He stays three hours from me. I don't mind the drive and niether does he. He comes down mostly to be with his family. Every time he has had a black tie affair or party to go to. He'll ask me to get my nails done and take my long hair out of my pony tail. And make sure I shave my legs real good. I end up not going because I feel as if he thinks i might be an ok looking girl if only I changed this or that. Hes a good friend to talk to and caters to me well when I go see him. Sex is great also. The last time we spent a lot of time together I backed up from talking to him, mostly because I was scared of getting into a relationship and he granted my wishes in doing so. We started talking as of two months ago again after his date and my date went on the dance floor with each other without even asking us if it was ok. He told me I just needed to stop acting like one of the guys. FYI most of my friends are males. He talks latley like he has a lot of plans for the way he wants me to be.
2007-01-02 06:24:04 · 14 answers · asked by My two cents 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just tell him he needs to accept you how you are. But theirs nothing wrong with dressing up for special events either, he seems to want you to look your best, and has your best interests in mind. Is their anything wrong with that?
2007-01-02 06:27:40 · answer #1 · answered by cats4ever2k1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now that is a first. Usually it is you girls trying to change us guys. And I mean after the first date. No more chewing or dipping, wanting us to use those funny looking things put on the sides our plates when our hands do just fine. Throwing our luck sweat shirt in the dashing machine before the season is over. Getting rid of our hounds and getting poodles instead.
So I guess turn about is fair play.
2007-01-02 14:34:50 · answer #2 · answered by JUAN FRAN$$$ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't want you for who you are hes a waste of time I too mostly have guy friends and don't like the whole "girly" thing its called being confident with yourself, and happy with who you are and not trying to be someone your not you'll find someone that appreciates everything you are and not try and change you those black tye affairs are stuffy an most of the people are fake anyways
2007-01-02 14:32:26 · answer #3 · answered by undeniable 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow it sounds like you need to communicate your fears and your misgivings to the guy directly. He might not be aware of the control he trying to exert over you. I hope you don't enjoy letting men make your decisions or tell you what to do, its obvious that you are concsious of all of this, but because of your emotions you might not be able to change the situation. Honesty is the best policy and I think you should be direct with him about all facets of this problem and then you might get the answers you are looking for.
2007-01-02 14:29:33 · answer #4 · answered by jim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to be more specific on how he wants you to change. You don't want to get into a relationship where he wants to make you over completely. He's paying for some of your grooming services. Would he change something if you asked him to?Don't end up losing your own identity. Follow your heart as well as your instincts.
2007-01-02 14:57:31 · answer #5 · answered by mskay125 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy has issues and he's looking for a "braclet" to be on his arm. If he can't accept you for who you are or trust your jusdgement on what to wear and how to groom for his black tie affairs, then kiss him goodbye.
2007-01-02 14:28:42 · answer #6 · answered by goodolelady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously he trying to change into what he feels is a gf material u lucky most guys wont do that
2007-01-02 14:28:17 · answer #7 · answered by combs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dislike guys that try to change me too! I'd leave his opinated *** to play puppetmaster for another girl.
2007-01-02 14:36:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a potentially abusive/controlling relationship. If it makes you uncomfortable...LISTEN TO YOURSELF!!!
2007-01-02 14:30:21 · answer #9 · answered by someone's mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him you might like the change.
2007-01-02 14:28:54 · answer #10 · answered by tommy10_18 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋