Okay, I have this long distance relationship with this young stud who lives in California. We have been very active on the phone and even making plans on me going over there and meeting him. There is one big problem - the guy that I live here with doesn't want to go anywhere (we have been fighting for the last 4 months and I have been telling him it's over and that I want my freedom; he doesn't listen) so the other guy on the phone gets discouraged and lately he has been giving me the cold shoulder, he doesn't text message anymore as often as he used to and he doesn't call me as much as he used to either. His conversations sound boring and he seems to be bored to death by what I have to tell him. He hasn't even brought up the subject of me going to meet him again. I have already told him to forget about me and find someone else maybe even on the chat where he has many friends. He is also younger and he is a very happy person. Should I just stop trying to get a hold of him?
2007-01-02 06:44:19 · 15 answers · asked by Ladyinred 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
long distance relationships where you didn't know the person before hand is weird
2007-01-02 06:48:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to make up your mind, if you want a fresh start, trim all the fat get rid of your old boyfriend, and see what happen in The Golden State, but you have to take risks, maybe won't work out with the California guy and you already kicked the other guy, then go for plan B, move on and find someone else
2007-01-02 06:50:44 · answer #2 · answered by elcabula2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess time passed me by. I live in California which admittedly is quite liberal, but if I am that guy, I would not countenance a BF tagging along when you come see me. Maybe I am threading in strange waters here, but off hand I'd say drop him...he already dropped, albeit gently.
2007-01-02 06:57:04 · answer #3 · answered by McDreamy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah.. dump his butt. he was only excited to talk to u cuz he thought u were gonna come visit and give him some!!! now that u can't come over, he's giving u the cold shoulder?
yeah all he wanted is One THING and that is to get laid. please have some respect for urself, leave ur punk, stop talking to "studs" in differnt states and let the guy chase you. that's the one u should hold on to and work on a relationship with, not someone who watns U to come over to Him.
2007-01-02 06:49:13 · answer #4 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey.....if you like the guy in cali....then leave the guy you living with now and go by yourself to see the cali guy. Why would you expect the guy you staying with, to act any different. You seem to be playing the guy in cali and he can see all thru you. You are acting like queen bee or something or Paris Hilton. Stop all this drama!!
2007-01-02 06:52:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationship is too hard...just give up if you don't 100% love him...If you do love him and he still love you, find a way to live together...Good luck because rent in Cali is high...I live in Cali...hate the rent...
2007-01-02 06:48:47 · answer #6 · answered by PS3 Fanatic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships RARELY work...you need to be able to see someone in person to really be able to make a relationship work.
2007-01-02 06:46:59 · answer #7 · answered by jeepguy_2x 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nah, i would wait it out. if he really likes you, he would contact you or at least make an effort, He is also trying to get over you because there are obviously still problems with your ex, and he doesnt want to get in the middle of it. he likes you, but is backing off. i would show him you care about him by visiting him and ignoring your ex.
2007-01-02 06:49:33 · answer #8 · answered by kt! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, he has to know you are serious. Dump your current bf if you are not happy with him and tell your friend. Maybe he'll see that you are serious and he'll warm up again.
2007-01-02 06:48:59 · answer #9 · answered by Arty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, until you get rid of your live-in. its not fair for that guy because he's probably unsure of the relationship you still have with the guy you're living with.
2007-01-02 06:47:21 · answer #10 · answered by *KiM* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋