My boyfriend already wants sex and I don't because it's against what I believe. I bought a True Love Waits ring (that means I won't have sex until I'm married) and he knows that. We haven't been talking about it recently, which is good, but he's bound to ask about it soon. What should I do?
2007-01-02 06:42:47 · 23 answers · asked by Mikki 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should never compromise a belief like that! You stay true to yourself and keep the promise you have made to yourself.
One day a man who truly loves you will value the choice you made and appreciate it for what it is really worth. And will be proud of you for not just giving in to just anyone.
If your boyfriend doesn't understand, then he really doesn't care about things that matter to you most!
"To thine own-self be true..." There's something to that quote.
2007-01-02 06:55:08 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should respect your decision to wait until you are married. Sex is a bonus in any relationship. There are so many other things you can do as a couple. Hugging, holding, touching, kissing etc... I think that even if he does bring it up you need to stress to him your morals and beliefs about sex before marriage. Now days it seems like sex is not that special to some people but it actually brings you to a more intimate level, especially when it is in a loving relationship. If he pushes the issue or won't respect your decision to wait then let him go...the right one is out there for you.
2007-01-02 06:47:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Realistically I think you should "try on" sex before you marry anyone. Get a taste and learn to know what you like. Experience is a part of life and you won't know the difference if you don't experience sex. Believe me, it is an important part of marriage. The two things that fail a marriage is sex and money. In my opinion sex should be the easy part of making a marriage work. But it has to be with "the one" and once you have had sex with a few (protection) and get to know what you like, you will learn part of what makes a loving relationship work.
2007-01-02 06:52:09 · answer #3 · answered by Maggie 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
how refreshing to see there are still girls with morals, (seems kinda old fashioned in this day and age)
be true to yourself and i hope you don't get pressured into having sex until you are sure
ps-gives me hope somewhere out there is a woman for me as i have only been with one woman and am now 47 looking for my second lover
pss-you could always tell him that sex is like euchre... if you have a good hand you can go alone
2007-01-02 06:54:34 · answer #4 · answered by just my answer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him straight forward "I will NOT have sex until I am ready and married". If he still pressures you into having sex then he's not good for you. Find someone else that will respect your wishes. Good Luck!
2007-01-02 06:47:16 · answer #5 · answered by MARJ213 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just make sure you make it clear to him again that you dont want it till your married. Thats good that he's respecting you. Once he stops respecting you though and starts to be pushy you might want to leave him and find a guy that doesn't mind at all waiting.
2007-01-02 06:45:51 · answer #6 · answered by Heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to do what makes you happy. If the person you are with love you and cares about you than he will respect what you believe in and wait if not than find someone than find someone who will.
2007-01-02 06:48:23 · answer #7 · answered by SexyR 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep it real. If all he wants is sex, then the best thing to do is let him go. If he cares for you, he must wait if he wants to be with you. Don't give up your views for him. Not worth it
2007-01-02 06:54:15 · answer #8 · answered by Nate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he brings up the subject in the future just keep telling him you aren't going to have sex before you're ready. Stick to what you believe in, if you don't you'll feel horrible afterwards. If he continues to pressure you, dump him.
2007-01-02 06:46:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt do it because i believe the same thing you do. If i was in the same thing you are now i would talk to him about it and if he still presures you then i want break up with him because thats just showing that he doesnt have any respect for you.
2007-01-02 06:46:17 · answer #10 · answered by Brooke H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋