I just found out that I am pregnant (Yay!). Which I am thrilled to no end about. I called my family after I told my husband and he called his. Well his mother has called me everyday since asking how I was feeling and telling me to let her know when I wanted and we could go baby shopping, asking if she could go to doctors visits with me, telling me that she "gets atleast a day a week with the child, that would only be fair", and just being a down right pest.
I know she means well, and it doesn't help that my husband is the oldest of him and his only brother. But I am already tired of her and I hate to be b*thcy, but I want to look forward to this wonderful event without interference of an overly zealous inlaw.
Any suggestions on how I could deal with this without adding unnessisary stress?
2007-01-02 06:25:12 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Have hubby talk to her since it's his mom.
Tell her that you know she is excited, but it's a bit overwhelming and you guys would appreciate it if she's tone it down a notch. Promise that if you need anything at all, she's on your list of people to call for help and advice.
2007-01-02 07:44:26 · answer #1 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Easier said than done huh!! I know what you mean. Of course everyone is excited but her pushing at you like that is only going to overwhelm you and stress you out! Tell her you want to wait to find out what your having first before you buy and thing for the baby, that will give you plenty of time and let her know ahead of time she'll have to wait on that. As for the appointments go take her to at least one appointment on a day where they will only check the heart beat and how well the fetus is growing. Her hearing the heartbeat should keep her satisfied for a while. Other than that be completely honest with her. Tell her it makes you happy to see how much she cares but it's a little stressful besides talking about it all the time only makes everyone more anxious and you still have a while to go. Also if she wants to throw you the baby shower when your about 7 months will make her feel more involved and take a ton of stress off of you. Let her know how you feel but still give her something she can feel apart of.
2007-01-02 06:39:51 · answer #2 · answered by Curious J. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have your husband step in and tell her that you are both happy that she is so thrilled about the pregnancy but that all the phone calls about it - is stressing you out and you should be relaxing for the baby's sake.
You may also want to start a blog where you post when you can about how your feeling and what your going through in the pregnancy so other family members can be a part of it with you but w/out having to contact you daily to see how you are doing.
2007-01-02 06:39:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL at Heinz!
I think that you should just politely tell her that your appointments are a personal thing that you want to go to alone, and that as for having your baby one day by herself, you will breastfeed so you need to stay with your child.
Failing that, you could get an answer machine for your phone and record a message saying, 'sorry I'm resting and can't come to the phone at the moment', or something like it.
Screen her calls. Yes, you might feel guilty for a bit, but you will feel better knowing that you are getting that all important 'me time'
2007-01-02 06:42:17 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a callerID and don't answer the telephone. superb answer. I used to have a style of monster-in-rules. do away with the husband and the monster-in-rules went away. Voila! i do no longer understand why can we would desire to have a mom out regulation. they're extra difficulty than properly worth it. What are you able to do in case you won't be in a position to handle the in regulation? some Christian are the phoniest human beings interior the international.
2016-10-06 08:22:48 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be very happy your child is lucky enough to have a Grandmother alive and well, and willing to be in its life and that loves it so much...my mother passed away 2 years ago so now my daughter has no living grandparent and i would give anything and so would she for the chance for her to be able to spend one day a week with her granny again( but she does have the memories of their great times together).....its a wonderful gift for your child....let her enjoy it!!!!:)
2007-01-02 06:39:48 · answer #6 · answered by sundazchild 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it will wear off i promise....look at it like this at least she is excited. you might want to ask you husband to step in and say something but he has to be careful how he says it bc you want her to feel like she is (some what) welcome to go shopping and to make a doc visit or two. but promise you this that if you and her are not really close you will not want her at all of you visit that will get really uncomfortable. well good luck
2007-01-02 06:31:05 · answer #7 · answered by hhudson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change your phone number :-)
Just kidding. Seriously though just tell her how you feel. If she calls you say "I'm really happy you're so excited, but I don't really have time to sit and chat with you everyday about this" (or maybe think of something better..that was just off the top of my head).
2007-01-02 06:31:31 · answer #8 · answered by CelebrateMeHome 6 · 2⤊ 3⤋
ignore and avoid her as much as possible... u should be stressed at a time like this... read a good book, that always helps me destress...
2007-01-02 06:37:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Send her on a vacation where there are no phones...
2007-01-02 06:27:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋