Getting married for the second time....Want a ring that I saw at the local jewelers. It is around $800.00. Well, the thing is...my first time around I had a yellow gold set. This one is white gold and I love it! So, should I just buy it and say "this is what I want. Here, make sure you don't loose it before the big day!" I was thinking just to have this one ring that is 3 stoned. Do you think it would hurt his feelings. We actually came to a mutual agreement to get married...it wasn't a big knee proposal thingy. We just don't want to make a big deal of things. Is this all wrong? Second ? 4 u......The wedding is going to be beside a waterfall....What would you wear? I was thinking maybe a short tea length informal wedding dress...something spunky...nothing with a train & what not. Help me......any advice would be great!
2007-01-02 06:49:48 · 12 answers · asked by T&E 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
well, I would go and show him but I am too shy to do that. I just don't want to leave this up to him...I mean, maybe the ring he gets isn't what I want...I would never have the heart to tell him.....
2007-01-02 06:57:17 · update #1
Talk to the jewelry store, most likely they would be willing to send you fiance a card that says you were in and saw a ring that you loved. I'm sure your fiance would be thrilled to know that he can surprise you and still get you exactly what you want! Good Luck!
2007-01-02 07:06:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think the best thing to do in this situation is to go buy the ring together. Just take him to the store where you saw the ring, and get it. Maybe go out to a restaurant afterwards, make it a nice outing. My husband and I never did the "proposal"; we decided we were going to get married, and then later went out and found a ring I liked which we got. It was never a big deal, and the ring was blue topaz (my favorite stone) - I've wanted a blue topaz ring for a while, so we bought it as an "engagement" ring.
As far as the wedding goes - just wear whatever you think will look good on you. Doesn't matter how "formal" or "informal" it is - what matters is how flattering it is. Try to bring out the best in your figure; accentuate your best features.
2007-01-02 15:02:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you should not. Not if you want this marriage to be better than the last one! It is totally selfish of you to think that way; let him choose the ring and give it to you. Actually, by thinking of it, you ARE making a big deal of things, contrary to what you said in your explanation. If there is a particular kind of ring you want, buy it yourself, but not as an engagement ring.
For the informal wedding, yes to an informal dress - tea length would be great. I think the word you are looking for is "funky" - maybe something with a handkerchief hem... in a jewel-tone colour...
2007-01-02 16:40:08 · answer #3 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that Jewlgirl is right, the store would probably more than willing to send you fiance a card saying you were in and found something you really liked. It would be in there best interest as it could make them a sale.
I also think that it would give you an out so to speak as you wouldn't have to tell him that this is the ring that you wanted yourself and you wouldn't have to buy it and risk hurting his feelings.
However, I also think that if the store does this and he goes in and looks at it and decides on something else you should accept that ring without any qualms as it is a token of his love to you. You can always go and buy the ring you like at a later date if the mood still strikes you.
2007-01-02 15:44:37 · answer #4 · answered by freyja5683 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A woman shouldn't buy her own ring. A woman should be satisfied with whatever ring the man she chose marry gives her.
On the chance that he is completely daft and may have overlooked this detail...have one of your girlfriends ask if he wants help shopping for the ring. She can let him know what you want.
2nd part: If I was getting married by a waterfall, I would wear a long, strapless white slip dress. The long length will give you a youthful, innocent look and create an aura of woodland fantasy.
2007-01-02 14:56:22 · answer #5 · answered by limendoz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't buy the ring, show him the ring and tell him that's what you're looking for. I know my fiancee would be hurt if I just bought my own wedding band.
I think the tea length informal wedding dress sounds perfect!!!
2007-01-02 14:55:46 · answer #6 · answered by AmyB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say if it was a mutual thing to get married, the ring should be a mutual decision as well, maybe take him with you and go shopping together, say, hey, I really like this one.....
as far as what to wear, I like the shorter idea, nothing with a train, for sure!
GOOD luck!! Congrats - and have fun with this! :-)
2007-01-02 14:53:36 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow the waterfall sounds great the dress sounds great. I think you need to take him down show him the ring and tell him that is what you want. I realize this might not be your first rodeo but there is somethings that you just don't do.
2007-01-02 14:53:31 · answer #8 · answered by blueblossom33 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why can't you just tell him it is the ring you want him to buy? I know you may have come to a mutual "decision" to get married, but... Isn't he still going to buy you a wedding ring? Just curious.
2007-01-02 14:53:08 · answer #9 · answered by KSmom24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st thing: if it is that casual, then check the policy of the store and see if it is exchangable or returnable. wasting money on two rings is rediculous.
2. i would say a regular length dress that doesnt poof out. simmilar to the one this girl is wearing:
http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/thumb/e/ed/Wedding.dress.arp.500pix.jpg/200px-Wedding.dress.arp.500pix.jpg
2007-01-02 14:54:44 · answer #10 · answered by kt! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋