recently my boy friend told me that he has started taking drugs.i know he takes alcohol occationally.but drug addiction is like a vicious circle you cannot come out of.i got worried and thought its just the begining i better stop him but he did'nt listen to me so i told his elder sister about this that too about 2 weeks ago .yesterday she told everything to uncle(my boyfriends father) uncle told him to get out of the house.at present he is staying with one of his friends..he is not talking to me he thinks i am responsible for all this......i just wanted him to get on the right track as by taking drugs he is killing himself
2007-01-02 06:20:49 · 7 answers · asked by prachi s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
baby girl, you did the right thing. don't worry about how he's thinking of you right now, yeah, he's pisted off. but later, when he's mature enough to realize the good thing you did for him, he'll thank you for it. let him be an as_s for a while, but it's for his own good. and yes, you might lose this relationship, but it's just show what kind of good person you are.
2007-01-02 06:25:25 · answer #1 · answered by harmony 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing. You talked to him and when he wouldn't listen, you sought help. Your boyfriend is responsible for his own mess. Don't even try to justify yourself to him nor feel guilty, you did what you needed to do in his best interest.
People make choices. He chose for drugs and that has consequences which he'll have to accept as part of his choice. He is egotistically centered on himself. Nothing further you can do. Now you have to look after yourself. A person on drugs is an emotional bottomless pit. Don't get dragged into it.
You can't win against drugs. The only way he'll get off it is when he wants to. That is a choice only he can make. Often the only incentive to drop drugs is when the consequences become too much to bear, but even then there's always drugs to make you forget, so it's a vicious circle.
Make sure you are outside that circle.
2007-01-02 06:45:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did the right thing. He just can't see it. You really don't wanna find yourself in a relationship with a drug addict for when they are on the drugs they become a whole new person. So what I suggest is you let him know you were concerned, that you can't love the person he becomes when he takes the drugs...
try listening to Jimmy Eat World's song Drugs or Me (you might relate)
2007-01-02 06:25:31 · answer #3 · answered by toasterlove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I see this is kind of hard for you. I feel that you are trying to do the right thing to save your, but spreading his business is not the way you do that. He trusted you with the information because he knew you would understand. I'm quite sure he knew that no one else would, so I think you put him in a bigger bind than normal. I feel that you didn't mean to cause any chaos and I feel that you are a good person that is trying to help their friend. Try to talk to him and let him no that you are trying to help him out and nothing else.
2007-01-02 07:25:26 · answer #4 · answered by Mesha 3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have u seen General Hospital?
Elizabeth went through the same thing.
She gave him a chance. But he was addicted so she dumped him. I am sure that u don't want a BF who takes drugs.
I say that it is for ur safety.
Save him before anything bad happens if it isn't too serious!
2007-01-02 06:24:28 · answer #5 · answered by Cherry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes its better to put distance on an unhealthy relationship or an unhealthy person. Your boyfriends obviously doesnt care or respect you. He doesnt respect the care that you have for him. He has bigger problems than you probably can handle and he needs professional help. Cut him loose for your own peace of mind.
2007-01-02 06:26:05 · answer #6 · answered by jim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u stupid u would have taken him to a rehab or sumthing why would u let his parents know about?
2007-01-02 06:25:12 · answer #7 · answered by combs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋