even hearing his excuses. Am I overreacting? Should I listen?
2007-01-02 06:50:54 · 14 answers · asked by Y.a.S.L 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Last year I was deployed. We didn't get to spend any of the holidays together. I was really looking forward to ringing in the new year this time. He didn't tell me what the "issues" are and that's kinda bothering me too. We've been together for about 2yrs now and it's like he's still got "secrets."
2007-01-02 07:31:04 · update #1
Last year he was with family and I called like a hundred times and didn't hear from him then either... here we go again I said to myself. Naw, never met the family spoke to him Mother a few times, but never came face to face. Not really sure what to think.
2007-01-02 07:33:46 · update #2
i hate to be the one to tell you this, but it's hard as hell to call your gf when you're out with another girl...he said he had family problems, but it sounds like he only had a problem with being with you...i would never let my gf go that long without hearing from me, even if i was in jail...he really has a lot to learn...i think you should start teaching him...
2007-01-02 07:02:54 · answer #1 · answered by bravo95165 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't know what the "family issues" are, you don't know what he could be going through. I definately suggest hearing him out, ask him if everything is alright.
Don't think too much of it, it's only been a couple of days. Hope you get everything straightened out.
2007-01-02 06:56:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be pissed. Especially if he went out New Years Eve. If my GF did that I would be pretty angry. At the every least he could have wished u a Happy New Year.
2007-01-02 06:54:28 · answer #3 · answered by detfan12_2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His behavior is somewhat unreasonable. Has he acted this way before? You have a right to be upset. If this is/was a one time event then maybe you can let it go. If not, then it's time to look elsewhere for a new BF.
2007-01-02 06:59:09 · answer #4 · answered by Always Cuious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U should be pissed. Have u guys spent new years together before? who did he kiss @ midnight...hmmm? I would not call for a while...see if u can find out what he is really up to, tell him how u feel and see what he says.
2007-01-02 06:56:01 · answer #5 · answered by sublimeguy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always listen but he should understand why you are upset. No one likes spending new years home alone. Tell him how you felt and let him make it up to you.
2007-01-02 06:54:12 · answer #6 · answered by sweetlaughter434 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How far away is he from you? What is the phone number of the family? Have you met the family he is visiting? I would think of those and then go from there.
2007-01-02 06:57:34 · answer #7 · answered by Sassy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should listen. Maybe he was telling the truth. You won't know until you listen to what he has to say. You know some guys don't think, they just react. Give him a chance.
2007-01-02 07:05:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG....My boyfriend is doing the same thing to me...Girl i've been with this guy for almost five years and he started doing that stuff to me for the last 2 years. My opinion would be don't trip for now hear wut he has to say...But let him know that wut he did wasn't rite. From my own experience once they start with this bullshit that hes pulling with you it doesnt stop... is this the first time hes done this to you?
For some reason guys think its ok to be an ***.........
2007-01-02 07:01:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't fall for it !! something similar happened to me for new years.. I ended up home alone.. while he went out.
2007-01-02 06:57:23 · answer #10 · answered by Lavender 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋