there's this guy that I used to work with. he was always flirting with me and touching me and playing with my hair and staring at me, etc., but I don't know if he likes me. I still keep in touch with him, and we have sex together, but the only problem is, it is hard getting in touch with him sometimes. he usually doesn't answer his phone, and he calls me sometimes, and says he wants to come see me, and that he's on his way, but usually never shows up! i saw him on new years eve, and we were about to have sex, but then i started my period so he took me home and told me he'll see me in a few days and for me to call him when i can "come out and play." what does this mean? if i'm just a booty call, why was he always flirting with, and staring at me? i really like him-what should i do?
2007-01-02 06:31:35 · 32 answers · asked by Yvette S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're just a booty call. He wants to see you again when you're not on you're period. He doesn't really like you, but can have sex with you without a whole lot of effort, which is why he pays so much attention to you.
Read your question again, then think about it. You flirted with him, allowed him to touch you and you have sex. He's hard to get in touch with and calls you SOMETIMES.
Does this sound like a guy who really likes you? No, it sounds like a guy who has found a girl he can nail anytime. When you come down with an STD or unplanned pregnancy, you can be he won't be around.
Love yourself more. Just because you can have sex doesn't mean that you should. It's alright to say "No." In fact, try it a few times and see how empowering "No" can be.
2007-01-02 06:40:25 · answer #1 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't take this wrong but I think having sec with someone when your not sure about them isn't the best idea for you.
I have met a few girls that seem to think they can work out whether a fella likes them or not by having sex with them. Your setting yourself up to get hurt i'm afraid.
It is possible he likes you but has something else going on and can't work out what to do. Or you are a bit on the side and he is stringing you along and using you. In all truth neither is indicatibe of a decent guy. I have seen this before he will stick with whoever lets him get away with it if you know what I mean.
You can do better as you sound like a decent girl, maybe you should get to know potential partners a bit better before hoping into the sack?
2007-01-02 06:40:22 · answer #2 · answered by Bohdisatva 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You were just a booty-call."They" try to make the women their with feek special and wanted and the women often call it flirting and get t heir hopes up for a potential relationship but in my opinion, it will never work out. It will be based on sex and when you get your period or get tired of having sex, then he'll just find some other woman to satisfy his "needs". I think you might have fallen for a player. If he is having sex with other women then i would suggest you think about the next time he "wants" you beacause of the STD concept. :) wish you the best
2007-01-02 06:39:11 · answer #3 · answered by Mz.C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like to me that he is using you for the sex. If he cared about you he would not tell you he was coming and not show up. And the fact that he wanted you to call when you could "come out and play" also makes it sounds like he only wants the sex. Maybe ask him what you are to him. Otherwise, I would say drop him. You deserve someone who cares about you as a person.
2007-01-02 06:37:08 · answer #4 · answered by Molly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm giong to be very harsh, but are u stupid!!!
(sorry) but it is quite clear that u ARE a booty call.
this guy is only in to playing games with u and u are falling for it every time. it time for u to be a little more wiser.
now for that flirting thing it is just a little thing to get the ball rolling and so he can get in to ur pants.
i know u real like him but Rem. bueaty is not just skin deep.
look into the soul. move on and be safe and wise.
2007-01-02 06:42:15 · answer #5 · answered by Lexie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but I think he probably likes you if you fricken have sex.... is that the only reason you posted this? oh well, but ya... he likes you!!! I mean if he flirts with you and **** to get in your pants, then give up on him. I used to like a guy, but he was a total asswipe, so i just got over him. If he really does care and you talk to him, he'll understand. :)
2007-01-02 06:37:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you have to ask then he probably does not l ike you, you need to move on and you are a booty call, the reason he flirts with you is to keep that booty call in his phone
2007-01-02 06:34:07 · answer #7 · answered by Richard S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He likes you most definately...but not in the committed girlfriend boy friend kind of way...this sounds more like a booty call to me
2007-01-02 06:35:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are just a booty call. That is all. If you want to continue to be that, then that is your decision. However if you don't want that then let go of everything. He isn't relationship material.
2007-01-02 06:34:02 · answer #9 · answered by Stephanie K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok so he do does not want 2 see u ??? well he is pro. using u as a toy call him to do the test tell him u r want 2 "play" and if he say yes he is using u!
2007-01-02 06:35:58 · answer #10 · answered by Nancy M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋